G8: Still Just As Action-Packed!

[Mad Ones]

My mom has become a huge ally since I came out. She even goes a little too far sometimes. The other day I got a text that said "I just met so and so and he's the coolest, most amazing gay person I've ever met!"

I feel like I've been replaced!

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

Mothers always know. They might not want to bring it to light, but they know.

I really don't think she does... shes either blissfully unaware or purposely blind about it all.

She has been buying me Britney CD's since I was 8 though. That should be clue number 1.

 

[JP]

I feel kind of ashamed that I've come out to more people online than I know in real life, but I almost never see my old friends or many of my relatives. When I do see them, my love life (or lack thereof, whatever) never comes up, so I never feel the need to tell them "Well, I'm not looking for a girlfriend because I want the D." Except, you know, much more seriously than that.

Wait, Mah-nic. I know I haven't been on Skype for a good 3+ months... or in this thread for a few years o) but I feel so out of the loop.




Either way, yay.

 

[Matt.S99]

I should post I. This thread more. I don't really have many gay people in my life to talk to. All the gay guys I know... I've pretty much do e things with. Except for very few of them.

Anyway. Everyone's talking about their coming out, I came out a little over a year ago. It isn't really better. I mean, it's not something I bring up, but it has put a huge strain on everything at home. To the point where I'd rather just not be home. I can't wait to move out, but I cannot afford that. It's honestly my mom who seems to take it harder. I've never really had a huge relationship with my dad, so it's kind of whatever. But my mom, I honestly.... I don't even like her. I know I sound like some angsty teen, but I don't know what else to say. She's rude, verbally abusive and just not kind. And in return, I can't be kind back. It's just not who I am.
This past year has definitely been the worst. Coming out, things not being great at home, school stress, and falling in love with someone who I think was ashamed of me and who moved to another country. And all the other guys I've been with just end up being the same. Dumping me out of no where. I guess I'm just too open with my emotions. I let people in too quickly.

 

[TX85]

Sorry to hear that man,I really hope things change for the better for you,Just try to remain positive

 

[Pink Ranger]

I should post I. This thread more. I don't really have many gay people in my life to talk to. All the gay guys I know... I've pretty much do e things with. Except for very few of them.

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles.

I remember when I was your age, it really helped out a lot to participate in many youth-oriented support groups and coming out resources. I was lucky to live in Vancouver, which is a very gay-friendly city and had a wealth of such services.

Toronto's network is even bigger, though it would depend on which part of the GTA you live in I guess in terms of accessibility. I encourage you to see out these resources, however, and participate when and however you can.

 

[Endeavor]

I should post I. This thread more...

Sorry to hear about all the issues you've been having.
Sounds like what's harder for you is the change in the relationship with your mom. Is that true, or did I misunderstand? Were you two close, before you came out?
From the sound of it moving out and getting some distance might be something you eventually have to do. But don't give up on her, or your dad for that matter. It's very tough for some parents to cope, but with time and a lot of adult conversations (assuming you're given the opportunity) you might be able to mend your relationship.

 

[Matt.S99]

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles.

I remember when I was your age, it really helped out a lot to participate in many youth-oriented support groups and coming out resources. I was lucky to live in Vancouver, which is a very gay-friendly city and had a wealth of such services.

Toronto's network is even bigger, though it would depend on which part of the GTA you live in I guess in terms of accessibility. I encourage you to see out these resources, however, and participate when and however you can.

I live outside Toronto, in Mississauga. Not much to do here. And I don't drive. It's brutal lol.

 

[Manic]

Whoa.

Wait...

What the **** did I miss?!

I was gone two or three months.

Kevin, congrats, dude!

Wait, Mah-nic. I know I haven't been on Skype for a good 3+ months... or in this thread for a few years o) but I feel so out of the loop.




Either way, yay.

It's weird; I feel like this is something I would've run by you two earlier, but yeah I started coming out a few months ago. Better late than never.

 

[Endeavor]

Is that Kitty on your avatar?

 

[Matt.S99]

Amanda Lepore love my drawing of her. SWOON!!!

 

[Mad Ones]

Is that Kitty on your avatar?

Yes! From this picture

It's Skottie Young's variant cover to X-men #1, an all female team! It's going to mega fabulous and full of divas!

 

[TX85]

LOL cute!

 

[Endeavor]

lol love it

 

[Schlosser85]

A guy I've spent like the past week chatting to on Grindr who's a fellow author, ostensibly doesn't want random hookups, etc., is over right now...hooking up with my roommate.

Just FML.

He never said he was interested in me, we'd never gotten "there", so I know he doesn't "owe" me anything, but I still kind of feel like the universe just ***** slapped me in the face.

I think my cat knows I'm upset, because she's hopped up on my lap and is just sitting there way calmer, longer, and more still than she usually does.

 

[Matt.S99]

That is quite the ***** move. Damn those Grindr guys.

 

[Marx]

Mothers always know. They might not want to bring it to light, but they know.

My mom told me that she had a good idea that I was gay but wasn't entirely sure. She has been amazingly supportive and it means the world to me.

I should post I. This thread more. I don't really have many gay people in my life to talk to. All the gay guys I know... I've pretty much do e things with. Except for very few of them.

Anyway. Everyone's talking about their coming out, I came out a little over a year ago. It isn't really better. I mean, it's not something I bring up, but it has put a huge strain on everything at home. To the point where I'd rather just not be home. I can't wait to move out, but I cannot afford that. It's honestly my mom who seems to take it harder. I've never really had a huge relationship with my dad, so it's kind of whatever. But my mom, I honestly.... I don't even like her. I know I sound like some angsty teen, but I don't know what else to say. She's rude, verbally abusive and just not kind. And in return, I can't be kind back. It's just not who I am.
This past year has definitely been the worst. Coming out, things not being great at home, school stress, and falling in love with someone who I think was ashamed of me and who moved to another country. And all the other guys I've been with just end up being the same. Dumping me out of no where. I guess I'm just too open with my emotions. I let people in too quickly.

I'm sorry to hear about everything you're going through. It may sound cliche but you have to know that things can only get better. You've just got to find the strength to push through it all. It sounds like you are fairly young. You will be able to move out and start your own life soon enough.

A guy I've spent like the past week chatting to on Grindr who's a fellow author, ostensibly doesn't want random hookups, etc., is over right now...hooking up with my roommate.

Just FML.

He never said he was interested in me, we'd never gotten "there", so I know he doesn't "owe" me anything, but I still kind of feel like the universe just ***** slapped me in the face.

I think my cat knows I'm upset, because she's hopped up on my lap and is just sitting there way calmer, longer, and more still than she usually does.

I thought you weren't a fan of things like grindr? In any case, that's a total dick move by the guy you were talking to.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

If you meet a guy online be it dating site, social or other.... And don't want things sexual (or disappointing) and you want a friendship or date. Never meet them at home (theirs or yours) I've learned that lesson before as well.

Go somewhere in public and meet one on one. The person could be a psycho and they now know where you live...

If they meet your friends first hand... They may either feel intimidated or like your friends more. (i hung out with a guy in LA a few times wed go out to bars. It was sorta a casual "i like him, but i had a crush on someone else at the time to) and just wanted to see where things went.... Well the last time we went out was with a group of my friends and i had them all over afterward... And well my crush ended up going home with my new friend....

So yeah.... Been there done that and feel for ya schloss

Keep trying though and don't give up. Just learn from each bad experience, good experience, and mistake. Im just glad you're putting yourself out there. Its always a risk, sometimes you fall and it hurts but you also won't find what you want if you don't jump out and try

 

[Endeavor]

bump

 

[Scarlettess]

Something interesting from the Amazing Spider-Man 2 set today.

Spoiler

looks like Peter's wearing a It Gets Better Project (LGBT project) t-shirt.Nice to see they're supporting gay rights, I think this will mean a lot to so many people.

 

[Pink Ranger]

Something interesting from the Amazing Spider-Man 2 set today.

Spoiler

looks like Peter's wearing a It Gets Better Project (LGBT project) t-shirt.Nice to see they're supporting gay rights, I think this will mean a lot to so many people.

If you ever feel that the mods are getting bored, just post that in the ASM forums.

 

[Manic]

If you ever feel that the mods are getting bored, just post that in the ASM forums.

Unrelated to that, I recently found out that my mom has gotten more used to knowing I'm gay. The other day, she came to ask me a question and spotted a new profile photo of a fairly attractive friend of mine on my Facebook news feed, and her immediate response was to tease me about looking up naughty pics on the internet. This is pretty much what she does to my older brother with girls, so there's that.

 

[Ultimatehero]

I'm still getting to used to the "complexities" of being bi years later coming out to myself lol. I just spent the entire morning surrounded by really hot and cute guys, then returned back home anxious to read a message from a girl I like. It is freeing though being able to see it as just people. Just complex lol.

 

[Majik1387]

Something interesting from the Amazing Spider-Man 2 set today.

Spoiler

looks like Peter's wearing a It Gets Better Project (LGBT project) t-shirt.Nice to see they're supporting gay rights, I think this will mean a lot to so many people.

Something tell me this was a suggestion from Andrew for Peter, as Andrew is part of/a supporter of the LGBT project.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Something tell me this was a suggestion from Andrew for Peter, as Andrew is part of/a supporter of the LGBT project.

i think so too