How many times have you been heartbroken?

[Babs Gordon]

I think I remember replying to several of your posts about this relationship, giving you a guy's point of view.

I guess I missed out on the latter part of it.

it crashed and burned famously. he's such a *****e!

it's very fresh again because i saw him two weekends ago at a reunion for the place we both worked. it felt magnificent to feel so indifferent however... when he left without saying good bye to any of the eight friends who had driven hours to see each other i just got pissed. what a freakin idiot.

 

[Erzengel]

I'll get some more ice cream.

 

[Babs Gordon]

yeah i kinda polished off my frozen yogurt. i do have mozzarella sticks in the freezer left over from having students stay with me over thanksgiving break.

then again, i'm not really an "eat my feelings" kind of person. i usually lose my appetite during heartbreaks

 

[DBella]

I have one. This guy I had a crush on since I was 13 moved down the street from me. He was so amazing, we had so much in common, always had a blast together, and he was ridiculously hot. He used to drive all the way to my high school to pick me up even though he'd already graudated, it was so bad I even lied about my car being broken. I remeber how adorable he looked when he practiced with his band and exactly the color his eyes were when he looked at me while he was singing. There was this one night when we were hanging out and we both almost took the leap, but I guess we were both to afraid to make that move. He started dating some other chick and I was crushed. Just like he was when he found out I was engaged. It still hurts like hell for us to talk.

God, that sounds so pathetic. Young love sucks.

With the other one, we were both just too afraid to make the move and didn't want to ruin our friendship. And the other one is just an *******.

Aww... that was sweet. Or should I say, bittersweet. But I guess it wasn't meant to be.

I didn't know what love was until I turned 21. Prior to that I just had crushes that lasts no more than week. Then I'd get tired of the guy and move on. I was told I was heartless and cold. Now I'm just... numb.

 

[The Last Meatbag]

Just once...I guess..if being heartbroken is being pissed off and frusturated with someone...yeah

 

[tzarinna]

*pours a shot of whiskey,chugs from bottle*

 

[Erzengel]

Aww... that was sweet. Or should I say, bittersweet. But I guess it wasn't meant to be.

I didn't know what love was until I turned 21. Prior to that I just had crushes that lasts no more than week. Then I'd get tired of the guy and move on. I was told I was heartless and cold. Now I'm just... numb.

I wanna know what love is.....

I know you can show me....

 

[DBella]

I wanna know what love is.....

I know you can show me....

Sappy much? O how I love 80s music.

But you know what I mean. I kinda miss that feeling sometimes.

 

[Erzengel]

I kinda miss it too sometimes.

 

[Babs Gordon]

haha. i have moments of romantic stupidity.

this guy and i had been exchange students in the same town at the same school two different years and began e-mailing each other when i was there in belgium after he'd already returned. we had all the same friends but had never met. when i finally came home we decided to meet up since he was just one state over in new england. i can still feel the giddiness i felt when he first emailed me his picture... gorgeous. he came for the day and we went mountain biking and swimming at sunset, flirting and playing the whole time.

i was in love with him from the moment we met in person.

after that one fateful day i went off to college. when i came back for winter break he came down for a weekend. we went into boston together gallavanting around the north end singing "that's amore" ridiculously. we'd stay up late watching movies in my room. we'd swing dance in the living room. he'd con me into giving him a back rub and would put his arm around me for most of Blues Brothers. hell even my mom had a crush on this gorgeous, charming, kind guy.

ok... here's me being... so effing stupid. i literal could not believe he could like me. i honestly didn't think he had a thing for me. even now... nearly 7 years later i feel like the biggest a$$hole that ever lived. i went back to college and got myself a boyfriend in the first month. i even e-mailed him excitedly (perfectly innocently) thinking that he was just a friend and would be happy for me. after that he drove 7 hours each way twice to come and see me in college, boyfriend or no.

i barely gave him the time of day.

he and i stayed friends for a few more years but i haven't heard from him since earyly 2005. this is a TRUE what if. if i hadn't been the worlds biggest chump and had realized our true potential... ha.

 

[The Last Meatbag]

haha. i have moments of romantic stupidity.

this guy and i had been exchange students in the same town at the same school two different years and began e-mailing each other when i was there in belgium after he'd already returned. we had all the same friends but had never met. when i finally came home we decided to meet up since he was just one state over in new england. i can still feel the giddiness i felt when he first emailed me his picture... gorgeous. he came for the day and we went mountain biking and swimming at sunset, flirting and playing the whole time.

i was in love with him from the moment we met in person.

after that one fateful day i went off to college. when i came back for winter break he came down for a weekend. we went into boston together gallavanting around the north end singing "that's amore" ridiculously. we'd stay up late watching movies in my room. we'd swing dance in the living room. he'd con me into giving him a back rub and would put his arm around me for most of Blues Brothers. hell even my mom had a crush on this gorgeous, charming, kind guy.

ok... here's me being... so effing stupid. i literal could not believe he could like me. i honestly didn't think he had a thing for me. even now... nearly 7 years later i feel like the biggest a$$hole that ever lived. i went back to college and got myself a boyfriend in the first month. i even e-mailed him excitedly (perfectly innocently) thinking that he was just a friend and would be happy for me. after that he drove 7 hours each way twice to come and see me in college, boyfriend or no.

i barely gave him the time of day.

he and i stayed friends for a few more years but i haven't heard from him since earyly 2005. this is a TRUE what if. if i hadn't been the worlds biggest chump and had realized our true potential... ha.

Yeah, even though I'm like...9 years younger than you...I had that same experience....it sucks

 

[Erzengel]

Ah, but would you have given him the chance at the time? I mean in hindsight you kicked yourself but at that point in time, did you see him as anything more?

 

[Equint77]

you people are just solidifying my philosophy....

 

[Babs Gordon]

the guy? hellllll yes. i was so in love with him. everyone of my friends knew. i talked about him constantly. i was just too blind to realize that i could have him. the problem was that we were 7 hours apart and not in close enough contact. i really believed he was too good for which is ludicrous. i was too petrified to make a move on my own although i could have at any moment. self from now would have been all over that *****.

 

[batnkevlar]

So... what if it's multiple times to the same girl? What then?

 

[Babs Gordon]

i like my stitched up, stapled together, gnarled heart, thank you

 

[Babs Gordon]

with my ex of 4.5 years there were 4 solid heartbreaks. he dumped me three times (all of which he later regretted) and then i ended it after all (that was nearly as heartbreaking). i only count them all as one though.

 

[Erzengel]

the guy? hellllll yes. i was so in love with him. everyone of my friends knew. i talked about him constantly. i was just too blind to realize that i could have him. the problem was that we were 7 hours apart and not in close enough contact. i really believed he was too good for which is ludicrous. i was too petrified to make a move on my own although i could have at any moment. self from now would have been all over that *****.

This is my new favorite thread of the night. Bringing me back down memory lane to a time where I was just a skinny, nervous kid.

*sigh*

 

[Babs Gordon]

i was totally a skinny nervous dorky girl. i was a late bloomer so to speak. proud of it.

although that is by far the worst what if of them all. a few years down the road in like fall 2002 or something he left me a drunken message on my phone that said "i need you, i miss you, i wish you were here". but at that point i was so taken with my then boyfriend i was impervious to his (drunken) charm.

in 2005, the last time i heard from him he asked me to sail around the world with him. and he was serious.

 

[batnkevlar]

I'm not sure what to put...

i've gotten my heart broken by my ex (not in the breakup, but beforehand) and I'm still in love with her...

and i'm not sure about anyone else having as big of an impact...

 

[Erzengel]

It's times like this I wish there was a way to see what life would have been like if you made different decisions.

But then I remember I'm happy where I am now and wouldn't want to screw up the space time continuum by going back and changing anything. LOL

 

[Babs Gordon]

^true that. i love my job... my life. for the first time in years i don't have a crush on anyone. i'm truly flying solo and i LOVE it. i wouldn't change a second if it meant i couldn't have this.

 

[Erzengel]

^true that. i love my job... my life. for the first time in years i don't have a crush on anyone. i'm truly flying solo and i LOVE it. i wouldn't change a second if it meant i couldn't have this.

So how you doin?

 

[Babs Gordon]

quite well thank you

 

[Mr Sparkle]

many, many, many times