I'm new to this thread, so I'll try my best to jump right in with a coherent position. I was brought up atheist by my parents, I've always been atheist, and I have been 100% removed from religion my entire life. And I turned out okay. I got straight A's in school, college, got a Bachelor's degree, and I've been with my girlfriend for almost 5 years, and we live together in a house. We're perfectly happy - in fact, it's eerie how well things have been. I have a core group of best friends who I've been best friends with (and loyal to) for many years.
- I don't smoke.
- I drink socially.
- I don't take drugs.
- My girlfriend is the same way on all of these things.
- I believe in pro-choice.
- I believe in equal rights.
- I believe in same-sex marriage.
- I don't belong to any political party, but I tend to swing to the left.
- I believe that war should only occur when it's absolutely necessary.
- I've never broken any laws, gotten any speeding tickets, never been arrested.
- I don't believe in guns or weapons of any kind.
- I believe that family is extremely important, as well as my girlfriend and friends.
- I love to read, and I think it's one of the most important things you can do.
None of these values that I have are thanks to religion. I came to be who I am
on my own. My parents were atheist, but they
never forced anything on me, nor did they try to manipulate me in any way. They were VERY clear when they explained to me that
I was free to come to my own conclusions.
And when they said that I was free to come to my own conclusions, they were very clear when they said (while I was in high school) that:
- I was allowed to drink.
- I was allowed to smoke.
- I was allowed to have sex.
- I was allowed to knock a girl up.
- I was allowed to take drugs.
- I was allowed to shoplift.
- I was allowed to get into fights.
They didn't WANT me to do these things. They loved me with all their heart. They told me that they wanted me to LEARN from my mistakes, so I could become a better person as a result of the bad choices I made.
As a result of these freedoms and this style of parenting,
I never did any of those things, and I still haven't. It was my freedom of choice when it came to my rebellious teenage years, that caused me to NOT be rebellious. In fact, I was a rebel by NOT doing any of those things.
I'm now 24, and I
do have sex with my girlfriend (of 5 years), and we have sex because we are in love. I'm very much in love with her.
And I couldn't have asked for better parents.
Religion, to me, can be
extremely dangerous, and poisonous, if handled the wrong way. If parents try to force or manipulate rules and bible verses on their children at a young age, that is a recipe for disaster. I think most of America's problems can be traced back to religion, and most of our social issues are moral conflicts that are only conflicts because religion has gotten in the way.
I have no clue why christians are so bent-out-of-shape when it comes to gay marriage. WHO CARES what a stupid book says from thousands of years ago?
Why can't two people just be in love? Since when was love EVER a bad thing?
Secondly, why is it that we must all be the same? I swear, christians are about one step away from saying that everybody on Earth should be white.
- Some people have green eyes.
- Some people write with their left hand.
- Some people have brown hair.
- Some people are over 7 feet tall.
- Some people have 6 toes on each foot.
- Some people are GAY.
- None of these things occur by choice. We are who we are.
So why would it make sense to ban people with green eyes from getting married?
Or why would it make sense to ban people with brown hair from getting married?
IT WOULDN'T MAKE SENSE AT ALL.
It wouldn't make sense to tell two left-handed people that their love for each other isn't real.
BUT, because it's written in some
book, it must be enforced.
Well . . . I reject that piece of crap book.
And that book, for all we know, is fictional.
It blows my mind that so much of our world's problems is based on something that is probably fiction. (I say "probably" because I don't even
care if it's real or not. I'd still reject it even it
was real because it's all BS.)