Dating Issue - 17yo male/25yo female

[Oakley]

How do these students get so lucky and why wasn't school like this when I went.

Ohh! I can answer that! More people with serious mental problems, like this woman, go into teaching without the right mentality or even education sometimes. That's how you land a cradle-robber like her.

 

[Erzengel]

Seriously with some of these women, it's such a waste, they can probably have any guy they want and they jeopardize, their family, welfare on a silly fling with a child.

 

[November Rain]

The parents can sue for statutory rape. Doesnt' matter what the public thinks, that's a law that can be enforced. Idiot teacher should have known that.

he's not underaged or wasn't when it occured.

 

[Oakley]

he's not underaged or wasn't when it occured.

Ah! Thanks, kind of skipped over that. Still, that's a pretty sick decision on her part to go sleeping with kids. I hope to hell he got an A.

 

[terry78]

Though you do have to wonder about a woman that would take a boy over a man. Even if she is hot, her attractive level just dropped signficantly if she's taking inferior specimens.

 

[jaguarr]

Johnny, I'm going to need to see you after class...

jag

 

[Erzengel]

Though you do have to wonder about a woman that would take a boy over a man. Even if she is hot, her attractive level just dropped signficantly if she's taking inferior specimens.

It could be a variety of things, control, feeling desired, feeling unconditional love especially from an inexperienced teenager?

 

[Oakley]

Though you do have to wonder about a woman that would take a boy over a man. Even if she is hot, her attractive level just dropped signficantly if she's taking inferior specimens.

I have to say that I teach, and I would NEVER ever have the desire to do what she did. Even when I was helping with high school, there is this imaginary line that just keeps you from seeing it that way (or should.) A friend of mine was 24 and a guidance counselor when a girl at the high school asked him to prom. Not only did he politely say "no," but he immediately reported it to the dean and principal to alert them to the possibility of any allegations she might bring up cause she was upset. Sad that we live in a world like this, but then again, just read the article.

 

[Oakley]

It could be a variety of things, control, feeling desired, feeling unconditional love especially from an inexperienced teenager?

Plus, she might feel that she's his "trainer" or such in the ways of love. God, I sound like the Lady's Man, and I'm a girl.

 

[Superman79]

Plus, she might feel that she's his "trainer" or such in the ways of love. God, I sound like the Lady's Man, and I'm a girl.

LOL!!

I guess I can see that...it's like how most guys look for virgins...she was just doing the same thing...i guess

 

[Oakley]

LOL!!

I guess I can see that...it's like how most guys look for virgins...she was just doing the same thing...i guess

Yup, quite a selfish and disgusting concept, but I can definitely see how a person might think that way. I think the whole idea of the "MILF" is based on this concept, too.

 

[NHawk19]

Who turned the kid and teacher in though that's what I dont get. . . .Whoever did it would need knowledge of her cell to even know about the text messages.

Did she dump some other student in favor of the one she got caught with?

 

[November Rain]

saying this, it can't be easy being an attractive teacher and not letting it get to your head, especially if you are perhaps feeling vulnerable in your social life, having someone/group of people continually showering you with praises can do things to your perception and self esteem.

i became fairly close with a few member of staff at my school (on a friendly basis) and the whole teacher/student barrier was broken down and we were able to see each other as individuals and get on outside the boundaries of the requested social relationship.

under this guise and the right situation, i think it is also possible for student/teacher to have the same type of relationship form, only deeper. In all fairness, it depends on the two individuals.

on the scale of things, considering a guy in england raped an infant three times and could be out of jail in only five years, it would be nice if a priority on such cases was in order as i feel some relationships can be far more damaging with more dangerous people around in society.

although others may not agree with me, i don't think a female temptress is too much of a danger to society and doesn't warrant being behind bars, perhaps just a fine and a suspending of her teaching license for a while 18 months or so. c'est tout.

 

[November Rain]

Who turned the kid and teacher in though that's what I dont get. . . .Whoever did it would need knowledge of her cell to even know about the text messages.

Did she dump some other student in favor of the one she got caught with?

must have been jealous friend.

that's the problem with males having these affairs, we don't keep our mouths shut about it....



when will we learn?

 

[Erzengel]

under this guise and the right situation, i think it is also possible for student/teacher to have the same type of relationship form, only deeper. In all fairness, it depends on the two individuals.

It's possible but a 25 year old who is an adult, graduated college and living on their own lives quite a different life than a 17 year old trying to balance school and the spanish club. They are at 2 different stages in life and for them to find a sorta connection that doesn't stem from something sexual is unlikely.

 

[Oakley]

saying this, it can't be easy being an attractive teacher and not letting it get to your head, especially if you are perhaps feeling vulnerable in your social life, having someone/group of people continually showering you with praises can do things to your perception and self esteem.

i became fairly close with a few member of staff at my school (on a friendly basis) and the whole teacher/student barrier was broken down and we were able to see each other as individuals and get on outside the boundaries of the requested social relationship.

under this guise and the right situation, i think it is also possible for student/teacher to have the same type of relationship form, only deeper. In all fairness, it depends on the two individuals.

on the scale of things, considering a guy in england raped an infant three times and could be out of jail in only five years, it would be nice if a priority on such cases was in order as i feel some relationships can be far more damaging with more dangerous people around in society.

although others may not agree with me, i don't think a female temptress is too much of a danger to society and doesn't warrant being behind bars, perhaps just a fine and a suspending of her teaching license for a while 18 months or so. c'est tout.

Smart post! I worked with a teacher like the first you described. She loved it when the kids made comments about her fake breasts. She was the same age as me, and I loathed any comments the kids made about my looks because I was only 24 at the time I started. However, I was comfortable with who I am, and she wasn't.

While I also agree with you about her being no major danger to society, the same standards for male teachers fooling around with students should apply to females as well. As many might have remembered that idiot Debbie LaFaver (missp?), she didn't go to jail and admittedly slept with a student. I seriously doubt a man in her situation would have had the same fate.

 

[NHawk19]

I seriously doubt a man in her situation would have had the same fate.

Definitely not.

I read that in FL there is a 24 year old male who taught gym at a school and had a relationship with an 18 year old girl at another school. He was dismissed, but is now fighting it and I believe charges were even investigated.

Men always get harsher punishment in these situations. Even though they may have the same level of culpability as their female counter parts

 

[November Rain]

It's possible but a 25 year old who is an adult, graduated college and living on their own lives quite a different life than a 17 year old trying to balance school and the spanish club. They are at 2 different stages in life and for them to find a sorta connection that doesn't stem from something sexual is unlikely.

but id does happen all the time,

school girls dating college guys

old rich people dating younger folk


perhaps people do it because they feel the age of the person they are dating was the best years of their lives and they can become that person yet again when they get into it. There are plenty of references of people saying they act like teenagers again when they find young or new love, this might just be an example of it, plus the whole taboo of it drives the attraction.

i think it's plausible, maybe not always right but plausible.

i do know what you mean about dating someone not in the same frame of mind as you. Simply changing from an undergraduate to a post graduate and dating an older woman, living on my own and fending for myself. i've suddenly gotten the impression that even people a couple of months younger than me are completely in a different place than i am.....they are still hot though....

 

[November Rain]

Smart post! I worked with a teacher like the first you described. She loved it when the kids made comments about her fake breasts. She was the same age as me, and I loathed any comments the kids made about my looks because I was only 24 at the time I started. However, I was comfortable with who I am, and she wasn't.

While I also agree with you about her being no major danger to society, the same standards for male teachers fooling around with students should apply to females as well. As many might have remembered that idiot Debbie LaFaver (missp?), she didn't go to jail and admittedly slept with a student. I seriously doubt a man in her situation would have had the same fate.

two male teachers slept with students at my old school, students they were 'seeing', one of the mentioned ones slept with more than one sixth form girls...

another man groped a much younger child in her bed.

none of them went to jail, two of them were asked to leave or retired suddenly, the details excape me.

it really depends on the school and whether it wishes to gain a reputation for soem of these actions or not.

more often than not these cases are settled within the school before it gets to the press., especially in england.

 

[Erzengel]

but id does happen all the time,

school girls dating college guys

old rich people dating younger folk


perhaps people do it because they feel the age of the person they are dating was the best years of their lives and they can become that person yet again when they get into it. There are plenty of references of people saying they act like teenagers again when they find young or new love, this might just be an example of it, plus the whole taboo of it drives the attraction.

i think it's plausible, maybe not always right but plausible.

i do know what you mean about dating someone not in the same frame of mind as you. Simply changing from an undergraduate to a post graduate and dating an older woman, living on my own and fending for myself. i've suddenly gotten the impression that even people a couple of months younger than me are completely in a different place than i am.....they are still hot though....

It's different if it's a 21 or 22 is pushing it dating a 17 or 18 year old. Once you start getting into 24-25 you really shouldn't be still dating high school students.

 

[November Rain]

i've got a 25 yr old friend who can't wait for the entrance of fresh fresher meat next year...and the year after that....

i guess everyone has their own moral views on the subject. In all honest, i feel there are 18 yr olds that are more mature than some 24-25 year olds, much more, it depends on the individual. i guess casting a general rule is what most people do but for the majority of social rules, there are exceptions and i feel that perhaps this boy may have been this woman's. When something takes you off guard like so, the whole contigency plan goes out of the window...

 

[PLAS]

I don't understand this, can't they wait for the school term to be over?

 

[Darthphere]

I don't understand this, can't they wait for the school term to be over?

Remove the risk, you remove the thrill.

 

[PLAS]

Remove the risk, you remove the thrill.

only if it's something superficial

 

[NHawk19]

Remove the risk, you remove the thrill.

Ding Dong

Now there's the truest statement about these issues.