what do you look for in a girl or guy?

[Erzengel]

I like a girl with extensions in her hair
Bamboo earings at least 2 pair
A fendi bag and a bad attitude
That's all I need to get me in a good mood

 

[Darren Daring]

You Should turn that into a song.

 

[War Lord]

You're right - I don't know a lot. I don't mean I'd "officially" trust someone only after we got married. I just mean I would only want to have sex with someone who's sworn to be with me for the rest of our lives. If my partner isn't willing to go that far, why would I want to waste sex on them? What if I got sick or pregnant, and he left? Where would I be then?

I know my parents - who've been together for 22 years and love each other to death. It seems to have worked for them. I'm not saying it's written in stone. I haven't dated very often or been in a relationship, so you could be right. My goal, though, is marriage - or if not marriage, then a very committed relationship.

The man that wants you is willing to wait. Any man who makes having a sex a condition of going out with them doesn't really want you.

He wants to use you.

 

[The Apatow Crew]

Someone who just accepts me as i am.










plus i gotta be attracked to them.

 

[WorthyStevens]

The man that wants you is willing to wait. Any man who makes having a sex a condition of going out with them doesn't really want you.

He wants to use you.

'Using' is such a strong word. A 'business exchange' is more fitting. :meow:

 

[War Lord]

'Using' is such a strong word. A 'business exchange' is more fitting. :meow:

I guess so.

He gets his sexual thrills and she gets a baby or the gift that keeps on giving.

 

[Darren Daring]

Yeah, cause that's how most relationships turn out.

 

[Danalys]

i know the personality type i'm intrested in already. then i have to find that with a few other factors on top.

 

[AnimeJune]

You really, really should ask some questions about what marriage actually is before even thinking about looking forward to it. You see, there's a legal aspect to it. No, wait, that's bull$hit... marriage is nothing but a legal status. People can romanticize it and claim it has anything at all to do with God and all that good stuff, but in the real world, it's a legal arrangement that affords more financial and legal security for people who stay within the arrangement.

Actually, to Catholics, marriage is a sacrament, like reconciliation, confirmation, baptism, the eucharist, and the final rites of the dead. It is an act of faith towards God. I wouldn't be getting married at City Hall, I would be married in a church. I think that makes a difference, but I'm not asking you to believe in it, but that is what I believe.

I know that a lot of what the church has said about sex is BS. But you should be aware that I'm not "letting God make my decisions". This is a personal choice for me. The people I've known and grown up with who've stayed in happy marriages were married (or engaged) before sex. I have reasons for the choices I make.

I think sex is special, and should be reserved for two people (in the metaphorical sense). The Catholic church believes marriage is the joining of two people into one person, and sex represents that. That is for ME. It might not be best for other people.

Yeah, I also don't believe in divorce either. Why? Because again - a lot of marriages that happened around me had dark periods like every other relationship, with months (even years) of the couple being unhappy with each other. Fighting it out though, they got a lot better. Marriage is work.

I know it sounds archaic for me to want to reserve sex for my husband, but that's my choice. I know you're trying to not be condescending (but you're kinda failing at that...), but listen to my life history - those are the kinds of relationships around me that worked.

 

[Herr Logan]

Actually, to Catholics, marriage is a sacrament, like reconciliation, confirmation, baptism, the eucharist, and the final rites of the dead. It is an act of faith towards God. I wouldn't be getting married at City Hall, I would be married in a church. I think that makes a difference, but I'm not asking you to believe in it, but that is what I believe.

I know that a lot of what the church has said about sex is BS. But you should be aware that I'm not "letting God make my decisions". This is a personal choice for me. The people I've known and grown up with who've stayed in happy marriages were married (or engaged) before sex. I have reasons for the choices I make.

I think sex is special, and should be reserved for two people (in the metaphorical sense). The Catholic church believes marriage is the joining of two people into one person, and sex represents that. That is for ME. It might not be best for other people.

Yeah, I also don't believe in divorce either. Why? Because again - a lot of marriages that happened around me had dark periods like every other relationship, with months (even years) of the couple being unhappy with each other. Fighting it out though, they got a lot better. Marriage is work.

I know it sounds archaic for me to want to reserve sex for my husband, but that's my choice. I know you're trying to not be condescending (but you're kinda failing at that...), but listen to my life history - those are the kinds of relationships around me that worked.

You should do what you feel is your best option for yourself. If that turns out to be marrying someone without doing your research ("fieldwork," I guess you could call it), so be it.

Just keep in mind that men who seem to be able to keep their sexual urges in check for that long a period of time may not be what they seem. Always be wary of men, period, and especially one that seems to share your particular views on this subject. Some guys like to have a woman they can have a family with, and others for their immediate needs. Men are pigs. Beware.

Another thing: I'm not going to try to sway you to my way of thinking any further, but if I see you or anyone else trying to convince someone else that virgin marriage is the way to go in general (as opposed to explaining that it's merely your own choice), I'll tear into that argument like a ravening wolf. It's my civic duty to look out for my fellow humans, afterall, and I strongly believe the spread of your "way of life" is in several ways dangerous to the intellectual and social fabric of humanity.

Also keep in mind that there are certain topics you are qualified to talk about and certain ones you aren't. I'm not qualified to talk about how to to take a relationship all the way to marriage, and you aren't qualified to talk about sex in anything more than an "I feel" capacity.

Take care, darlin'.

 

[heypapajinx]

The man that wants you is willing to wait. Any man who makes having a sex a condition of going out with them doesn't really want you.

He wants to use you.

that is so true.
i hate the "having sex the first night" curse.
he'll either never call (and that's fine because usually i don't want them to after having lame, freaky first night sex).
or he wont stop calling because he thinks it's a sure thing from there on out.
it's a no win situation!
what ever happened to dating!?
the first night kiss.
the anticipation of getting to second base?
the excitement of knowing why you're shaving your legs above the knee!
oh, those were they days.

 

[Parker]

She must be into comic books, no exceptions.

 

[Hades]

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

^^take that crap out of my thread.

 

[Hades]

She is a beautifull woman, and I am in love with her.
is that even a woman

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

dude seriously delete it!

 

[Hades]

dude seriously delete it!

Okay.

 

[Erzengel]

She must be into comic books, no exceptions.

That'd be easy especially with "plethora" of women on this board.

Why don't you settle for a girl who tolerates, you'd have an easier time.

 

[Darren Daring]

She must be into comic books, no exceptions.

That's a bad line to take. YOu shouldn't have to share all the same interests/political beliefs/opinions in order to have a relationship.

 

[Decay]

personality
brains
manners
looks

 

[Sofa]

Someone who makes me laugh
and someone who makes me feel like its ok, even if its not.

 

[AnimeJune]

that is so true.
i hate the "having sex the first night" curse.
he'll either never call (and that's fine because usually i don't want them to after having lame, freaky first night sex).
or he wont stop calling because he thinks it's a sure thing from there on out.
it's a no win situation!
what ever happened to dating!?
the first night kiss.
the anticipation of getting to second base?
the excitement of knowing why you're shaving your legs above the knee!
oh, those were they days.

Certainly true - but that's not what Herr Logan is advocating. He's been encouraging monogamous, committed relationships for sex - just not marriage. He thinks people should have a testdrive before buying the car, and I go by another metaphor, that is, "if you want milk, buy the cow, then you'll get the milk."

Moooo. t:

 

[Ronny Shade]

Someone who makes me laugh
and someone who makes me feel like its ok, even if its not.

IT IS NOT OKAY!!!!

 

[Erzengel]

Certainly true - but that's not what Herr Logan is advocating. He's been encouraging monogamous, committed relationships for sex - just not marriage. He thinks people should have a testdrive before buying the car, and I go by another metaphor, that is, "if you want milk, buy the cow, then you'll get the milk."

Moooo. t:

Herr Logan has a point. While sex may not be the most important part of the relationship, it's up there. If you aren't "sexually compatible" with someone, and you are stuck in a marriage, unless that person is open minded, communicative and understanding, it could lead to serious problems.

 

[Ronny Shade]

SEXxxXXXxxxx
SuXXXXxXXx

Somebody get me my MEds.