G8: Still Just As Action-Packed!

[Lightning Strykez!]

You're the girl. It's generally the man's role to burn media, particularly when it's urban music like that. Sorry dude, it's the law.

I'll have to beat him to the burning plastic part next time.

 

[Schlosser85]

I like seeing Schloss in red.

It feels right.






as
opposed to horribly horribly wrong.

Aww thanks (totally almost hit the warn button instead of the reply button, lol)

 

[Maximum Carnage]

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Jeff Sheng's 'Fearless' Project Features Portraits Of High School And Collegiate LGBT Athletes

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/...letes_n_1753581.html?ref=topbar#slide=1345057

This is a pretty cool idea, wouldn't mind seeing this as a campaign. Beautiful photos!

 

[Anita18]

Ooh I can dole out relationship advice here too!

No, I am not worried about him cheating at all, actually. That's the really weird thing about it. He's totally into me.

My point is that we are married now. I guess I just expected us both to do a lot less flirting and be more committed to eachother in new ways. For me, it's hard not to flirt because I love guys in general. But the option of breaking up with Jason is no longer on the table. We are legally bound together now. Shouldn't we be acting like it? And even if the Jason has no intention of cheating, why tempt others with such obvious efforts for attention?

In my opinion, it's like trying to see how close you can get to the fire before getting burned. Right now he's enjoying the singe.

Ah see, it seems like you had different expectations about marriage than he did. That's a pretty important sticking point there.

Marriage means different things to different people. For some it could mean kids or a house or "My parents will finally be happy" or "I'm getting old and I don't want to be lonely" or "I have to dress like a frump now because only my husband can see that I have a body."

For my fiance and I, it's none of those things. But we have to decide what marriage means to both of us. Before we get hitched. But it's not too late for you and Jason to talk it out. Sensitive-like and stuff.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Alright..so I need my own therapy session....


So i've been kinda stressed over an issue thats been going on for about 6 weeks now. My cousin (who's the closest thing i have to a sister and have been very close with since we were born) 6 weeks ago broke up with her girlfriend (whom was an absolutely amazing person, and her gf considered my cousin her wife), they were together for about 4 years or so.. I've been through a lot with them and became really close to them. Marx did as well. They met in Arizona where they lived together, and eventually moved to ohio (for my cousin to be closer to family) Basically the day of the break-up, the GF was gone.. and on her way back to AZ. We didn't even get to say goodbye to her.

Well on my cousin's birthday (the day after the break up) we had the glorious experience of finding out the truth to the break-up.. my cousin at her bday in front of friends and family..(including my mother (her aunt) she was all over a 20 year old co-worker of hers (my cousin is 26)... it was incredibly distasteful and lude for public.. let alone the fact most of us were still mourning the loss of who we considered family (her gf).. it was like a giant slap in the face..

Anywho... things just got worse and worse when we found out she essentially told her gf it was a temp break up.. and was cheating on her, leading her on, and often apparently flirted with this co-worker (who's not even a lesbian (and also has a horrible reputation as a sleezey girl)) in front of her now ex. Her ex still loves her and is just as shocked as us all that my cousin would do this...

to make the rest of the story as short as I can... basically my cousin has become this person i do not know... I've been avoiding her.. because I have a hard time being around her without being completely angry with her. Her mother has also been extremely angry with her... And for me, I just want her to grow up, i want her to feel like she made some bad decisions..

I mean, i know people fall out of love.. but that also doesn't mean you have to handle things the way she did either... people change.. i have no problem with that.. but i'm really worried about my cousin. She's almost like an emotionless void... and she grew up incredibly selfish, always pushed away her friends, (seemed to only be able to have one at a time) and the moment a friend disagrees with her.. she'd find a new one. It's like she can't fathom being wrong. Or even listening to the people who love her's opinions or advice. She basically has a stance of "I don't regret anything, it's no ones business but my own, so get over it and move on" completely disregarding how everyone else feels about it.

I've basically been avoiding her for 6 weeks (though to be fair, 2 of those weeks she was out of the country with family) and tonight we got into it.. because she thinks it's "immature" that marx and i don't want to hang out with her, and that marx can't even look at her. I'm not trying to make a point, or hurt her by doing this... I'm just flat out angry.. and the way she's behaving lately (even flying an ex into town for a week, who was a really horrible ex that cost her and her family hundreds of dollars) the day she came back into the country....... the list of horrible decisions keeps growing.. and I really have no desire to hangout with someone like that... and it hurts because it's someone i care about greatly. I hate the situation.

So tonight we got into it.. a bit.. she texted me saying how immature we were acting.. I told her how i felt, and that I just need time (she said i should "just get over it", as if i can flip a switch and forget everything) she also said she regrets nothing... and knows what she's doing (which her actions speak completely otherwise) I told her that's exactly what she needs to fix, she never listens to anyone, always thinks people are ganging up against her, never admits to anything she does wrong (its always everyone elses fault), etc...

it's so frustrating and I don't really know what to do about it. I think for me, i just need time. That's the only thing i can think of.. i just want things to be back to the way they use to be... and I have no desire to hang around 20 year old party girls ... i'm kinda done with that lifestyle.. and as much as i'm sure she misses us, I think she needs to realize we need time too (and arn't void of emotion like her). I mean.. without us healing.. does she really want that incredibly awkward and miserable night of us hanging together just quiet and angry with her?

I don't know.. what would you guys do?

 

[Maximum Carnage]

Alright..so I need my own therapy session....


So i've been kinda stressed over an issue thats been going on for about 6 weeks now. My cousin (who's the closest thing i have to a sister and have been very close with since we were born) 6 weeks ago broke up with her girlfriend (whom was an absolutely amazing person, and her gf considered my cousin her wife), they were together for about 4 years or so.. I've been through a lot with them and became really close to them. Marx did as well. They met in Arizona where they lived together, and eventually moved to ohio (for my cousin to be closer to family) Basically the day of the break-up, the GF was gone.. and on her way back to AZ. We didn't even get to say goodbye to her.

Well on my cousin's birthday (the day after the break up) we had the glorious experience of finding out the truth to the break-up.. my cousin at her bday in front of friends and family..(including my mother (her aunt) she was all over a 20 year old co-worker of hers (my cousin is 26)... it was incredibly distasteful and lude for public.. let alone the fact most of us were still mourning the loss of who we considered family (her gf).. it was like a giant slap in the face..

Anywho... things just got worse and worse when we found out she essentially told her gf it was a temp break up.. and was cheating on her, leading her on, and often apparently flirted with this co-worker (who's not even a lesbian (and also has a horrible reputation as a sleezey girl)) in front of her now ex. Her ex still loves her and is just as shocked as us all that my cousin would do this...

to make the rest of the story as short as I can... basically my cousin has become this person i do not know... I've been avoiding her.. because I have a hard time being around her without being completely angry with her. Her mother has also been extremely angry with her... And for me, I just want her to grow up, i want her to feel like she made some bad decisions..

I mean, i know people fall out of love.. but that also doesn't mean you have to handle things the way she did either... people change.. i have no problem with that.. but i'm really worried about my cousin. She's almost like an emotionless void... and she grew up incredibly selfish, always pushed away her friends, (seemed to only be able to have one at a time) and the moment a friend disagrees with her.. she'd find a new one. It's like she can't fathom being wrong. Or even listening to the people who love her's opinions or advice. She basically has a stance of "I don't regret anything, it's no ones business but my own, so get over it and move on" completely disregarding how everyone else feels about it.

I've basically been avoiding her for 6 weeks (though to be fair, 2 of those weeks she was out of the country with family) and tonight we got into it.. because she thinks it's "immature" that marx and i don't want to hang out with her, and that marx can't even look at her. I'm not trying to make a point, or hurt her by doing this... I'm just flat out angry.. and the way she's behaving lately (even flying an ex into town for a week, who was a really horrible ex that cost her and her family hundreds of dollars) the day she came back into the country....... the list of horrible decisions keeps growing.. and I really have no desire to hangout with someone like that... and it hurts because it's someone i care about greatly. I hate the situation.

So tonight we got into it.. a bit.. she texted me saying how immature we were acting.. I told her how i felt, and that I just need time (she said i should "just get over it", as if i can flip a switch and forget everything) she also said she regrets nothing... and knows what she's doing (which her actions speak completely otherwise) I told her that's exactly what she needs to fix, she never listens to anyone, always thinks people are ganging up against her, never admits to anything she does wrong (its always everyone elses fault), etc...

it's so frustrating and I don't really know what to do about it. I think for me, i just need time. That's the only thing i can think of.. i just want things to be back to the way they use to be... and I have no desire to hang around 20 year old party girls ... i'm kinda done with that lifestyle.. and as much as i'm sure she misses us, I think she needs to realize we need time too (and arn't void of emotion like her). I mean.. without us healing.. does she really want that incredibly awkward and miserable night of us hanging together just quiet and angry with her?

I don't know.. what would you guys do?

On a side note, my boyfriend and I are officially moved-in and un-packed!!! Woooo! It's a big step, but I think we're ready for it. !

Anyway, Spideyboy.. What a nightmare. And I feel really bad for the gf of this chick.. But, honestly? You can't change someone like this. If she felt the need to cheat, she really didn't have feelings for this other girl. The fact that they moved for your cousin is what's most upsetting.. She uprooted her life for that relationship, and the day after she's all over some random? That's disgusting.

Ultimately, she is who she is - you can't change it. However, if this person is completely different than you grew up knowing? Of course you have the right to say, "Woah. Hold on, I need to process this." That's not immature. Whether or not you like this new person, that's completely up to you and Marx - but don't expect on changing her.

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

Honestly it sounds like your cousins GF is better off without her...

I know it's harsh but I would just tell your cousin to contact you when shes grown up and ready to approach things from a mature perspective. She needs to realise that while it is her life and she can do anything she wants... it will affect others. She needs to realise this fast.

So let her work it out on her own... I guess the only question now is, is it possible for you to have a friendship with your cousins ex in any way?

 

[Maximum Carnage]

^ Without further ruining your relationship with your cousin, anyway.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Well i plan on staying in touch with her ex, and have. She's an amazing woman and she really is better off.

The hard part about simply saying "call me when you grow up" is the fact she won't ever realise what she did was wrong without a fallout. She's gotten everything she's ever wanted in her life and is pretty spoiled because of it....

Add to that we're a close family, live in a small town, her parents run a business my mom and my cousin work at 2 blocks from my own work....

I just need time and i need to find a way to get her to understand that

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

I get what your saying... but it's out of your hands.

Life will catch up with her eventually (it always does) and she'll soon realise the mistakes shes made. We all get a tragic wake-up call.

Just be friendly with her but don't give her personal life/choices too much attention. Even though I know shes hurt you by dumping her ex, thats all you can do.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Sad part is.... This whole ordeal will really cause me, Marx, my mom, her mom, and everyone else to unfortunately not be able to take who she dates seriously for the fact we won't want to emotionally invest in them....

I think that may be the worst thing to come out of it

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

Definitely... that will be a nightmare.

But hey, by the sounds of it, she'll screw up that relationship too and you'll all be back to square one with her.

Like I said don't pay too much attention to her personal life/whoever she brings home. But be friendly, amicable and hopefully things will sort themselves out.

 

[Speedball]

So.. now I'm a 26 year old gay male with a tumor that may or may not be cancerous...

 

[spideyboy_1111]

So.. now I'm a 26 year old gay male with a tumor that may or may not be cancerous...

WHA??????????? where?

 

[Speedball]

WHA??????????? where?

It's growing out of my femur and pressing against my left groin area now. The only way to diagnosis it is to get it out, which means they'll have to make an incision more than a foot long so they can avoid hurting my veins and arteries going to my leg, which are in the same area.
One good thing is I'm gonna lose a TON of weight. Bad news, I won't be able to walk for awhile and I'm gonna have huge scar.
And my BF won't be able to visit because he'll be starting graduate school then...

 

[Anita18]

Sad part is.... This whole ordeal will really cause me, Marx, my mom, her mom, and everyone else to unfortunately not be able to take who she dates seriously for the fact we won't want to emotionally invest in them....

I think that may be the worst thing to come out of it

That's not the most terrible thing in the world. My mom isn't taking anyone we date that seriously until there's a ring on our finger. And even then, it isn't like my fiance is the son they never had, etc etc.

So.. now I'm a 26 year old gay male with a tumor that may or may not be cancerous...

So the tests came back?

Many tumors are benign. One day at a time. Keep on top of those tests. Keep asking your doctor(s) questions. Stay (otherwise) healthy and get a lot of sleep. Being so stressed that it affects your health is no bueno right now. Take care of your body and it will be ready for the battle ahead.

I have a friend overseas fighting cancer, and he's so weak now after several rounds of chemo, that he can't walk much, even with a cane. He's 30, and was underweight before all this. Stay strong, emotionally and physically.

((HUGS))

 

[Anita18]

It's growing out of my femur and pressing against my left groin area now. The only way to diagnosis it is to get it out, which means they'll have to make an incision more than a foot long so they can avoid hurting my veins and arteries going to my leg, which are in the same area.

One good thing is I'm gonna lose a TON of weight. Bad news, I won't be able to walk for awhile and I'm gonna have huge scar.

And my BF won't be able to visit because he'll be starting graduate school then...

Eeeeuuuuugh. That doesn't sound fun at all. But if there's no other alternative, gotta go with it.

Where is he doing graduate school? He could visit for a short time, just to cheer you up.

 

[Speedball]

Eeeeuuuuugh. That doesn't sound fun at all. But if there's no other alternative, gotta go with it.

Where is he doing graduate school? He could visit for a short time, just to cheer you up.

He'll be in Boston, I'll be in Richmond, VA. He has friends he can stay with because he lived there for two years. He's going to try to come down, but it'll be tough. I'll be in the Hospital for probably a week...

 

[spideyboy_1111]

It's growing out of my femur and pressing against my left groin area now. The only way to diagnosis it is to get it out, which means they'll have to make an incision more than a foot long so they can avoid hurting my veins and arteries going to my leg, which are in the same area.
One good thing is I'm gonna lose a TON of weight. Bad news, I won't be able to walk for awhile and I'm gonna have huge scar.
And my BF won't be able to visit because he'll be starting graduate school then...

eek im so sorry buddy. *hugs* please please please keep us posted

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

So.. now I'm a 26 year old gay male with a tumor that may or may not be cancerous...

Dude...

I hope and pray that it turns out to be benign. Positive thoughts are key at the moment. I feel silly even saying it... but what else can you say?

 

[Speedball]

I think my BF cried more than I did when I told him... I had a short crying sesh in the car on the drive back, but he was crying for our entire 30 min conversation.
He feels bad about not being able to come down, but I don't want him to fail school because of me. His parents, who actually do care about me, will probably help him get down here.

Oh, and thanks guys.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Cancer does NOT equal death. Remember that.

 

[Speedball]

I know, I'm just scared my body won't be the same afterward and I won't be able to do what can do now. I might even end up with nerve damage because they're moving so much stuff around.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

I hope your operation goes well, Speedball.