Sure, he tried to live as normal a life as he could, within his responsibilities as Spider-Man. He dated, went to college, did all the things a "normal" person would do, but he always remained a man apart. His responsibilities as SM kept him from fulling realizing a "normal" life as Peter Parker. The tragedy came from without. And tragedy and loss defined Pete. When he tried to truly have a regular life, something from his spider-life would interfer and remind him of his responsibility to something greater than himself. Marriage, especially to MJ was, for me, a violation of everything I'd come to respect about the character.
In that context, much as I disagree with the way Marvel did it, I can understand the Mephisto deal. Pete sacrificed something important to him, his marriage, to achieve what he thought was a greater, non-selfish good, saving Aunt May. Now, people can, and certainly do, disagree with that take on the character, but Pete did, and does, make mistakes. He tries to do his best, or what he thinks is the right thing. Sometimes he's wrong. But that's understandable. My problem with The Other is that it re-wrote the whole purpose of the character and the accidental nature of the kid bitten by the radioactive spider and what chain of events that set up. Remember, if Pete hadn't chosen not to stop the killer, he may well have had a career in the entertainment industry. It was his personal mistake the set forth the chain of events leading to his career as a crime fighter. Thats the pathos of the character. His mistake leads to tragedy, a tragedy he tries to rectify. That's very different from the Superman/Batman/Captain America archetypes of other costumed heroes.
The marriage went against WGPCGR and the character's essence, in my view. But hey, people can, and do, disagree with that view. And, at the day's end, Marvel owns the character and has the final say as to what it's all about. No one's interpretation of what the character is all about matters except for Marvel's, really. Your interest in reading SM may be quite different from mine. I respect that. Even while I disagree with you, I can understand where you are coming from.
In that context, much as I disagree with the way Marvel did it, I can understand the Mephisto deal. Pete sacrificed something important to him, his marriage, to achieve what he thought was a greater, non-selfish good, saving Aunt May. Now, people can, and certainly do, disagree with that take on the character, but Pete did, and does, make mistakes. He tries to do his best, or what he thinks is the right thing. Sometimes he's wrong. But that's understandable. My problem with The Other is that it re-wrote the whole purpose of the character and the accidental nature of the kid bitten by the radioactive spider and what chain of events that set up. Remember, if Pete hadn't chosen not to stop the killer, he may well have had a career in the entertainment industry. It was his personal mistake the set forth the chain of events leading to his career as a crime fighter. Thats the pathos of the character. His mistake leads to tragedy, a tragedy he tries to rectify. That's very different from the Superman/Batman/Captain America archetypes of other costumed heroes.
The marriage went against WGPCGR and the character's essence, in my view. But hey, people can, and do, disagree with that view. And, at the day's end, Marvel owns the character and has the final say as to what it's all about. No one's interpretation of what the character is all about matters except for Marvel's, really. Your interest in reading SM may be quite different from mine. I respect that. Even while I disagree with you, I can understand where you are coming from.