The big similarity between the two films is indeed cynicism. That type of interpretation for both universes may be appealing to a certain section of the audience, but the reality is most people want their heroes to be heroes. If you make a film pointing out the flaws of your hero, especially one that has been loved by so many for 40 years, what type of reaction do you really expect to get when he's presented as a failure? Of course people are going to push back, the film is saying the character they look up to was never really worth looking up to in the first place.
Star Wars, DC, Marvel, James Bond, Indiana Jones, Die Hard, etc, at their core they're all very simple stories about good guys vs bad guys. They're not overly deep, they're generally not themed too heavily, it's just a classic good vs evil, hero journey stuff. And that's what people like the most, they like seeing good triumph over evil. And there's nothing wrong with that.
When people say something like 'Why must we follow the same type of story?' my retort is 'what exactly is wrong with that type of story?'. If the argument is we've seen it a thousand times before I don't know if that's a good enough justification. You're advocating change for the sake of it not because there's something wrong with the structure. Different doesn't automatically mean good, nor does it even mean it's right. There's a reason Robin Hood has lasted for hundreds of years and that's because the foundations for that type of story have always been strong. Certain stories fit a certain mould - and sometimes that's perfectly ok.