Oh? You believe she's being portrayed as his equal? Sorry, but I'm not. I'm seeing this:
"Big Pharoah & His Knee-High Queen." 
Storm's character has been watered down...diminished. It's not just that she's taken a back seat to him. She's just so damn sappy
around him. Even when she was romantically involved with Forge she was never this...well, weak. I mean, it
is good to see a vulnerable side of her...but I don't believe the compromise has been equally shown in T'Challa. Do you?
One of my biggest issues surrounds their microwaved marriage. No time was spent developing their relationship. Just a retcon. Even you admitted that the whole process was boring. And I agree...it was empty because there was no history behind it, no substance. Considering how popular Storm is, it
could've been HUGE...had the concept been given some time to incubate longer.
Perhaps if we had been given a year to see this bond between them grow I could more readily believe her newfound "freeness" around him. But to go from 30 years of her being so stoic and emotionally guarded to this euphoric "School-girl"-like behavior in all of like 2 issues...it just felt wrong.
For example: she's been chastised often by him for getting "out of line". Now, that in itself is not my biggest gripe--I
expect T'Challa's arrogance to move him that direction (that's what makes him great), but it's her "doting" "What's wrong Beloved?" reactions that are sooooooooo out of character. Storm is not one that needs to be told that "conflicts cannot be resolved with a kiss"--
she knows that. She's extremely intelligent--especially when it comes to tech. Yet, she asks him the most dumbass of questions about things like jets, etc. Why? To play up T'Challa's character.
It's not balanced to me, Anubis.
Sure she's intelligent, but I mean, think about her position here. She's never really been in this kinda role before. we're talking about having to play international peace maker, for a nation that isn't even her own. I chalk it up to simply taking time to learn her place in the monarcy. Aparently she weilds more power than she relizes. At the momment, she's just gonna have to defur to the guy that's been running s**t for the last fifteen years. At least for now. That could change, and it will by all indications of upcoming events.
Actually, I've been collecting BP since Priest had the run. And the X-Men? Well, since 1981. So I knew both characters rather thoroughly before this marriage. And the things they do and say now are just off-target
("You've got me straight trippin' boo?" When did the King Of Wakanda get hood!?

) I agree with you: Storm is a unique role now--and I appreciate the concept. But I disagree that it's being actioned off well.
I'm willing to let it slide because it was an alternate universe version of the character.
Storm's eyes have been that way since she was
created man. It's her iconic trademark. So now she's married and they've stopped working?

If you're going to win new readers over, why not keep the things they know consistent?
Rumor: I read somewhere here (or it might have been Newsrama) that he told artists to stop drawing her that way because it makes her seem too powerful and godly--a level that a human like T'Challa can't attain. Not sure how true that is because if I recall, her eyes did whiten during mutant manifestations early on in Hudlin's run. I agree it's a minor detail, but it's a part of her characterization...and if it's been taken out to downplay her "power", then I think it's wrong.