Dating Advice Thread... Cuz I'm Dumber Than Sh**...

[Machx72]

Okay, so I'm in a theatre production at my college, and one of the girls there I recently took interest in. It's hard to figure out whether she's interested in me, given a lack of knowledge of "signals" people babble about all the time. Only thing I got is that she gives me those stares from her, as well as a few smiles [which judging from her personality, may just be her being nice].

Something about her told me she was pretty young, but I wasn't sure... However, physically, she looked older, as I told my friend, "about 24 or 25."

But I found out she's 24 [yet still single]. Having the low self-esteem when it comes to girls that I have, and the fact that I'm not sure many girls would go for a guy 6 years younger, what'd be the best way to approach her, find out if she's interested, perhaps ask her on a date if she is?

 

[Superman79]

THe best answer to that my friend is simple:

JUST ASK HER OUT.

Ask her to go grab some coffee or a drink (if you're of age).
Don't bring up your age immediately either. SOme girls might have an age bias at first, but if they get to know/like you they'd be more willing to look past it.

Start a few conversations with her over the course of the next week of so and then when you feel comfortable (or even better get some interest signals) then just ask her.

What do you have to lose by asking her out?
She says "yes" and you ahve a date.
She says "no" and you find a different girl, and she is flattered by you asking.

Nothing gained nothing lost. Basically bro, step up to the plate and take a swing. You can't hit a home run till you do...

 

[Cmill216]

what'd be the best way to approach her, find out if she's interested, perhaps ask her on a date if she is?

I would probably talk to her about theatre related things, possibly ask if she wanted someone to bounce lines off of, something like that.

That way you can kind of get close to her in a "working relationship" manner, which sets you up to develop any deeper relationships with her.

 

[Mayor_McCheese]

Ask her if she can get her ankles near her ears

 

[Selene]

As a female I can say if she keeps staring at you and smiling thats a good sign, assuming you don't have toliet paper stuck to your ass

Ask her out and if she says no, who cares we don't go around laughing at people who ask us out. And if she says yes then you get a nice date!

 

[Machx72]

True, thanks, guys.

My only problem is... If she turns me down, that'll make going to rehearsal real freakin' awkward.

[And I'm not of age for drinking, just to clear it up, I'm 18, which is why I was afraid she might be a little more biased- the fact that I'm not yet in my 20s].

And I hate coffee . I'm an ass, I know. But eff it, I could just get a milkshake or something.

 

[Cmill216]

My only problem is... If she turns me down, that'll make going to rehearsal real freakin' awkward.

That's why you DON'T just approach her and ask her out on a date. You build a relationship with her based on your mutual theatre connection, and then see how you guys develop from there.

 

[Lord Valumart]

to be honest if your going to be in rehersal with this girl for like what? a month or so? i'd jsut try to get to know her first...as a freind, and not just come out with "oh my god i really fancy you!! date me!!! date me!!!". just don;t make life hard for yourself man

 

[Machx72]

I'm with you, that's exactly what I'm trying to avoid.

My biggest problem is interpretation, though. My close friends laugh their asses off at me about it because I can never tell if someone's interested unless they blatantly say, "I'm interested."

Which doesn't happen much :-p.

 

[Superman79]

Get to know her then ask her out.

Only thing is, DO NOT be so friendly that you fall into the "friend zone"...which is why I recommended asking sooner rather than later, because it makes your romantic intentions know so she doesn't mistake it for buddy-like niceness and label you "friend" (in the bad way)

 

[Superman79]

My biggest problem is interpretation, though. My close friends laugh their asses off at me about it because I can never tell if someone's interested unless they blatantly say, "I'm interested."

Which doesn't happen much :-p.

most guys are like that.
That's why they call it "getting lucky"

Which is why I advocate sucking it up and growing a pair and just asking her out.

I speak from experience where I didn't say anything and chances slipped through my fingers. I regret that, ESSPECIALLY when I found out later that I DID have a chance. Don't be like me. Just ask her.

 

[Machx72]

^^I'm with you there, it's happened to me a few times.

But I'm a 'tard and do it again constantly.

I'm gonna try to talk to her. I don't see her again until Saturday, so that gives me a little time to suck it up.

 

[black_dust]

Grow some balls and go for it hate people who miss chances just seems a waste of time!

 

[Superman79]

^^I'm with you there, it's happened to me a few times.

But I'm a 'tard and do it again constantly.

I'm gonna try to talk to her. I don't see her again until Saturday, so that gives me a little time to suck it up.

atta boy!!! t: The important thing that you need to remember when giving yourself the courage to ask is that this is ONE GIRL. There are 1000's more out there, so if this one doesn't work out, then another will. It's not life or death.

Like the old inspirational poster says:

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

I persaonlly prefer baseball, so step up to the plate and swing batter...and remember, everybody strikes out 9 times out of 10, but all you need is that one time and it's all worth it. t: :supes"

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

we don't go around laughing at people who ask us out.

We do.

 

[Machx72]

I prefer rugby.

Much more violent.

I dunno I'm probably just such a sissy from being rejected so many times before. I Talked to someone a few months ago who kinda made me realize that, "not life or death," thing you said, but for some reason... It's not in there anymore :-|.

Oh well. Who knows. I'll see how things play out. Hopefully...

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

Okay, so I'm in a theatre production at my college, and one of the girls there I recently took interest in. It's hard to figure out whether she's interested in me, given a lack of knowledge of "signals" people babble about all the time. Only thing I got is that she gives me those stares from her, as well as a few smiles [which judging from her personality, may just be her being nice].

Something about her told me she was pretty young, but I wasn't sure... However, physically, she looked older, as I told my friend, "about 24 or 25."

But I found out she's 24 [yet still single]. Having the low self-esteem when it comes to girls that I have, and the fact that I'm not sure many girls would go for a guy 6 years younger, what'd be the best way to approach her, find out if she's interested, perhaps ask her on a date if she is?

throw rocks at her if she hits you back, shes intersted.

 

[Superman79]

I prefer rugby.

Much more violent.

I dunno I'm probably just such a sissy from being rejected so many times before. I Talked to someone a few months ago who kinda made me realize that, "not life or death," thing you said, but for some reason... It's not in there anymore :-|.

Oh well. Who knows. I'll see how things play out. Hopefully...

best of luck bro...let us know how it goes.

 

[Superman79]

throw rocks at her if she hits you back, shes intersted.

GAH have you been eating lead paint chips again???

 

[Erzengel]

Whip it out.

Tell her, what are we going to do about this?

 

[Machx72]

Lmao. Yeah, that'll go over PERFECT.

 

[CyberFaust]

we don't go around laughing at people who ask us out

you don't?!?!?!?!?!
that ...like...totally changes my world view now

 

[Machx72]

She's simply a decoy trying to lead the men away from knowing they laugh at us. They wanna lure us in because they wanna laugh more.

The woman are conspiring against us.

 

[Erzengel]

Listen kid, start up a conversation with her, preferably away from the others, then just say "Hey, let me take you out." If she's up for it, she'll go. If she says, "You are too young" at least you dropped a pair and asked her.

Remember the worse thing she can say is no.

 

[WeaponZ2]

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