My wife just left us

[stryfe]

dude go file those divorce papers!!! and stop being on the freakin 'puter.

My daughter is sleeping. I have to go to work at 5am and somehow manage to get her to daycare for 7 WHILE making enough hours/money at work so I can pay for said daycare and get to work. Its 8pm. I have no place to go but bed and in the room I am in.

 

[twylight]

Pfft, I never sign pre-nups. You're confusing me with Master Bruce.

The second and thrid husbands are so easily confused. >.<

You can come live with me

But the Lamborgini!

I miss him. We were best friends

He's been gone?

Sheesh, I come back and find he's not even here anymore...

 

[ShadowBoxing]

I just left the military. I dont have any money. Im in that spot right after sercive but before getting a career. Im ****ed.

I knew you were in the military, you mentioned it earlier. So, yeah I was concerned about your money situation. However she can still take money from you, in some cases money you don't have.

Lawyer's are expensive, no lie. But in this case worth it. Being in the military I am sure you have access to lawyers or know lawyers somewhere.

There are some real horror stories out there, and as I say not the scare you, but it's important to make sure those don't become your reality.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

But the Lamborgini!

We can get it back. Don't worry I know some good law students here.

 

[stryfe]

I knew you were in the military, you mentioned it earlier. So, yeah I was concerned about your money situation. However she can still take money from you, in some cases money you don't have.

Lawyer's are expensive, no lie. But in this case worth it. Being in the military I am sure you have access to lawyers or know lawyers somewhere.

There are some real horror stories out there, and as I say not the scare you, but it's important to make sure those don't become your reality.

God I hope not. I dont need anymore ****ty things in my life. Everything was suppose to get better after my service, yet it seems to be falling apart. Im so tired.

 

[hippie_hunter]

The second and thrid husbands are so easily confused. >.<

 

[stryfe]

Im going to bed. Maybe ill wake up and find out this is a bad dream. Thanks for helping. I know its a message board but even still it helps to let it out.

 

[twylight]

We can get it back. Don't worry I know some good law students here.

You Better!

 

[twylight]

After you left it was just downhill for me. No one else compared...

 

[hippie_hunter]

After you left it was just downhill for me. No one else compared...

There's always reconciliation

 

[Lackey]

After you left it was just downhill for me. No one else compared...

you said I was the best you ever had

 

[Batty for Bats!]

That sucks.

 

[Erzengel]

Was she like this before you got married?

 

[twylight]

There's always reconciliation

I have Shadow now...and then theirs my steady's...

you said I was the best you ever had

You are, but it's about money to.

 

[DOG LIPS]

Was she like this before you got married?

Erz, please stay on topic.

 

[Erzengel]

Please all you would be suitors for Twy. She knows not to settle.

 

[X-Ray]

That sucks dude. I guess you can just go to her work place tomorrow and see if she'll talk things out with you then. Not to try to lure her back but to figure out why. I'm bored of you and the kid isn't gonna cut it !!!

I also see that you're former military. Could Veteran Affair being of any help in this case ? Link.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

God I hope not. I dont need anymore ****ty things in my life. Everything was suppose to get better after my service, yet it seems to be falling apart. Im so tired.

Everyone's life sucks. I'm tired. I have all these goals and although I'm successful thus far, the more I accomplish the more I want to accomplish. Thus all the time I feel tired.

I will tell you this. Something I am guilty of, something we are all guilty of. I get caught up in things.

Look at this world, it's just one giant tombstone, with an epitaph that no one will ever read. So what do we do, we just build more and more stuff, do more and more research trying to figure it out.

We ain't never going to figure life out, never. It is not our job to figure it out.

If there is an explanation to all this, maybe there is a curse on our heads. All this energy, all this drive and then this messed up world. This world where nothing is fair, nothing is free. Maybe this is what hell is like. Maybe it was so we don't figure all his sh** out.

But you know what we got one thing in this whole world. We got time. That's all we got. And whether you want to waste it and leave or use what little got is up to you.

But for me, miserable or not, this place is better than nothing. Just try to the best of the time you got.

 

[lazur]

I just left the military. I dont have any money. Im in that spot right after sercive but before getting a career. Im ****ed.

Gah, this sounds more and more like my situation. I was in the Air Force when my ex left, and I got out a few months later. Had to move in with my mom for a few months.

 

[hippie_hunter]

I have Shadow now...and then theirs my steady's...

Yet, you say that everything is downhill.

Wouldn't you like to go back uphill, to the top of the mountain and take back what you say is the best

 

[tzarinna]

Of course I'm late.

I'm really sorry to hear this,stryfe.

But it seems you've gotten some good solid advice,,chalk one up to message boards

Stay strong and don't try to do it all on your own.

 

[Spider-X]

Do I want someone who keeps trying to quit on my baby and I back?

Are problems really started when I found out she lied to me about how many guys she had been with and even how long it had been. Lets just say it was more then twice the amount she claimed and more recently then she told. Then she also drops the bomb she was a lesbian for a while and that she was chatting with this girl on AIM behind my back.

She never saw the problem.

JERRY!!! JERRY!!!







sorry ...couldn't let an opportunity like that go, hope things work out in your favor man, sounds like you got dealt the wrong card on this one...or the whole deck for that matter.

 

[Arkady Rossovich]

My wife walked into the room said shes wasnt happy and was leaving. We have a 5 month old baby. The baby is still with me. Im not sure what to do. Advice?

BTW she left.

Right now?Call the police then,im sure there are some laws to prevent this kind of thing.You can force her to pay child support for the baby,divorse.Do not let this go,you must do something.

 

[jaguarr]

Many women go through hard adjustment periods after giving birth, and that may be part of what's going on with your wife. They blink and realize/think that the rest of their life is pretty much mapped out for them and suddenly don't like the idea of being tied to one person and a kid for the rest of their lives. Sort of like buyer's remorse only much worse If she's unwilling to sit down and talk through things and sort them out and, advisably, seek some marriage counseling with you, then Shadow's advice is sound. Best of luck to you, stryfe. I know you're in a very tough position. Seek support from your family and friends and be there for your baby no matter what.

jag

You really cannot do anything for right now.

If she wants a divorce, I'd go consult an attorney and make sure you an agreement as to which assets are yours and which are hers.

You'll probably have a custody battle at some point, and she may want the child. It's usually advised that women at least attempt to gain custody since there is usually a considerable amount of money in it for them if they do.

The main thing you can do right now is try to sit down and work out terms for a peaceful (hopefully) divorce. Because trust me, you don't want that decision to be made in a room where you are not present.

Other than that, sorry to hear this.

 

[Superman]

Was you guys having trouble before the baby? If she just had a baby 5 months ago she might be going though "Post-Parten Depression". That might explain all of this. It's happned before.

Just a thought.