kainedamo
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I was watching this show this morning called Ed, you've probably seen or heard of it. An american comedy tv series. It's pretty good. In today's episode, the entire episode was a dream, Ed's lucid dream. What was good about Ed today was I could really see where he was coming from.
See, there's a girl he works with who he gets on with really well and he knows there is chemestry between them. He's afraid to ask her out and makes excuses about it. He decided to use the lucid dream experience to figure out what his problem was. He descovered that his entire life, he's been afraid of girls and relationships. He found that the reason for this is that he builds girls up in his mind. He builds and builds and builds them up, so that they're almost goddesses in his mind. When he was a very young boy, he didn't want to kiss the girl he fancied during a game of spin the bottle because he wanted the moment to be "perfect". Another time in his teens, he talked to a girl he liked and he was severly disappointed, because she just wasn't anywhere near as cool as he thought she would be. He puts girls on a pedestal. The reality can never be as good as the fantasy.
This is EXACTLY what I do. For some reason, for my entire life every girl I ever liked I've built them up in my head to be way better than they could possibly be. I build them up until they are these unattainable goddesses.
So Ed decided he was going to bite the bullet and just ask the girl out. But there was a problem... there's another girl he's fancied for a long time... so it's a sort of reality vs fantasy thing going on. Does he go for the reality or still keep holding onto the fantasy?
So... I know what my problem is... but I don't know how to fix it. I'm 22. I've only had sex with one girl... once... it was pretty terrible. I've been afraid of girls my whole life because in my head the girls I like are goddesses... and the problem only gets worse with age. How do I fix this?
See, there's a girl he works with who he gets on with really well and he knows there is chemestry between them. He's afraid to ask her out and makes excuses about it. He decided to use the lucid dream experience to figure out what his problem was. He descovered that his entire life, he's been afraid of girls and relationships. He found that the reason for this is that he builds girls up in his mind. He builds and builds and builds them up, so that they're almost goddesses in his mind. When he was a very young boy, he didn't want to kiss the girl he fancied during a game of spin the bottle because he wanted the moment to be "perfect". Another time in his teens, he talked to a girl he liked and he was severly disappointed, because she just wasn't anywhere near as cool as he thought she would be. He puts girls on a pedestal. The reality can never be as good as the fantasy.
This is EXACTLY what I do. For some reason, for my entire life every girl I ever liked I've built them up in my head to be way better than they could possibly be. I build them up until they are these unattainable goddesses.
So Ed decided he was going to bite the bullet and just ask the girl out. But there was a problem... there's another girl he's fancied for a long time... so it's a sort of reality vs fantasy thing going on. Does he go for the reality or still keep holding onto the fantasy?
So... I know what my problem is... but I don't know how to fix it. I'm 22. I've only had sex with one girl... once... it was pretty terrible. I've been afraid of girls my whole life because in my head the girls I like are goddesses... and the problem only gets worse with age. How do I fix this?
