*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

Chalk it up to experience.

Rarely are you going to find someone who repeatedly steps on your foot and explicitly says "I'm not interested in you. I'm seeing someone else."

More often than not, they are going to avoid and distance.

And I'm not saying what she did was right, she probably did put some "interest" vibes your way, but she probably was doing the same thing with the other guy and he won out. That's what dating is, a evaluating, hiring process.

Fair enough, **** happens!

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

See I never used it as an icebreaker, if I was talking to a girl at the bar and noticed both our drinks were empty I'd ask if she wanted a drink/refill. Never used it as an icebreaker though.

Agreed. I'm not breaking the ice by buying someone a drink. If it cost me six dollars to break the ice with a girl, then I ain't breaking the ice period.

 

[BlackLantern]

Agreed. I'm not breaking the ice by buying someone a drink. If it cost me six dollars to break the ice with a girl, then I ain't breaking the ice period.

then sit home and *********e, because that's how the game works

 

[Erzengel]

Exactly, how can you tag that ass without a roofie in her glass?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

then sit home and *********e, because that's how the game works

Barry Badrinath: Alright boys, it's gonna be $1 to look at it, $2 to touch it, $3 to watch me touch it...$5 to touch it while I touch my toes, $6 to touch it while I touch your toes, $10 for a BJ, $12 for an HJ, and $15 for a ZJ.

Landfill: What's a ZJ?

Barry Badrinath: If you have to ask big guy, you can't afford it.

Exactly, how can you tag that ass without a roofie in her glass?

Why do they call them roofies

 

[ChrisBaleBatman]

I dunno, I think for every guy it depends on the girl, depends on the mood, depends if they've got the cash to burn. I can see the argument to be made in not buying a girl a drink to break the ice, but if your set so strict on that...maybe you shouldn't go to a bar to meet a girl in the first place. I can understand the rule if you only go to bars with your buddies or your date, though.

 

[BlackLantern]

Barry Badrinath: Alright boys, it's gonna be $1 to look at it, $2 to touch it, $3 to watch me touch it...$5 to touch it while I touch my toes, $6 to touch it while I touch your toes, $10 for a BJ, $12 for an HJ, and $15 for a ZJ.

Landfill: What's a ZJ?

Barry Badrinath: If you have to ask big guy, you can't afford it.

I like how the other guy pulls his wallet out

Why do they call them roofies

proper name is Rohypnol

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I dunno, I think for every guy it depends on the girl, depends on the mood, depends if they've got the cash to burn. I can see the argument to be made in not buying a girl a drink to break the ice, but if your set so strict on that...maybe you shouldn't go to a bar to meet a girl in the first place. I can understand the rule if you only go to bars with your buddies or your date, though.

I dunno, I'm not a bar person, but even if I was I'd at least attempt conversation before offering to buy someone a drink.

Honestly I pick up probably 99.9% of girls during the daytime, especially on weekends. Usually I just strike up a conversation, usually try to get their number or Facebook, then I'll invite them to come chill at the house. It seems to work fine.

 

[AndThePickles]

I dunno, I'm not a bar person, but even if I was I'd at least attempt conversation before offering to buy someone a drink.

Bingo

Honestly I pick up probably 99.9% of girls during the daytime, especially on weekends. Usually I just strike up a conversation, usually try to get their number or Facebook, then I'll invite them to come chill at the house. It seems to work fine.

 

[Hound55]

I agree, but some people are outrageous. I'd have no problem accepting a drink as a simple courtesy and having some friendly conversation, but these days I usually just say, "I have a boyfriend" and the person runs away lol. The level of expectation attached is insane. I have had people in the past say, "that's ok, just wanted to buy a drink for a beautiful woman" or something to that extent, which is sweet. However, I don't believe in leading anyone on. I would never pretend that I was single and available. The times that I hate are when people blatantly don't respect the fact that I'm unavailable.

What kills me about people expecting some action is how cheap that makes them appear, which I think really puts a dent in their "getting some" plan. "Oooooh baby, you just spent $6 on a drink for me? Yeah, I'm gonna give it up immediately now!"

Yes but that's you being kind and over-sensitive to the situation due to the knowledge that there's a lot of nutbags/idiots in the bar-scene.

In a world where this IS the socially understood method for saying "I want to get with you" I think the general results would be a bit different than what we see...

For starters the girl would look at the guy in question, maybe check her own purse to properly assess if it was worth the hassle in borderline cases... and seeing that her purse was a tad light-on would sigh, "Yeah, ok. Go get me a drink." and remove her underpants on the spot and chuck 'em in her purse while you were off retrieving said drink.

 

[Anubis]

In a perfect world maybe.

 

[Anubis]

In a perfect world maybe.

 

[uchiha_itachi]

So I went on a date the other week, at the end the girl said she had a really good time. next day I texted her she said she had a really good time and would love to meet up again.

so made plans for last sunday but she was ill so she couldnt make it and we tried to do something for this week but we where not free at the same time, so hopefully next week I'll see her. Question is though, how do I keep up the interest with out being overly keen?

I'm planning to call her Sunday night to see when she's around next week...

 

[Erzengel]

Why not just call her just to talk?

 

[uchiha_itachi]

I don't know... I don't want to be doing all the chasing aint that bad?

 

[Erzengel]

It's a fine line to be sure, but if you got a good vibe from the date then you got a second one, you think that she enjoyed spending time with you. I don't think you should call the day after a date but a few days down the road is fine.

 

[uchiha_itachi]

The first date was like a week and a half ago now, I texted her after and we planned to meet up on sunday but as I said she was ill, I spoke to her on the phone yesterday to organise something during the week but we where both busy, I briefly talked to her on fb but she went offline after saying "heeey babes" but facebook is bad for chat so I'm not that bothered. so calling Sunday (4 days from now ) to try work out a day I guess would be a good shout?

 

[Erzengel]

Even later this week would be fine.

 

[uchiha_itachi]

Maybe tomorrow night then, We where going to meet up but I work Thursdays so we couldn't so she should be free to talk for a bit.

I actually despise not knowing how to handle these things haha

 

[Prison Mike]

Why do they call them roofies

they should call them floories...or rapeies.

 

[Erzengel]

Maybe tomorrow night then, We where going to meet up but I work Thursdays so we couldn't so she should be free to talk for a bit.

I actually despise not knowing how to handle these things haha

Actually I haven't had a date since the whole, texting, facebooking, etc. It's funny that these haven't been around as they feel but we have become so trackable that it's almost too easy to stay in contact with someone.

 

[guitarsingerguy]

they should call them floories...or rapeies.

The drug is also called Roofalin which is where the term "roofies" actually sprang from. I'm not sure how that sprang from Rohypnol, but....

 

[amazingfantasy15]

The first date was like a week and a half ago now, I texted her after and we planned to meet up on sunday but as I said she was ill, I spoke to her on the phone yesterday to organise something during the week but we where both busy, I briefly talked to her on fb but she went offline after saying "heeey babes" but facebook is bad for chat so I'm not that bothered. so calling Sunday (4 days from now ) to try work out a day I guess would be a good shout?

Actually I haven't had a date since the whole, texting, facebooking, etc. It's funny that these haven't been around as they feel but we have become so trackable that it's almost too easy to stay in contact with someone.

Yeah, we are to trackable these days. That's why when I was dating last year I tried to keep contact between dates to a minimum. I think too many people these days have so many ways to get a hold of each other, they start to form a relationship before seeing if they're compatible in person which always leads to problems/hurt feelings. uchiha_itachi with the contact you're already having, you may be setting a precedent already of frequent communication and if you stop that she may get worried. I know my girlfriend's roommate starts freaking out if a guy who keeps contact in some way every day or every other day, then suddently doesn't contact her for a couple days. Just do what you can to get facetime.

 

[terry78]

When your significant other becomes your life, that's when it's become too much. Plus, if you actually make like you have a busy life, that makes them even more interested in you.

 

[Erzengel]

I actually like that Erzette works nights, it makes when I see her better because we go days without seeing each other. But, also we realize that we need our own hobbies. That's why our house has 3 levels so we can get away from each other every once and a while.