Nice guys DO finish last

[Kyalesyin]

I know one nice guy- he's gay, and he likes to be the pseudo-boyfriend when I go clubbing, so that other guys leave me alone.

He has more balls than the threadstarter.

 

[Ghostrider87]

I need to vent a little, and this is the first place I thought of.

Here’s my situation.

I’m 20 years old, and I am in deeply love with a girl. She’s beautiful, like… AMAZINGLY gorgeous… and she’s also my best friend in the whole world. I’ve loved her since 6th grade… back before I even knew what love was. She doesn’t know how I feel about her.

The problem is, she has a boyfriend, and he is also my friend.

He treats her like absolute garbage.
He calls her “trash”.
He won’t return her calls.
He’s always too busy to be with her.
He never makes time for her.
He has cheated on her numerous times (and we know this).
He has been demanding her to have sex with him since the first month they were dating, and she’s been saying no ever since (which is why he cheats).

They’ve been together for 3 ½ years.

She won’t dump him. She’s afraid of being alone. She was abused as a child, so the abuse from her boyfriend makes her feel “normal”, because being treated like garbage is the only thing she’s ever known since childhood. If she were to be treated like gold... it would be a very different experience for her, and it would almost feel strange, since it’s against everything she was treated like when she was little.

The three of us go to separate colleges… but she is transferring to my college next year.

That makes me happy, but at the same time, it makes me nervous that I won’t be able to hide my feelings for her any more.

She calls me every day, and every night… and we talk for roughly 3 hours a day. She talks to her boyfriend for about 10 minutes everyday (or some days not at all, because he doesn’t “feel like it”).

She and I have a strong connection. She means the world to me (although I’m not sure the feeling is mutual). I’ve spent the night at her house numerous times (without her boyfriend knowing), and I am always there for her when she is down (and just there, period).

Honestly, I love her.

I’d do anything for her. I wish she could know that I would treat her way better than this guy ever would. I would hold her, cherish her, kiss her, cuddle with her when she’s having a bad day… I would freakin’ love her until it made her sick. I would love her TOO MUCH... lol.

I wish she could know that she doesn’t have to be treated like garbage. I wish she could know that there is a guy right here who is head over heels for her.


She doesn’t know I feel this way. She doesn’t know that she would be treated like the queen she is if I was with her… and that I would put her high on her pedestal, and show off to the world that I’m the luckiest man in the universe for having such a gift from God.

But you see, the thing is… I can’t tell her these things.

She’s my best friend.

Two things could happen if I told her:

1.) She feels the same way, she dumps her boyfriend, and her and I live happily ever after.
2.) She DOESN’T feel the same way, and our friendship is strange forever, and possibly destroyed... because she now knows how I feel about her.

So, because I can’t tell her how I feel, she will remain to be treated like crap, and I will remain to have a heart that aches because I can’t be with her. Every time she calls me, and I see her name on my phone, my heart just ACHES at the fact that I have to listen to how this queen is being treated like garbage… and I can’t do a damn thing about it.

Nice guys finish last… and my life is a living hell because of it.


My question is… what would you do? Would you risk 8 years of friendship to tell her how you feel? Or would you keep it a secret forever and always be her best friend, without any consequences?

Help me.





EDIT: So I had to edit some stuff because some people aren't mature enough to read it seriously. They'd rather call me a creepy stalker, as opposed to just a normal guy who has feelings for a girl. For christ's sakes.

My suggestion would be to tell her how you feel. If you don't and just keep it bottled up inside it could be really bad. Also tell her that she doesn't deserved to be treated like trash and that she should break up with him and find someone else that will treat her way better than this rude inconsidrate insensitve jerk that she is with right now. The guy she is with is the kind of guy that screws up most future relationships with any other guys because they the women that were treated horrible and like trash think that all guys are the same and that there are no nice guys out there.

 

[Duende Verde]

My suggestion would be to tell her how you feel. If you don't and just keep it bottled up inside it could be really bad. Also tell her that she doesn't deserved to be treated like trash and that she should break up with him and find someone else that will treat her way better than this rude inconsidrate insensitve jerk that she is with right now. The guy she is with is the kind of guy that screws up most future relationships with any other guys because they the women that were treated horrible and like trash think that all guys are the same and that there are no nice guys out there.

I believe this thread's hilarity potential has increased.t:

 

[Kyalesyin]

My suggestion would be to tell her how you feel. If you don't and just keep it bottled up inside it could be really bad. Also tell her that she doesn't deserved to be treated like trash and that she should break up with him and find someone else that will treat her way better than this rude inconsidrate insensitve jerk that she is with right now. The guy she is with is the kind of guy that screws up most future relationships with any other guys because they the women that were treated horrible and like trash think that all guys are the same and that there are no nice guys out there.

Then, once you've finished telling her that, give her the gun.

 

[Superman79]

I know one nice guy- he's gay, and he likes to be the pseudo-boyfriend when I go clubbing, so that other guys leave me alone.

He has more balls than the threadstarter.

POW!!

But hey, truth hurts...and truth is TF needs to suck it up and act...

 

[Kyalesyin]

POW!!

But hey, truth hurts...and truth is TF needs to suck it up and act...

Yup. Or just get laid and forget about her.

 

[Superman79]

Then, once you've finished telling her that, give her the gun.

Hey, give GR87's advice some time...remember he DID manage to woo a Hooters girl into flirting with him... t:

 

[ck51100]

He has more balls than the threadstarter.

Ouch.

 

[Superman79]

Yup. Or just get laid and forget about her.

I knew there was a reason I liked you Ky

 

[Kyalesyin]

Hey, give GR87's advice some time...remember he DID manage to woo a Hooters girl into flirting with him... t:

Yeah. He's also ugly as ****.

 

[Kyalesyin]

I knew there was a reason I liked you Ky

Getting laid can solve so many problems. Makes me glad I have a very sexy wife.

 

[Superman79]

Yeah. He's also ugly as ****.

LOL!!!

 

[Superman79]

EDIT: Double post

 

[ges681]

dude, Man-up and tell her. Maybe she talks to you so much and likes you, but is waiting for you to TELL HER so it isnt akward for her to tell you since she is dating your friend

 

[jaguarr]

My suggestion would be to tell her how you feel. If you don't and just keep it bottled up inside it could be really bad. Also tell her that she doesn't deserved to be treated like trash and that she should break up with him and find someone else that will treat her way better than this rude inconsidrate insensitve jerk that she is with right now. The guy she is with is the kind of guy that screws up most future relationships with any other guys because they the women that were treated horrible and like trash think that all guys are the same and that there are no nice guys out there.

I know you mean well, but maybe you ought to just sit this one out, champ.

jag

 

[Mr Sparkle]

hooters pimp FTW!!!! W007!!!!

 

[Ghostrider87]

I know you mean well, but maybe you ought to just sit this one out, champ.

jag

I am not sitting this one out.

 

[Erzengel]

In all honesty, besides that fact that TF and this girl have been best friends for 8 years, the fact that she's dating an a'hole boyfriend, the fact that she's moving to his school next year, even if she did have some hidden feelings for him, she's been abused as a child and from what TF has been saying I don't think she's gotten any therapy. Any "relationship" with this girl would just be doomed from the start.

 

[Erzengel]

I am not sitting this one out.

Told you jag.

 

[Kyalesyin]

In all honesty, besides that fact that TF and this girl have been best friends for 8 years, the fact that she's dating an a'hole boyfriend, the fact that she's moving to his school next year, even if she did have some hidden feelings for him, she's been abused as a child and from what TF has been saying I don't think she's gotten any therapy. Any "relationship" with this girl would just be doomed from the start.

You speak the truth

 

[chamber-music]

dude, Man-up and tell her. Maybe she talks to you so much and likes you, but is waiting for you to TELL HER so it isnt akward for her to tell you since she is dating your friend

MAN-UP!!!

 

[jaguarr]

I am not sitting this one out.

Then prepare to be mocked, virgin.

jag

 

[Kyalesyin]

I am not sitting this one out.

Hi.

I'm Kaz, and this is my ass.

Vote for me in the deathmatches and I'll post more pictures.

 

[kainedamo]

I think TempleFugit should declare his love on msn.

Or, he should move onto another girl that would actually appreciate him.

 

[Ghostrider87]

Hey, give GR87's advice some time...remember he DID manage to woo a Hooters girl into flirting with him... t:

How about you stop making fun of people. Oh wait you can't probally because you have very well low self esteem and the only way you can build it up is by talking bad about peole to build yourself up. The way you keep at it it won't be long before some retaliates by hitting you. Maybe then you will think twice about what you say but if not you will still just be an insenstive jerk that likes to start fights.