Certain segments of Spider-Man fandom annoy me. The first two Spider-Man movies were VERY well received, both being critical successes as well as mainstream pop culture events. For a while those two movies, and Raimi, received almost nothing but praise. But no, the fans couldn't let Raimi tell the story that he had been building up to, even though he had clearly earned that right the way that Nolan has with Batman. The fans clamored for Venom to be stuffed into Spider-Man 3, and the studio granted their wish over Raimi's objections.
Then when the movie turned out subpar and with a scattered plot (something that I, and numerous other people called as soon as Venom was confirmed) these fanboys turned on Raimi. Suddenly Raimi was ALWAYS a hack. Suddenly Raimi, and even Maguire (who had been praised for nailing the role of Peter Parker) "never got" the character. Supposedly Raimi's Spidey never quipped or wisecracked, even though he did. And in the action scenes where he didn't, it was perfectly understandable since his loved ones were in danger more often than not. It wouldn't have fit the circumstances for Spidey to be making light of things, in the middle of a big dramatic scene with Mary Jane's life at stake. BTW, did Webb's Spidey even wisecrack all that much, aside from his confrontation with that one knife-wielding car thief? That one scene that was highlighted in the trailer, to assert that TASM was totally different than Raimi's 2002 movie (it was not, practically being the same movie). Because I don't remember him wisecracking in the bridge scene, or when he was fighting the Lizard with the fate of New York hanging in the balance.
Message boards do not represent the general population, which is less prone to extremes of emotion, and more loyal to past heroes. The most vocal people on a forum aren't even representative of most of the forum members. In general, certain message board fanboys love to complain. Hell, I'm complaining myself right now. It's much more enticing to rant against something online than it is to simply say that you're satisfied with something, which offers less material to write about. I'm already seeing a vocal minority of Nolan detractors complaining about how he's not using Robin, or taking the fantasy out of Batman. I expect these people to get louder several years after TDKR comes out, when every satisfied or normal person has naturally moved on. The people complaining about something years after the fact tend to be the ones with an axe to grind, and an inability to let go.