So Spidey, just because Supes is from Krypton, he isn't allowed to feel, oh, what's that word?
That's it - Human!
Because humans do stupid things, they make mistakes, the have issues. Supes knew Lois would be fine to handle herself, but felt that had he said goodbye to her, he might not leave. In order to do his duty (albeit self-appointed), he had to put any possible survivors of Krypton ahead of his relationship with Lois. THAT, is heroic. Putting the wants and needs of others above those of oneself, is one of the most heroic things one can do.
His then dealing with the consequences of that decision, to leave without saying goodbye, is where drama comes in, because, these days, so many people seem obsessed with absolving all responsibility and culpability of themselves, and it is good to see Supes actually saying "I'm sorry, it was stupid. I can only hope you understand and can forgive me" because that is what Superman is supposed to be; an example, a moral compass in a world where right and wrong are no longer clear-cut. Supes is accepting responsibility for making a bad choice to do the right thing (ie leaving is the bad choice, saving survivors is the right thing), and so saying that you must accept the consequences of your actions, because they often do speak louder than words.
Is that making any sense to you?
It is but you`re confusing the characters. You`re talking about Spider-man not Superman.
I`m going to explain my point of view for one last time so everyone gets it.
The Superman i know doesnt put one danger over the other. He tries to save everybody. NOW THAT IS TO BE HERO. He is not a good hero. HE IS THE ****ING BEST OF THEM ALL.
The Superman i know is an example and ALWAYS does the right thing and when he doesnt, its always with good intentions because he always puts others before him. Superman is always sure he will do the right thing. He just knows it. He knows how to do it. He learned that from the Kents. The Kents arent just a normal couple. They are the ****ing best parents in this world.
Lois & Clark relationship isnt like our relationship. They are an example of how couples should act.
A Superman who`s afraid of saying goodbye is a selfish, irresponsible, immature person and that is a OUT OF CHARACTER.
Clark Kent became a man and became a better person when he decided to use his powers for good. When a)Jonathan Kent died b)Tornado hits. Whatever u prefer, pre-crisis or post-crisis, is the same consequence. He becomes more than a man. An example.
He`s not just human. He is SUPERman. The best human!
The Superman i know WOULD Return to Krypton and WOULD explain to everybody why he`s leaving and especially to Lois.
Yes, leaving without saying goodbye is a conflict. However, Bryan Singer created a conflict thats is unnaceptable for the character of SM, IMO.
A conflict that fits the story he tried to tell but IT IS NOT a Superman story.
A Superman conflict is, for example:
-In STM, when a guy with all this powers realize he cant save everybody.
-Or in SII to be human or use my powers for good?
-Or to kill or not? like action comics#775, whatever happened to the man of tomorrow
-How to make the world a better place = the never-ending battle, Superman Peace on Earth, etc.
Bryan Singer is a great director but is not right for Superman
Him and most of the world only understands Marvel characters. They are like us, relatable, make mistakes. DC characters are based in archetypes, myths.
Singer Marvelized Superman, striped him away of the Super part of his character, personality IMO.
I dont care if he redeems himself through the film. The Superman i grew up with and learned to care and admire just wouldnt pass through this journey because he wouldnt commit this childish mistake in the first place.
Lets not get into the Richard/Jason/Whos the father problem in the future,Lois Lane without her spunkness, Dr Evil Luthor and his stupid goons, cut of pivotal scenes of the movie, the terrible costume and overall feeling of the movie.
Superman is a though character to write and Bryan Singer and his dynamic duo failed miserably, IMO.
Got it now?