*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[Erzengel]

Well need more money to move out...

I use to tell JAL when he still posted here. You have options. Put yourself into debt and go to college, join the military, do construction work or geez work on a fishing boat.

There are jobs out there, you just have to make sacrifices if you need to.

 

[enterthemadness]

I use to tell JAL when he still posted here. You have options. Put yourself into debt and go to college, join the military, do construction work or geez work on a fishing boat.

There are jobs out there, you just have to make sacrifices if you need to.

I really rather not go into debt. Sooner or later I may though for school. And I'll go back to Community sometime 2011. I imagine Fall.

 

[Assassin]

So there are three girls I really like.
None of them will make a move even though they flirt with me like crazy.
And I'm bad at picking...

what do i do?

 

[Erzengel]

I really rather not go into debt. Sooner or later I may though for school. And I'll go back to Community sometime 2011. I imagine Fall.

You'll eventually pay off your school loans with a job after you graduate.

I'm not sure what job you think you can get now that's going to give you enough money to front your entire college career.

 

[Erzengel]

So there are three girls I really like.
None of them will make a move even though they flirt with me like crazy.
And I'm bad at picking...

what do i do?

Make a move on all 3 and see what happens.

 

[Assassin]

haha erz, that's a jman post he had in the complaint thread, i posted it here for advise from this side of town.

 

[Erzengel]

Yeah I thought that was odd. I wasn't sure women were your thing.

 

[Assassin]

Yeah I thought that was odd. I wasn't sure women were your thing.

they are, i'm just not one to ask advise on the interwebs

 

[Anubis]

Try a game of Word association.

Say the first thing that pops into your head for each of these words

Frog

Cat

Ice

girlfriend

Whichever name popped into your head first is the one you go after.....or, don't. I care not.

 

[Anita18]

You'll eventually pay off your school loans with a job after you graduate.

I'm not sure what job you think you can get now that's going to give you enough money to front your entire college career.

Community college is pretty cheap. If you go into it with the mindset that you ARE going to get something out of it, you can do a lot.

But yeah, thinking that you're going to pay for all your schooling right off the bat is a fool's errand. Unless you've got some rich relatives who can sponsor you.

That is very true. Something I believe strongly in. Even when guys get girls nowadays, like Joan from Mad Men said, they are looking for something in between a mom and a waitress.

Even when guys aren't looking for a girl like that, they eventually get a girl with those kinds of qualities. A coworker of mine is a great scientist, but she also plays mother to her husband, because he literally can't function without her.

Just recently I had to go and make sure my bf wasn't doing anything stupid.

 

[lixdexia]

but doesn't that have more to do with you needing to take care of someone than him needing a mom?

 

[Anubis]

These kinda people find each other.

 

[Hound55]

Try a game of Word association.

Say the first thing that pops into your head for each of these words

Frog

GIRLS!

Cat

GIRLS!

Ice

GIRLS!

girlfriend

Scared...

Heh.

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

Umm, if you believe that someone should be with you because you're spending a lot of money on her (or that she's spending time with you because of the money you spend on her), maybe you ought to reconsider your approach?

I dont mean that at all, I just meant after spending a lot of money on her and treating her well I expected to be treated a bit better by her. Apparently not, oh well, I aint gonna dwell on it!

 

[Erzengel]

What was the circumstances that you spent money on her? I thought you only went out once or twice?

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

What was the circumstances that you spent money on her? I thought you only went out once or twice?

Virtually paid for a couple of her nights out I was with her on and bought a lot of drinks just in the bar also. Not anymore though.

 

[Erzengel]

She was probably trying to spare your feelings.

 

[Hound55]

I'm glad my feelings died long ago...

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

She was probably trying to spare your feelings.

By constantly accepting drinks from me despite seeing one of me friends behind my back?

Yeah, that makes me even more pissed off.

 

[BlackLantern]

just because you're buying her drinks doesn't mean she owes you anything more than polite conversatin

how do people still not get this?

 

[Erzengel]

By constantly accepting drinks from me despite seeing one of me friends behind my back?

Yeah, that makes me even more pissed off.

I never got the impression you were "in" with her and like BL said, accepting drinks does not = "IN".

I'd accept a drink from you but that doesn't mean I'd go home with you.

 

[Star]

also, spending money on someone does not always = they will treat you well

 

[Anubis]

You played yo self sucka.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Well my situation has been sorted out, turns out the girl I was trying to woo and asking advice about a few pages back has been going out with a (now) former friend behind my back, I mean I was never going out with her or anything, but this feels like a stab in the back that I am totally undeserving of. I am not boasting but you couldnt meet a nicer guy than me, I totally didnt deserve this.

Of course she still wants to be friends, no wonder all of the money I spent on her!

You're not a nice guy, throw that thought right out of your head now! A nice guy doesn't dwell on the money he spent. From what I remember you cancelled a couple dates with the girl, when she asked for a kiss, you went for the cheek, it sounded like you never actually went on one date with the girl. She owes you absolutely nothing! If it was an established girlfriend, then yes she acted wrong, but you f'ed up numerous chances, what you expect her to wait around until you got your head out of your @$$ and be a man?!?!

Virtually paid for a couple of her nights out I was with her on and bought a lot of drinks just in the bar also. Not anymore though.

Are you talking about ordering drinks at the bar she worked at, while she was your waitress?!?! That's what it sounds like, you sir, have just become the new Ghostrider87 if that's what you mean.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Double post