Being single sucks

[BillyZaned]

You can't go around giving people the just because their lifestyle choice doesn't involve having children. There is nothing wrong with that. In essence... the reasons you stated aren't for the benefit of the child... they are purely selfish reasons. You may see the acts you just listed as being selfless... but in the end you had the child because YOU and your partner wanted a child. Not because a child wanted you to have it.

people have children, or should have children because they WANT children... which, in itself is selfish....

taking joy though, in the expereinces for them, in not selfish.... or wanting to share an experience together, is not selfish...

oh, and I'll use all I want... LOL

 

[BillyZaned]

and, in the oppposite sense, would not wanting to have a kid, because you don't want to spend the money, or take away from your life experiences.... selfish too?

you can put that "selfish" word on almost every apsect of having children....

 

[Colossal Spoons]

and, in the oppposite sense, would not wanting to have a kid, because you don't want to spend the money, or take away from your life experiences.... selfish too?

you can put that "selfish" word on almost every apsect of having children....

I do think some of my reasons for not wanting to have children are selfish, but that's ok with me. There are dozens of kids for me to play catch with and do all that other mushy stuff with between my friends and family.

 

[BillyZaned]

I do think some of my reasons for not wanting to have children are selfish, but that's ok with me. There are dozens of kids for me to play catch with and do all that other mushy stuff with between my friends and family.

and that's fine too..... like I said, there are too many cases of people having kids that don't want them.... that;s how we got Ryan Seacrest....

 

[BlackLantern]

and that's fine too..... like I said, there are too many cases of people having kids that don't want them.... that;s how we got Ryan Seacrest....

I thought Seacrest was an alien

 

[BillyZaned]

I thought Seacrest was an alien

half

ever see Villages of the Damned?

 

[BlackLantern]

I have....Christopher Reeve at his finest, haha

 

[Addendum]

well congratulations on knowing that you shouldn't have children.... hoenstly, too many people have them that shouldn't... I've seen so many father's who don't want to be fathers... honestly that's good that you know that now, instead of brining someone into this world, and putting that form of non-interest upon them

I've known that about me ever since I was 5.

 

[The Battousai]

must suck man... I've never had the problem... and being married now... just living the dream...

this weekend, I work Saturday, and came home to a hot meal, and a bottle of wine.... the wife had the little one asleep.. me made love, aftewards, she laid in my arms, and we just talked... very magical...

On saunday, since it was a nice autumn day... we took the little on to a park, and watched him play... we then had a nice lunch, then went to the pumpkin patch, so our son could pick out a pumpkin... we were throwing each other in the the freshly fallen leaves, and later she sat on my lap while we shared some hot apple cider....

we then went home and made dinner together... playfully smearing food on each others face.... we made a fire, and cuddled together untill we both fell asleep...

this morning, I was taking a shower and she suprised me by jumping in...

she's coming up to work this afternoon to bring me lunch...

relationships are awesome... sucks to be you

You're not going to accomplish in this discussion by being a giant *****e other than pissing people off.

I suggest you grow up and set a ****ing example for once.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

You're not going to accomplish in this discussion by being a giant *****e other than pissing people off.

I suggest you grow up and set a ****ing example for once.

Just FYI (since BillyZaned's post was directed at me - I think) I laughed at his post. I didn't get mad at all.

This thread was created out of frustration because of **** that is going on in my life right now, and I cracked and needed to vent.

I'm not emo to the point that I'm in a downward spiral and gonna kill myself over someone making a joke, heh. I laughed at his post.

 

[ComicChick]

i guess i'm the only single chick on the hype cuz i haven't seen any others post in here.

i'm ok with being single right now. I work a ton, and i'm trying to get my life straight, pay some debs off etc. if someone comes along, great, but i'm not really putting myself out there right now.

as for children, i want some someday, but not right now. I'm not mentally, emotionally or financially in a place where children can come into the equation. My mom had 3 by the time she was my age (i'm 24, she was married but still eek), both my sisters had at least one by this age as well. i'm the only one to graduate high school and there's a lot i want to do before i ever settle down, if i ever do

 

[E-Man]

i guess i'm the only single chick on the hype cuz i haven't seen any others post in here.

i'm ok with being single right now. I work a ton, and i'm trying to get my life straight, pay some debs off etc. if someone comes along, great, but i'm not really putting myself out there right now.

as for children, i want some someday, but not right now. I'm not mentally, emotionally or financially in a place where children can come into the equation. My mom had 3 by the time she was my age (i'm 24, she was married but still eek), both my sisters had at least one by this age as well. i'm the only one to graduate high school and there's a lot i want to do before i ever settle down, if i ever do

Since you're the "only single chick" here I'll do my duty and push up on you.....*sits next to CC* So how you doing?

 

[Ahura Mazda]

I have been thinking about children but it is not something which is a priority in my mind rather something which I would like to happen if nature allows it. We are risking it to happen but not artificially enabling conception.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

I definitely don't want to have a kid yet. I'm not in the financial position.

See, I believe in giving your kids the best opportunity to do what they wanna do when they grow up. So if they don't want to work straight away, but go to college or university to get further education I want to be able to help them do that.

But not flat out spoil them rotten. I really cannot tolerate spoilt kids and parents that spoil their kids.

But as soon as I left school I basically had to go straight out to work. ****, I had to sell weed for a little while whilst I was still at school just to have some money. There was no pocket money/allowance in my childhood. My mates would get pocket money and go out at weekends, but I didn't get any of that, so I had to do something about it. I don't want my kids being in that same situation.

But I was lucky enough that my first boss let me do one day a week college to learn brick laying and 4 days at work. But that is very rare.

I want to give my kid some back up. So instead of having to get a dead end job with no career prospects to fund education or whatever, I can provide that, or at least help towards it.

I just think bringing a kid up in poverty is terrible. I see so many people like that round my way. Silly little teenage girls who live on council estates trying to bring up children. That is unfair on the children. Those kids are at a disadvantage as soon as they are born, through no fault of their own.

 

[knowsbleed]

and, in the oppposite sense, would not wanting to have a kid, because you don't want to spend the money, or take away from your life experiences.... selfish too?

you can put that "selfish" word on almost every apsect of having children....

Yes, but by being selfish and NOT having children... you don't affect anybody except yourself.

 

[Bruce Banner]

Well I guess the single life is something that has its ups and downs. For some its probably better for people to have time alone to get themselves together.

I have been alone for over a year and some change. I can actually say alot longer than that because I am one of those people who doesn't or I should say can't feel or express the idea to someone that I might love them. I feel basically alone when I wasn't. I have said the three words only once and I know I didn't mean it. She knew it and everything started to fade afterwords. The downside of trying to comfort someone.

Its sometimes for the better that people should be single. Because they would hurt someone else emotionally even if they weren't trying to. For some people like a loner manic depressive with a prescription that makes him for the most part numb. It best for them to find something in themselves before they try with others.

Sometimes the single life is for the better. Sometimes its sucks. Its all a matter of the person and their ability to handle it.

 

[Erzengel]

Mental disorders aside, I think a lot of people, probably quite a few who post here, make too many excuses on why they can't date. Many with excuses that are easily surmountable.

 

[BillyZaned]

Just FYI (since BillyZaned's post was directed at me - I think) I laughed at his post. I didn't get mad at all.

This thread was created out of frustration because of **** that is going on in my life right now, and I cracked and needed to vent.

I'm not emo to the point that I'm in a downward spiral and gonna kill myself over someone making a joke, heh. I laughed at his post.

it was meant as a joke.... lol... glad you got it,.... your alright

 

[BillyZaned]

Yes, but by being selfish and NOT having children... you don't affect anybody except yourself.

you really don't get it do you... when you have a child, you do stuff for them, to enrichen their life, as well as yours..... you don't give gifts to people on x-mas just to give gifts, you get a satisfacation out of doing it too..... if you donate money to a charity, there's a self satisfaction that goes with that....

to do stuff, and to not feel that way... you would have to be a robot... everything you do, should, contain an internal emotion response....

 

[BillyZaned]

Mental disorders aside, I think a lot of people, probably quite a few who post here, make too many excuses on why they can't date. Many with excuses that are easily surmountable.

I find that most, NOT ALL, but most people, specially guys, who sit there and are like "I'm happy to be single" or am "I'm not ready for a relationship"... only say that, because being single is their ONLY option, and they are saying that to comfort their inner sarrows....

it's like people who say "money doesn't make you happy"... they are the ones with "No Money"....

 

[Ace of Knaves]

Well I wouldn't say that.

The people who say money doesn't by you happiness are probably the people who have experienced it first hand.

But I don't really have sympathy for people like that. You've got money, what is there to be miserable about? Be grateful you ain't gotta worry about putting food on the table and struggling with bills.

 

[BlackLantern]

I find that most, NOT ALL, but most people, specially guys, who sit there and are like "I'm happy to be single" or am "I'm not ready for a relationship"... only say that, because being single is their ONLY option, and they are saying that to comfort their inner sarrows....

it's like people who say "money doesn't make you happy"... they are the ones with "No Money"....

Ive been single and ive recently been involed with someone....i like them both, but ive spent more time single so thats what I am used to...so Im just working and starting school soon...if I meet someone yay, but Im not going to lament or write poetry or cut myself if I don't

 

[knowsbleed]

I think it's harder the other way around. I've been with someone for so long... now that I'm single, I have no idea what to do with myself.

 

[Erzengel]

I find that most, NOT ALL, but most people, specially guys, who sit there and are like "I'm happy to be single" or am "I'm not ready for a relationship"... only say that, because being single is their ONLY option, and they are saying that to comfort their inner sarrows....

it's like people who say "money doesn't make you happy"... they are the ones with "No Money"....

Maybe not their only option, but maybe fear just going out there and rather stay in the comfort of their own safe surroundings.

 

[knowsbleed]

you really don't get it do you... when you have a child, you do stuff for them, to enrichen their life, as well as yours..... you don't give gifts to people on x-mas just to give gifts, you get a satisfacation out of doing it too..... if you donate money to a charity, there's a self satisfaction that goes with that....

to do stuff, and to not feel that way... you would have to be a robot... everything you do, should, contain an internal emotion response....

Oh, I get it. I just get both viewpoints... not just one.