G8: Still Just As Action-Packed!

[Ultimatehero]

Just looked online and yeah pan is more than two genders, so - unsure of what the difference is between that and poly then...

And yeah, not really into effeminate guys either. There was only one that I fell for ever, but I'd say that would be due to two pieces coming together and having lots in common except for that. Girls get me with their delicacy, guys with aggressiveness. I want to be romantic then have sex with girls. I want to wrestle then have sex with guys. So the masculine/aggressive side is what attracts me when it comes to guys. I don't mind if guys are softer, just not ultra softer.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

That's true... I'll think I'll have to do some questioning of my own at the next session.

And, yeah, I don't think i'm pan-sexual. I'm actually pretty conservative and picky when comes to who I'm attracted too. I might be alone in this but I generally avoid overly effeminate guys (Not as friends, just in terms of attraction).

ive never been attracted to effeminate guys either. though, i'm not attracted to the dumb masculine jock type on that flipside as well. That, and i don't like people with issues... lots of femmy guys are drama filled, and lots of overly masculine guys are players and often stupid. So... ive always enjoyed the attractive guy who's humble and doesn't realize how beautiful he is (inside and out)

 

[Ultimatehero]

Do you guys also find yourself more easily attracted to straight guys? Unsure what it is but it seems most of the guys I fall for have always been straight which seriously sucks lol.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

I usually never let myself fall for a straight guy. There's really no point.

I've never heard of a successful straight guy going gay story, they either go get married to a woman or you're just a fling. If they have issues with figuring out who they are... It will never be a good relationship.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

I also see that happen more with gay guys who don't really hang out with enough gay guys. Trust me, there's plenty of gay guys out there that have alot in common characteristically with straight guys than flamboyant gay guys

 

[Ultimatehero]

That'd be really cool to find. So far have only really met flamboyant guys. Also coincidentally after checking the reply dropped off a package at a warehouse where two REALLY hot guys around my age helped me unload it.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

the flamboyant guy's stick out like a sore thumb, while anyone who's not... just seems like everyone else. so you're not going to notice them while wondering around in local places. Meet them through friends, online, or find a bar or club that's less uppity and more of a dive bar and you will probably have a better chance at seeing them.

 

[Pink Ranger]

UH, not sure where you live, but if you want to meet more masculine guys, go to a gym in a gay neighbourhood (cliche, I know, but it works) or join a gay sports league, like soccer or (if you're not into athletic guys) bowling.

 

[Ultimatehero]

Luckily I'll be in NYC soon where it should be easier.

Town I live in:
> No LGBT neighborhood
> No LGBT "meet up" groups (at all)
> About 50 gay guys on online, 10 bi guys (and I'm one of the 10)
> Gay bar is practically empty, went on a 'busy' night and there were only 10-20 guys there tops.

And awesome advice. Don't really think it can be used in this town, but for NYC I'll definitely look into those venues.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

you'd be surprised what area's have what. There may not be much IN your local town. but i'd assume there's something within a 30-40 mile radius. be glad your home town has a bar at least. that shows there's at least something!

 

[spideyboy_1111]

i know alot of guys who've said "there's nothing out there" when really.. there not searching hard enough, and seem to think these things just fall into there lap. can't find people unless you put yourself out there.

 

[Ultimatehero]

Yeah. Don't really have the gas money to drive that far -- so, will wait until NYC. And yeah, at least it does have that. I'm partly still used to being in LA. We had a whole street that made things easy. City LGBT-hood just has a lot which I'm used to, so going from that to 'small town America USA' has been kinda eye-opening.

 

[Pink Ranger]

I don't know; does New York really have a large gay scene?





But seriously though, I'm jealous. Heck, NY might even have a gay gamers and table-top RPGers group too (Toronto has both, but then again we are New York's weak and nerdy little cousin).

 

[Ultimatehero]

Yeah, lol, it's going to be awesome. LA has aprox 154,270 LGBT whereas NYC has aprox 272,493. Gay gamers would be awesome.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Yeah. Don't really have the gas money to drive that far -- so, will wait until NYC. And yeah, at least it does have that. I'm partly still used to being in LA. We had a whole street that made things easy. City LGBT-hood just has a lot which I'm used to, so going from that to 'small town America USA' has been kinda eye-opening.

I lived in LA for seven years. Just moved back to Ohio almost two years ago. I love LA, i love visiting nyc. Don't think i could live there though

 

[spideyboy_1111]

I don't know; does New York really have a large gay scene?





But seriously though, I'm jealous. Heck, NY might even have a gay gamers and table-top RPGers group too (Toronto has both, but then again we are New York's weak and nerdy little cousin).

LA has both a GAY gamer convention and gay comic book convention

 

[Pink Ranger]

LA has both a GAY gamer convention and gay comic book convention

Ah, but does LA have a gay boardgamers society that gathers in a dank old bookstore that smells like cat pee to play Arkham Horror every Thursday night?

Advantage, Toronto. Ahahahahaha, waitaminute ...

 

[Ultimatehero]

I lived in LA for seven years. Just moved back to Ohio almost two years ago. I love LA, i love visiting nyc. Don't think i could live there though

Cool cool. I'm kinda the opposite. I found that LA has a "summer-itis" effect on me for some reason. I lived there for a year to a year and a half. While NYC has always raised my energy levels like an all-time high and is the prime place to live and continue my career (I'm a film guy, so the key or only locales for my career are NYC or LA). That said, when I'm in my 30s and with kids (24 now) I'll probably move to some suburbs place since I'm unsure how I feel about the whole kid wandering around NYC thing that seems to happen.

 

[newwaveboy87]

Do you guys also find yourself more easily attracted to straight guys? Unsure what it is but it seems most of the guys I fall for have always been straight which seriously sucks lol.

Story of my life. Especially for the past two+ years. I can't.

So much has happened since that I last updated everyone. Some of it cleared the air, a lot of it remains confusing. But it boils down to this: we've agreed that what we have, essentially, is a friendship that borders on a (sexless) stable relationship.

And we're probably going to wind up living together in old age so we don't die alone. I love/hate my life.


Kill me.

 

[newwaveboy87]

Ah, but does LA have a gay boardgamers society that gathers in a dank old bookstore that smells like cat pee to play Arkham Horror every Thursday night?

Advantage, Toronto. Ahahahahaha, waitaminute ...

Always knew I loved Canada, and cute little Canadians, for a reason!

 

[Majik1387]

Okay I kept trying to resize this but this is the best I can do.

This kind of goes back to our past conversation regarding Grindr and I was just curious to how you guys would have reacted to a posting like this.

Spoiler

I know when last discussed I said Grindr was more purely sexual, but I wasn't knocking it. I mean I have a Grindr still(free and Xtra) and my boyfriend doesn't seem to care, but I also don't use it to hook up anymore. And this guy really just seems to be crazy bitter for personal reasons than actual reasons.

Thoughts?
Plus trying to put some life back into this thread.

 

[Schlosser85]

Honestly, I'm kind of inclined to agree.

Everyone on Grindr isn't a ****e, but I know for a fact there are a lot of people on there who have boyfriends and are still cruising for hookups.

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

Don't like Grindr... never will.

If your in a relationship, then come off the app. You may not be looking for anything, but even so most people on it are only looking for one thing and it's not healthy for the individual or their partner.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Idk in my single days in LA Im not even sure i met anyone on grindr i met more friends/dates/and occasional hookup on probably a much grimier place (adam4adam) (hey don't judge at least its not craigslist or a bath house lol)

And i oddly met several of my best friends in LA there. Meeting friends can be very hard in a city where you don't know many people.

As for my time using grindr i maybe only met someone once or twice.... Most of the time it was just late at night and it was fun to flirt with someone and i felt attractive when they'd flirt back. But it was late at night and i know i was never serious about meeting up.. And once the chat was over id pass out lol.

That also seemed to be what my friends would use it for 80% of the time....

So Im not very harsh about it. My straight girlfriends have described dating sites the same way...

Its just simply very hard to meet people

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Okay I kept trying to resize this but this is the best I can do.

This kind of goes back to our past conversation regarding Grindr and I was just curious to how you guys would have reacted to a posting like this.

Spoiler

I know when last discussed I said Grindr was more purely sexual, but I wasn't knocking it. I mean I have a Grindr still(free and Xtra) and my boyfriend doesn't seem to care, but I also don't use it to hook up anymore. And this guy really just seems to be crazy bitter for personal reasons than actual reasons.

Thoughts?
Plus trying to put some life back into this thread.

lol, i do love the fact someone said "what happened to the old way of meeting people?" umm... does he not realize gay men use to meet other gay men mostly by Bathhouses and Bars? Not exactly classy either... and a bathhouse is easily more disgusting than a phone app imo... it's incredibly difficult for a gay guy to walk into a coffee shop and just assume someone is gay (this is also why imo we find so many "flamboyant" guys.. not necessarily because it's there personality.. but because they want hit on, so they don't want people questioning if they're gay or not. They want people to know it.

also.. Apps arn't to blame imo.. it's gross people and stupid people that are the blame... You don't cheat, you don't have unsafe sex with a hookup, and you just don't be stupid.

not to mention.. this josh guy is an idiot.. he's throwing a fit over grindr and saying how disgusting it is, and it's just used for hookups, than states how he doesn't use it for such things ... i mean really? 1) either he's lying or 2) he's being honest but illogical. Surely if he's not using it for such purposes ... there's others who arn't either. it's a bit hypocritical he said "id never date anyone off grindr because "once a ****e always a ****e" when.. he's still using the app? sorry.. but logic works both ways... it can't be ok for you but not for them.

i sorta feel like this is nothing more than a gay rant because he's lonely and angry. I was always taught that people who are happy with there lives don't judge, because they have no room for it. Miserable people judge. This guy seem's miserable as all hell to me. This stuff (if what he says is true) has no reflection on him so it shouldn't bother him (if he was happy)

$10 says josh has a shirtless pic on grindr