I'm really surprised at what i'm hearing. You all really didn't like the ending? I've heard some pretty....interesting excuses as to why this isn't good so i'll try and say it why it is a good ending.
Be mindful that this is my opinion, I've read Batman comics for years and am full-versed on his mythology, I'm not trying to disrepect anyone just trying to bring some clarity.
CConn: How was dumb that the bat-family got tricked into believing their faces were gone? I believed it the moment I saw it, I couldn't but think "What kind of tech will allow their faces to be reattached?". It has nothing to do with strength or smarts when you're dealing with a psychopath. If anything that's what this arc proved. That no matter how prepared you are, how strong you are, how good you are, sometimes someone will have your number and be able to outhink you. He didn't dumb down the characters at all, he played upon what happened in the previous issues and in the tie-ins to create a believeable scenario. They see that the others faces are bandaged and covered in blood, the Joker had his own face removed why wouldn't they believe he would do the same to them? Damian, the toughest kid in the DCU, was afraid that his face was gone and asked Batman how he looked, that's believable, even Batman was suprised when it was a bluff.
Kguillou: I didn't really want a bang, that's not what the Batman/Joker stories are supposed to be about, they're about proving a point. The Killing Joke was about proving that one bad day can turn anyone into a guy like the Joker, Arkham Asylum was about proving that it's Batman's true home. Death of the Family was to prove that Batman needed the Joker and the Joker alone. That the family made him weak. I didn't expect a huge fistfight or the death of a family member or the batcave blowing up, I want good dialogue, good progression of the characters. And that's what I got.
stillanerd: I understand what you're saying, really I do, but you're not thinking about some of this in the right perspective. Mainly the part about the Joker and his past. Part of the enigma of the Joker is that we don't truly know who is or was. You say he doesn't care about his past, but The Killing Joke shows that he does, one bad day and all that remember? Second just he doesn't care doesn't mean he wants everyone to know. Especially Batman. It's just like the Riddler said once, "when a riddle is known by all it's useless", Batman is a master detective yet he could (until now) never figure out who Joker was. That drove him crazy not being able to figure that out. And Joker used that against him, so when Batman said he knew it scared Joker, his biggest secret was out, the playing field was level for the first time. And as for the Bat-family hating Bruce that hasn't happened in this scale in recent tenure. The Bat-Family is famous for always being there for one another, Battle for the Cowl, Hush, and others showed that they had each others back. Then its revealed that there greatest nemesis may have known about them all along? Of course they should feel betrayed, especially after what happens because of that. And i'm sorry but I couldn't help but laugh when after the battle was over and the Joker had "lost" and the Bat-Family had split and Bruce was all alone at the Batcomputer that the final word we see is "HA". That's poetry.
i'm not trying to prove anything here, I'm just trying to show another viewpoint. Death of the Family was meant as a battle between Batman and Joker, a culmination of a long and bloody history. And I believe it did that. Did it have epic moments? Yes. Did it a resound effect on the Bat-books? Yes, and time should prove that. Did we get insight into both Batman and Joker that we hadn't had before? Yes depending on what you've read.
We should appreciate this for it is, not for what we wanted it to be.
I thank you for your time.