Anita18
DANCE FOR ME, FUNNY MAN!
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I have a friend who cycles through periods of depression. She regularly cycles through crisis, and I've learned that hearing "I should just kill myself" from her does not mean she's actually going to do it that day. (If so, I would have called the police on her every month I've known her.)Sad but true. Still... You must have heard of the BOY WHO CRIED WOLF? Just saying.
Still, I don't tell her that she's only looking for attention, that she has nothing to be depressed about. Severe, depression means there's something broken in the brain, that often can't be fixed without medication to bring it back to a place where the person can think logically.
Even when it's been the umpteenth time I have to talk her out of crisis, I listen. That's the most important thing you can do.
But the thing is SuperSanchez, I remain receptive and supportive to my friend because she TRIES to get better. She sees a therapist regularly, and has seen therapists for years. She's tried medication before. She tells me what helps (running, going to bookstores, reading) and I encourage her to do those things when she's in a rut. She doesn't just claim she can handle it (despite cycling through depression regularly for the past 10 years) and do nothing. There's nothing we can help you with, if you refuse to help yourself.