The Official Step by Step dating guide

[Eddie Brock]

Well so far Kainedamo's questions really only cover approaching and talking to a girl....he never asked about anything beyond that.

but he advertises it as the "dating guide"
not the "how-to-get a date guide"

 

[CyberFaust]

ok, another question
what do you find are the best cures for a tazer wound?

 

[ShadowBoxing]

but he advertises it as the "dating guide"
not the "how-to-get a date guide"

True.

 

[Eddie Brock]

no one can disagree that dating is way too complex to sum up in 3-steps

 

[ShadowBoxing]

no one can disagree that dating is way too complex to sum up in 3-steps

Totally...in fact I doubt I could boil it down to anything really. Dates are pretty much all depend on the people involved and what their interests are.

 

[Eddie Brock]

Totally...in fact I doubt I could boil it down to anything really. Dates are pretty much all depend on the people involved and what their interests are.

that was very Dr. Phil

 

[ShadowBoxing]

that was very Dr. Phil

No, he would have said: Now Kainedamo....you have to understand you are what we call a loser. You're never going to amount to anything, and only you can help yourself from being a loser.

 

[Kevin]

No, he would have said: Now Kainedamo....you have to understand you are what we call a loser. You're never going to amount to anything, and only you can help yourself from being a loser.

That's what his friend Oprah told him.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

That's what his friend Oprah told him.

Respect.

 

[Apollo]

Just pretend your james bond

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Dr. Phil kinda seems like he be one of those womanizing pick up artists doesn't he...

 

[CyberFaust]

He probably is. If anything, he looks the part

 

[kainedamo]

Why, Dr. Phil??

 

[AndThePickles]

That is it! I've had enough! No more "why do girls date jerks and not nice guys" threads. No more "why can't I find a good man" threads. This thread here will answer all of your questions, in an easy to understand and step by step kind of way too!

It just won't be answered by me. I'm sorta hoping the king of *****, ShadowBoxing, comes in and shares his knowledge.

So let me just put it this way. Guys, how do you go about finding a girl and getting a date?

This is one of my problems. I don't know where to find girls. Currently, I am unemployed so no girls in that direction. In bars/clubs, girls tend to be asses. Its true. In my experience, they seem to be quite stuck up and snobish.

So step one would be - where do you go to meet girls anyway?? I've heard people say go to the library before on these boards I think.

Step two - once you see a girl of acceptable attractiveness and age, how do you approach? Maybe its not the girls in the bars/clubs that are the problem, but my approach. Most of the time I just sorta walked over to them on the dance floor or whatever and asked them what their name is and what they do. Doesn't seem to interest them. One time, a girl asked me my taste in music in a bar, and when I told her her response was something like "you might aswell say you're favourite food is potatoe and carrots!". So maybe they are snobby *****.

Step three - Once you've made your approach and are talking, then what?? What do you talk about??

And how important is your clothes and hairstyles?

1. You can go ANYWHERE to meet women. Same thing goes for women meeting men. I've even had creepy guys hit on me at the grocery store.
2. If you have to worry about how to approach someone, chances are you aren't going to do very well. It should be natural and not a plotted scheme.
3. What do you talk about? It depends on the situation!!
As for clothes and hairstyle- don't look like a slob of course. But there's somebody for everybody.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Why, Dr. Phil??

Just strikes me that way.

 

[Tangled Web]

You know a good place to get women? The Grocery store. Excellent.

 

[terry78]

You know a good place to get women? The Grocery store. Excellent.

The porn store is even better. Because you know she's wide open.

 

[WorthyStevens]

You know a good place to get women? The Grocery store. Excellent.

Yes it is, actually.

 

[The Phantom]

I want to talk more about step 2. What you suggest is a good idea, but the potential for embarresment is huge. Will the girl not think, 9 out of 10 times, who the hell is this guy and why is he talking to me?

Can you elaborate anymore on good approaches? "Can you help me with this??" "I'm looking for..."

I know exactly what you mean bro, and let me tell you what I do to get over that fear of the girl thinking i'm a creep just because I decided to say hello.

If you're going for an attractive chica (which I really hope you guys are, trust me, lowering your standards sucks) then just think about this. You're probably not the first guy to approach, and she probably gets approached all the time. So when you put it down into a science, it's actually a game and that's the best way to think about it.

When talking to her, do not look anywhere on her body except for her face. Yeah, I know, it's obvious, but girls have an acute sense of knowing whether or not you want them, which is something you don't want to display. Always maintain eye contact, don't ever look away. This doesn't mean that you should just stare into her eyes like a stalker, but don't talk to her and look at the floor at the same time.

The attitude you've got to have around a girl is that you really don't care whether or not they say yes. You've got to express the attitude when you're talking to her that you're evaulating her, that she's got to meet your standards, but in a noninvasive sort of way. This doesn't mean ask her twenty questions, you've just got to give off the disposition that she's one of many girls that you're talking to, even if she's the only one.

Always be the one to end the conversation. Don't linger for too long, you're just trying to get her number, and save all of that long talk for the actually date.

After you get her number, don't call her as soon as you get home. Give it like three days before you call her, and get some details on the upcoming date. If she doesn't pick up, don't fret, wait for another week and then call her again, and give off the attitude that this is her last chance of having a good time and getting to meet a really good guy.

Lastly, if for that odd possibility that she does say no, then don't worry bro, move onto to this next girl. If you think you have bad luck, don't stress, just keep moving on until you get a fish, and like the saying goes, there's plenty of fish in the sea.

Oh yeah, one more thing. There's no such thing as a league. If someone tries to shoot you down and says that a certain is not in your league, ignore it. Trust me, you're only cutting yourself short if you think a girl is too hot for you to date.

 

[kainedamo]

Don't worry, Phantom. If a girl ever actually said she's above me or out of my league, I'd tell her to go **** herself.

 

[StorminNorman]

You know a good place to get women? The Grocery store. Excellent.

Women, not High School girls

 

[Kevin]

Don't worry, Phantom. If a girl ever actually said she's above me or out of my league, I'd tell her to go **** herself.

That's lame, you'd have to come up with something mean and clever to say to her. I'll think about it.

 

[The Phantom]

You know a good place to get women? The Grocery store. Excellent.

I actually work at a grocery store and this happens to be very true actually. You'd be surprised at the amount of eye candy you can find at your local shopping plaza.

Start taking some yoga classes, or attend an art show, or something. Any place really.

 

[terry78]

Just go to a bookstore already. Either the girls that work there or the ones reading the books. Go up to one and discuss a book.

 

[The Phantom]

That's lame, you'd have to come up with something mean and clever to say to her. I'll think about it.

Like I said earlier, it's no secret that the really attractive women get hit on, on a daily basis, so they already know they're attractive and just about every guy they talk to wants to get in their pants. So when you first approach them, they're already under the impression that they have the power. Which is why you've got to display a disinterest. Make it appear that you're not talking to them because they're hot and you want they're number, make it seem like you're only talking to her because you're bored and there's nothing better to do, like she ain't the best thing you've seen in life. It'll confuse the **** out of her.