Dating sites...?

[RedIsNotBlue]

I order my pizza online now, why not people?

I believe that is called getting a hooker. Lol.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Oh, I'm sure it does, especially if people are on the hunt in a bar or nightclub or singles event or wherever. If people are in that mode, then sure they will definitely dismiss people as potential dating partners. But if you're in a neutral environment and you're not on the hunt, then you're in a more open frame of mind and there isn't so much of that pressure. People are more likely to talk to you then and give you a chance at least at a conversation where they might find you are actually worth getting to know. When someone is on the hunt then they won't even entertain anything.

And the thing about a dating site is that everyone on there is precisly on the hunt when they are browsing it. They're in exactly the same mode as at a bar/nightclub etc.

Which is why I ultimately find it easier to meet someone if I'm doing something else where the main purpose isn't to meet females (eg a course).

These type of posts say you have low self esteem about your appearance, a definite turn off and can be seen online and most definitely off.

 

[tzarinna]

That implies that you want a SHHer as a boyfriend, or more specifically, a boyfriend who thinks like a SHHer.

And no offense, if I'd listened to the opinions of most guys here, I would have given up and become a crazy cat lady, because I have nothing up top.

I recall a girl complaining about the type of guys she kept getting, she claims to want someone she can talk politics with as well as party I guess. After reviewing her profile in which she's wearing lingerie and practically exposing a nipple. So when she shows up on a date the guys are put off 'cause they're expecting some saucy dame, and she never hears from them again.

She was a cute girl and could gain a fella without resorting to sexy photos.

 

[RedIsNotBlue]

I recall a girl complaining about the type of guys she kept getting, she claims to want someone she can talk politics with as well as party I guess. After reviewing her profile in which she's wearing lingerie and practically exposing a nipple. So when she shows up on a date the guys are put off 'cause they're expecting some saucy dame, and she never hears from them again.

She was a cute girl and could gain a fella without resorting to sexy photos.

What girls say they want and what they REALLY want are two completely different things. There is a ton of girls out there that whine and complain about wanting a nice guy but if you look at who they date they are usually *****es.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah I was going to address that.

If the female dresses like a skank she's going to attract shallow guys who are planning to hit it and quit it.

Unless that's what the female is looking for, then by all means, have at it.

Hey, the post I was replying to mentioned NUMBER of suitors, they never said what kind.

They could be society's rejects...

Or maybe they just want to meet a person outside their social circles since the world has billions of possibly superior matches for them.

Plus a women can look through hundreds of suitors in a single week online. How many does she get the typical week walking around town? Maybe a dozen if she's hot?

Yeah I had a classmate who was so gorgeous and nice and unintimidating, she'd get hit on every time she went out of her house. It was still about a dozen a week.

Oh, I'm sure it does, especially if people are on the hunt in a bar or nightclub or singles event or wherever. If people are in that mode, then sure they will definitely dismiss people as potential dating partners. But if you're in a neutral environment and you're not on the hunt, then you're in a more open frame of mind and there isn't so much of that pressure. People are more likely to talk to you then and give you a chance at least at a conversation where they might find you are actually worth getting to know. When someone is on the hunt then they won't even entertain anything.

And the thing about a dating site is that everyone on there is precisly on the hunt when they are browsing it. They're in exactly the same mode as at a bar/nightclub etc.

Which is why I ultimately find it easier to meet someone if I'm doing something else where the main purpose isn't to meet females (eg a course).

Isn't that exactly how you get friend-zoned?

I'm very popular with the guys. In college you would usually find me hanging out with a group of guys than with the girls. The thing is that, the guys think of you as someone they can tell dirty jokes with, or look at porn with during a late-night (bordering on delirious) cell biology final study session. You think guys would try that with any other girl? NO! At one point I even joked that when all the other girls left, all the sleaze came out since Anita was just one of the guys.

But none of them thought of me as a romantic prospect. At least when I was online, I was getting guys who were romantically interested in me.

 

[Erzengel]

What girls say they want and what they REALLY want are two completely different things. There is a ton of girls out there that whine and complain about wanting a nice guy but if you look at who they date they are usually *****es.

Nice guy doesn't not equate to being a doormat.

Nice guy doesn't mean having ulterior motives.

And just because a girl complains about the "*****es" they are with doesn't necessarily mean they are a'holes. Maybe you just hear them complaining and not the other side of the story.

 

[knowsbleed]

I believe that is called getting a hooker. Lol.

I've never been able to get a hooker from Domino's. Now, Papa John's... that's a different story.

 

[RedIsNotBlue]

Nice guy doesn't not equate to being a doormat.

Nice guy doesn't mean having ulterior motives.

And just because a girl complains about the "*****es" they are with doesn't necessarily mean they are a'holes. Maybe you just hear them complaining and not the other side of the story.

I was speaking mainly in reference to that girl that the poster was mentioning. She sounds like the prime example of what I was describing. She complains about not being able to find a nice guy yet she is presenting herself to attract the complete opposite. Like I said...there is a ton of girls who whine and complain about not being able to find a good guy or a nice guy to date yet how they act, present themselves, and date proves my point. I'm not saying all girls are like that obviously but there is a lot of girls with that exact mindset.

 

[Erzengel]

Just like there a lot of guys who rationalize that girls date *****es and not nice guys like themselves just because they aren't attracted to them.

 

[knowsbleed]

But Erz, it's true. I had an entire thread about it. It was wonderfully successful. Wonderful... ly.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm not attracted to you.

 

[Pink Ranger]

I've never been able to get a hooker from Domino's. Now, Papa John's... that's a different story.

You can get a hooker from Domino's, but they too tend to be flat, dry and flaky.

 

[RedIsNotBlue]

Just like there a lot of guys who rationalize that girls date *****es and not nice guys like themselves just because they aren't attracted to them.

Well it all depends on the situation. You sound like you are describing a guy who is jealous that a girl is dating another guy so the guy is gonna call that guy who is dating a girl a *****e out of anger. That happens often too...yes.

But once again...that is not what I am talking about. I am talking about the specific group of girls that whine and complain about not being able to find a great, nice guy yet the way they present themselves and who they decide to date suggests they aren't really looking for that because subconciously or whatever it is they are attracted to *****ebags. Are you denying these girls exist?

 

[Erzengel]

No those girls exist. Just leveling the playing field.

Guy: I wish I had a girlfriend.
Guy 2: What about her?
Guy: Oh. She's not hot enough.

 

[IronFist]

If you can't start a conversation with a girl in a bar, or in a cheese section of a grocery store, or in line waiting to get inside of big rock concert you'll hardly be able to converse with a girl on a blind date.

There are different people, looking for different things while they're online but if you're unable or afraid to approach somebody you like in different circumstances in life you won't get much from online either.

 

[RedIsNotBlue]

Oh so your point was guys can be *****es when looking to date? Yeah that is a common knowledge I believe. In fact I would say I am giving females a compliment in an odd way. They are more challenging and layered...guys are generally more black and white when it comes to dating.

 

[Anita18]

No those girls exist. Just leveling the playing field.

Guy: I wish I had a girlfriend.
Guy 2: What about her?
Guy: Oh. She's not hot enough.

Story of my life.

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

If you can't start a conversation with a girl in a bar, or in a cheese section of a grocery store, or in line waiting to get inside of big rock concert you'll hardly be able to converse with a girl on a blind date.

There are different people, looking for different things while they're online but if you're unable or afraid to approach somebody you like in different circumstances in life you won't get much from online either.

Actually I think PMing a girl, then sending emails, then talking on the phone and finally meeting on a date is a much more gradual and revealing way to meet a potential love interest than the traditional shock and awe of impressing a girl inperson without any slow revelation of identity.

Traditional methods are not always better.

 

[knowsbleed]

Story of my life.

Don't worry, I've heard that hot people suck at sex.

 

[Erzengel]

Pffft, no we don't.

 

[Anita18]

Depends who's asking, I suppose.

I don't worry if I'm bad at sex. I eventually found the guy for me and I have no bitterness, although it's mostly amusing when I look back on my friendzoned life.

 

[knowsbleed]

*overlooked innuendo victim #1 = Erz*

speaking of suck... I've never wanted a girl more than when I said to one of my ex's, "You suck" and she replied, "yeah, but I'm good".

 

[Pink Ranger]

speaking of suck... I've never wanted a girl more than when I said to one of my ex's, "You suck" and she replied, "yeah, but I'm good".

Marry that woman.

 

[I'm Old Greg]

^
It's surprising that there is still this type of stigma about online dating.

Its not stigma its from dating all sorts of girls from the internet.

Blondes, redheads, brunets, white black asians. Ive dated a lot of different types of women from myspae and dating sites.

I noticed how commonly they fell into that grouping over and over.
Thats why i had no real physical racial preference i just want someone who was right for me and people on the internet were very dissappointing in ways i would not continue to date them rarely stay friends with them.

There is a major reason why people are internet dating. I have a reason as well.


I also forgot to mention the girls on there looking for someone they will never find, a person who is just too specific to even be a reality for them, people who are just to picky which causes them to be alone.

 

[Erzengel]

How are white black asians?