*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[Mac_Hine]

Yeah dish out some dirt ;p

 

[S.A.A.D.]

Honestly this whole confidence thing is stupid imo,it just sound like false and bullcrap hope if you ask me. It's of no use if you're not one of the most dullest and plainest looking dudes in the world.

 

[Anita18]

Honestly this whole confidence thing is stupid imo,it just sound like false and bullcrap hope if you ask me. It's of no use if you're not one of the most dullest and plainest looking dudes in the world.

It's totally fine if you're one of the dullest and plainest looking dudes in the world. Confidence is being okay with that.

I'm perfectly boring and not particularly a looker, but I'm okay with that. That's confidence.

 

[BlackLantern]

and on the other side of that coin, don't act like your entitled to Super McHottie because of that confidence

Ive seen guys get all bent out of shape because the hottest girl at a party or bar won't give them the time of day but there are plenty of other women around and they center in on this one target

 

[Erzengel]

Confidence has served me well over the years. Putting people on pedestals and thinking you have absolutely no shot with them seems rather silly to me.

 

[NotAHenchwench]

Whatever happened to just being happy with who you are?

 

[AndThePickles]

Whatever happened to just being happy with who you are?

I think that is where the confidence should factor in. Be confident in who you are, no matter what.

 

[BlackLantern]

Whatever happened to just being happy with who you are?

not good enough

I kid, I kid....ive just hit the point in my life where I don't give a hoot

 

[NotAHenchwench]

not good enough

I kid, I kid....ive just hit the point in my life where I don't give a hoot

And ironically enough, THAT's the kind of confidence more people need.

 

[Anubis]

Ain't it the truth.

 

[enterthemadness]

So after some small talk on Facebook IM, i asked out the woman that a friend is setting me up with as a FWB and she said yes. We be eating somewhere Sunday...and seeing where it goes. but me nervous. Like...since she knows we be FWB...like...I'm just nervous.

EDIT--Well, not asked out, but like if she would like to do something and sahe said yes and it led to getting something to eat. Ah....

 

[The Squirrel]

I don't think FWB is ever a good idea.

 

[enterthemadness]

I don't think FWB is ever a good idea.

Well, my life is a mess right now...

 

[Trainwreck2100]

Well, my life is a mess right now...

just don't get attached

 

[Erzengel]

So after some small talk on Facebook IM, i asked out the woman that a friend is setting me up with as a FWB and she said yes. We be eating somewhere Sunday...and seeing where it goes. but me nervous. Like...since she knows we be FWB...like...I'm just nervous.

EDIT--Well, not asked out, but like if she would like to do something and sahe said yes and it led to getting something to eat. Ah....

I don't think FWB is ever a good idea.

Well, my life is a mess right now...

Have you ever had a relationship with someone?

just don't get attached

Because, yeah dollars to donuts says you will become attached.

 

[NotAHenchwench]

Have you ever had a relationship with someone?

All signs are pointing to no.

 

[Erzengel]

Well I wanted a confirmation.

But, Immortal, chances are if you become friendly with this girl, you may inevitably just start developing feelings for her. She will probably be the only real female in your life and spending time with her will probably just make you attached to her.

The reason I bring up if you ever have been in a relationship with a woman, is because it seems you have lack in experience involving women and relationships. If you think you can just be FWB, you aren't aware of the feelings you may develop. Standing on the outside looking in, you may logically think, well I don't have a stable job, car, etc. I'm not in a position for a girlfriend. That all goes out the window once you start liking a girl and the position you put yourself in that emotionally it maybe hard to get out of.

Honestly, I don't think you can handle a FWB, I think you'll develop feelings eventually.

 

[enterthemadness]

All signs are pointing to no.

Pretty much, unless if you count two long distance ones.

And Erz...I won't fall in love with woman. I can't let it happen.

 

[BlackLantern]

its usually not up to you....logic tends to get tossed out the window when we are presented with something that we want

 

[Erzengel]

Pretty much, unless if you count two long distance ones.

And Erz...I won't fall in love with woman. I can't let it happen.

Hahahahaha.

You don't really control or let it happen. LOL

Emotions aren't turned off and on like that.

Quick story, I was dating this girl, who wasn't really the right one for me, but she ending up calling it quits in our relationship. From that, I just wanted to go out and date and keep things strictly platonic, dated a few girls at the same time, but one in particular, I was spending a lot of time with and although, I wanted to play the field more, I realized I developed feelings for her.

 

[Carcharodon]

And Erz...I won't fall in love with woman. I can't let it happen.

It may be out of your control, unless there's something particular about the person that repulses you. Both during and after intercourse, hormones are released that may serve to induce "love," in a manner of speaking (I think it's oxytocin in females, and the males release something else). I'm not sure how many studies have been performed on humans to this effect, but it's well documented in certain species of mice which tend to engage in "monogamous sexual relationships" (or something close to it).

Of course, this doesn't guarantee you'll fall in love. But there's a chance that the more you get your groove on together, the more likely it will become. There is a very real chemical basis for such emotions.

 

[Anubis]

This....kinda sounds to me like your friend just hooked you up with some hoe who is willing to bang you. Am I reading this right? I mean, it's not like there's anything wrong with that, but that is what it sounds like.

 

[enterthemadness]

This....kinda sounds to me like your friend just hooked you up with some hoe who is willing to bang you. Am I reading this right? I mean, it's not like there's anything wrong with that, but that is what it sounds like.

Yes, pretty much, don't know if she is hoe though, and don't say that, that term offends ladies. funny enough I been called hoe before by friend when working at walmart, ah, memories of cracking jokes while I should had been working...luxury of being cart pusher.

 

[Erzengel]

Ignore whatever I said. Just take what you can get.

 

[enterthemadness]

Ignore whatever I said. Just take what you can get.

One of these days you should really give me advice in Yoda Speak...