if you could cheat on your significant other without them ever finding out,would you?

[Dorian Gray]

**** No....

 

[Kyalesyin]

I wouldn't. Mostly because I'd be throwing away years of great sex with someone who knows all my hotspots and all my kinks inside out for a few hours of more than likely mediocre sex with someone I don't give a damn about.

And before you say 'but they'd never find out', the only way she wouldn't find out is if I died for some reason straight after, because I am incapable of lying to my wife. Thats why I married her, because I can't lie to her.

 

[jaguarr]

oh cmon guys these posts are a bunch of LOAD..... you KNOW YOU would... if you wanted to cheat just tell her though... I'd still ask for permission but I'd still consider it.... and I'd let her #### someone else just to get even if I chose to cheat...

See, what you just did right there is called "mirroring", meaning you're taking your own values and reflecting them on everyone else and then judging them by that. And that's just wrong to do.



jag

 

[Kyalesyin]

I'm agreeing with Jag here.

Besides, even if you want to do someone else, whats to say your partner does? I actually can't imagine being intimate with anyone other than my wife. Not properly. I don't see how sex with someone else could even begin to compare.

 

[Babs Gordon]

I used to feel that way about my ex who i was with for 4.5 years, but now I definitely can't imagine having experiences with only one.

 

[Kyalesyin]

I'm not saying I'll never do anyone else- ever. I'd just have to be involved enough with them that I could actually be intimate. Couldn't be just a 'jump into bed' thing. Takes time... hard to do when you spend 99.9& of your free time with someone else.

 

[Babs Gordon]

Oh yeah I totally 100% agree. Psh I can't even kiss someone until I know them well, let alone be intimate.

 

[jaguarr]

I used to feel that way about my ex who i was with for 4.5 years, but now I definitely can't imagine having experiences with only one.

I think perceptions and values change as we age. When I was younger, I was always faithful to my girlfriends because I believe in relationships built on trust, honor and fidelity. However, I would also be quick to boot a girlfriend to the curb if I discovered any small reason to do so because, hey...life's too short to put up with someone's BS that you aren't even married to, right? Especially with so many fish in the sea. And that might have included dumping one so I could sleep with Angelina Jolie or whatever hot actress you want to put into the equation. Now that I'm married, I truly can't fathom life without my wife and am committed to that trust, honor and fidelity we share and wouldn't even think of doing something like that. I'm with her and her only. Sometimes fantasy is fun, but it's not something to enact into reality.

What's interesting is that the majority of the people in this thread saying they wouldn't cheat given the opportunity are already married. I'm sure that affects their consideration on the matter. Most people who aren't married don't really fully understand what it feels like to find that one person you truly want to spend the rest of your life with, and that does include people who are in long-term relationships but not sure if they're really with the person who they want to spend the rest of their lives with. It's just one of those things that, until you really experience it, you don't really fathom what it's like. That was certainly the case for me before I met my wife. And really, until you meet that perfect person for you, there's no reason to fathom it. You should be having fun and sowing your wild oats. When you finally meet that right person, part of knowing that in the first place is because you start to understand what I've been talking about.

jag

 

[Kyalesyin]

It took me and mine a year of being totally involved before we could even shower together. Sure, we were both a little younger and more insecure, but I've never found anyone else that I couldn't lie to and couldn't casually harm. I don't think I will.

 

[Lord Valumart]

it would depend on many many factorsif i was to cheat...such as who it was i was in the relationship with, who i was going to cheat on them with, how strong the relationship was, etc...

but no, cheating is not a good thing in any relationship and i stick by it unless very very drunk and in a bad relationship.

 

[terry78]

If you do it period, it's because you have issues with the person you're with. The excuse of, "they aren't there for me" or "I was just drunk" doesn't fly, as there was already some **** going on obviously that made you stray, regardless of the liquor or current pissed off feelings you may have. If you can go have a one night stand with someone and come right back to your girlfriend/boyfriend and not bat an eye, something is wrong.

 

[Movies205]

I think it's a gross misconception that all guys are jerks and think with their *****. I mean... come on. Some are decent and kind and would never hurt someone else that way.

All men think with there *****, it simply that some have a brains and realize there are things they shouldn't do... However it's questions like this which make me think that Lord of the Flies is right about people

 

[Super Kal]

no.

 

[jaguarr]

All men think with there *****, it simply that some have a brains and realize there are things they shouldn't do... However it's questions like me which make me think that Lord of the Flies is right about people

Indeed, Moofiestwo-oh-five. Indeed.

jag

 

[Movies205]

So uh... Jag... You mind um... editing the post... so um... you know... people focused on what I said... and not some silly typo.....

 

[Kyalesyin]

Silly, but very amusing typo...

 

[Kaleb]

no I cant do that

 

[jaguarr]

So uh... Jag... You mind um... editing the post... so um... you know... people focused on what I said... and not some silly typo.....

Why on earth would I do that? Maybe you subconsciously meant what you said the first time.

jag

 

[Darthphere]

No. These type of questions are slanted a bit because, yeah there's no way a woman won't find out and then cut off your balls.

 

[Superman4ever]

Never.

 

[Kritish]

Hell no.

Elisha?

 

[Kritish]

See, what you just did right there is called "mirroring", meaning you're taking your own values and reflecting them on everyone else and then judging them by that. And that's just wrong to do.



jag

No Jag, like this?

"Did god put you in the stupid mold and extra dumb juice?" :drphil:

 

[The Man Of 16]

How could I cheat on my right hand with my left hand? They bathe together all the time.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

No. These type of questions are slanted a bit because, yeah there's no way a woman won't find out and then cut off your balls.

im pretty sure its entirely possible for a person not to get caught cheating.

 

[Darthphere]

im pretty sure its entirely possible for a person not to get caught cheating.

Women know, women know.