The derivative of the original racial slur (ending with "a") or the famously original slur itseld (ending with "r") are TOTALLY DIFFERENT words, if some people haven't noticed by now.
They should still be considered wrong and politically incorrect, but I don't understand why it can't be used at ALL. I mean, people are now afraid to even use the words in a damn sentence! I say, why the hell not? I think we need to acknowledge that times have changed and people have been educated past those times to know when and how words should be used.
Personally, I don't use the word at all unless I'm having a private thought, but it never comes up otherwise and it's just a word.
I think the media and entertainment industry is just making it worse than it really is.
I'm Black BTW.
-TNC