G8: Still Just As Action-Packed!

Speaking of the J-guy...we got into a huge ass fight over my concerns with his stripping at that non-strip club. I thought he'd be more understanding of my concerns, but when I asked him how he would feel if the roles were reversed, he just blew up.

He's slept on the couch for 2 days straight.

 

Feel better soon.

Cliff notes version: My first husband Jason has been going through an early gay-life crisis that involves stripping at this local club. He has the body for it so he clearly is doing it for the attention and basically I don't appreciate it. He feels I'm being possessive, which I'm not.

And now we're going on day 3 of no speaking.

 

The guys at the club have come to expect him to do this dancing tables thing. They flirt with him. He says it is all in good fun--and I'm sure it is--at least for Jase. But I see the way those guys look at him...they're ravenous; might as well have drool dripping.

Jason is very much into his physique--even more than I am into mine. And that's fine. I feel that if you work hard for it, why not be proud of it? But I think some things--including some behavior--is best saved for my eyes only. I mean, what was the purpose of doing this whole "marriage" thing anyway if it wasn't to make something about this relationship sacred? It doesn't add up for me.

He's testing me with this for some reason. Normally, he walks around the house with just long pajama pants on and maybe a wife-beater, etc. The last few days? Underwear. It's like the same "look but don't really touch" thing he does at the club. It particularly pisses me off because we're not speaking...which means we aren't doing other things too!

 

No, it's nothing like that. He only takes off his shirt...and then swings it over his head, dances on the table, etc. The management at the place have actually spoken to him about not doing it, but he still sneaks it in when they are really packed.

It's a dance club/bar scene so it's not like he's the only shirtless guy gyrating in the joint. It just so happens it's my guy. I don't like the way I feel when he's doing it. It makes me feel...invisible.

 

Just for fun. The first time it was "funny." The second time was "Meh, okay." Now it happens ALL the time. I know for a fact he went Saturday....but without me. A friend texted me stating he saw him there. He didn't say if he did the shirtless thing or not--and he didn't say he wasn't going (so there was no lying involved, since we weren't talking anyway) but still...

 

No, I am not worried about him cheating at all, actually. That's the really weird thing about it. He's totally into me.

My point is that we are married now. I guess I just expected us both to do a lot less flirting and be more committed to eachother in new ways. For me, it's hard not to flirt because I love guys in general. But the option of breaking up with Jason is no longer on the table. We are legally bound together now. Shouldn't we be acting like it? And even if the Jason has no intention of cheating, why tempt others with such obvious efforts for attention?

In my opinion, it's like trying to see how close you can get to the fire before getting burned. Right now he's enjoying the singe.

No. The only strip teasing I've done in front of him have been in our bedroom. People can look at us--fully clothed--and see we work out, so it's kinda redundant to me to do all of that in public. I reserve my showboating for either the gym or at home these days because I'm no longer "on the market".

As I said, it was *cute* the first time he did it. But it's gotten really, old, really quick.