What is the purpose of...

[AndThePickles]

You can publicly declare your love without getting married so

In regards to the legality, it is assumed that in a marriage, the two involved will be together forever right? In California, if you live with someone for over ten years the it becomes a common-law marriage which is legally the same thing as a marriage, minus the ceremony.

Sure you can, marriage is just a more traditional way to do so. I don't think people should get married as lightly as they do, because yes, it is intended to be a long-lasting bond. You don't have to have a ceremony, that's just something that makes it more public.

 

[BRUTAL]

You can have a life-long bond with someone without signing a contract.

I have a friend I've known for almost half my life, I'm fairly certain we'll remain friends for a VERY long time. Should we have to sign a contract stating that if we ever decide to stop hanging out that we should divide our stuff between us?

 

[DBella]

You can publicly declare your love without getting married so

In regards to the legality, it is assumed that in a marriage, the two involved will be together forever right? In California, if you live with someone for over ten years the it becomes a common-law marriage which is legally the same thing as a marriage, minus the ceremony.

But that means you've to 'suffer' for 10 years or more before you can take half of your partner's properties/assets.

 

[AndThePickles]

You can have a life-long bond with someone without signing a contract.

I have a friend I've known for almost half my life, I'm fairly certain we'll remain friends for a VERY long time. Should we have to sign a contract stating that if we ever decide to stop hanging out that we should divide our stuff between us?

I agree that it's not NECESSARY. It's something for individuals to decide. Marriage isn't for everyone.

 

[Erzengel]

You can have a life-long bond with someone without signing a contract.

I have a friend I've known for almost half my life, I'm fairly certain we'll remain friends for a VERY long time. Should we have to sign a contract stating that if we ever decide to stop hanging out that we should divide our stuff between us?

I :heart: you too.

 

[DBella]

You can have a life-long bond with someone without signing a contract.

Agree

I have a friend I've known for almost half my life, I'm fairly certain we'll remain friends for a VERY long time. Should we have to sign a contract stating that if we ever decide to stop hanging out that we should divide our stuff between us?

I think it's different when you're just friends as opposed to being partners in a more intimate sense.

I agree that it's not NECESSARY. It's something for individuals to decide. Marriage isn't for everyone.

It certainly isn't.

 

[BRUTAL]

I :heart: you too.

When we reach the 9 year mark I'm going on vacation for a while and then when I get back we can start over like it was a new friendship.

 

[BRUTAL]

Marriage isn't for everyone.

It certainly isn't.

So you both need a legally binding contract to validate your feelings for someone else?

 

[AndThePickles]

So you both need a legally binding contract to validate your feelings for someone else?

No, but I want to legally be someone's wife and to legally take on their last name. I want to have an actually wedding. Traditonal? Sure. It's a personal preference.

 

[DBella]

So you both need a legally binding contract to validate your feelings for someone else?

No, not to validate my feelings for someone else. Personally, it doesn't matter to me whether I am married or not but I'd rather be married coz I want to have a wedding and wear a nice wedding gown and have a nice (and delicious) wedding cake and get nice wedding gifts. Yeah, shallow reasons. Also, if we do break up and it's because of something bad he did, I'd want to make him suffer and take everything (at least half) that he owns and leave him with NOTHING (or half of nothing). Bwahahaha!!! *Be quiet, Evil!!*

 

[BRUTAL]

I want to have an actually wedding. Traditonal? Sure. It's a personal preference.

I want to have a wedding and wear a nice wedding gown and have a nice (and delicious) wedding cake and get nice wedding gifts. Yeah, shallow reasons.

So you both just want Princess Day.

 

[DBella]

No, but I want to legally be someone's wife and to legally take on their last name. I want to have an actually wedding. Traditonal? Sure. It's a personal preference.

You're such a good girl and your intentions are pure. I should follow your example.

Uhhh... about taking on the man's last name... I don't mind keeping mine as it's nicer than his.

So you both just want Princess Day.

It's not necessary but I wouldn't mind it at all. What I'd like is to have a very small wedding. On a mountain or by the beach with no more than a dozen people in attendance.

 

[AndThePickles]

So you both just want Princess Day.

No, I don't care that much about having a ridiculously nice wedding ceremony. I moreso care about the reception where my husband and I can BOTH have fun.

 

[DBella]

No, I don't care that much about having a ridiculously nice wedding ceremony. I moreso care about the reception where my husband and I can BOTH have fun.

Aye.
I think it'd be fun in years to come to sit with the children and look at wedding photos and videos with them and share with them that one wonderful day where we made our commitment to each other in the presence of a few other people that we love and care about.

 

[BRUTAL]

Why not just have a party?

 

[DBella]

Why not just have a party?

Let's say you're very much in love with a woman and she told you that it'd mean a lot to her that you guys get married and have a wedding and invite close friends and family. Would you deny her this request?

 

[Cmill216]

Why not just have a party?

Just reading through the last page or two, but why are you trying so hard to marginalize marriage?

It's a legal and formal validation of a romantic partnership between two individuals who are so in love with one another that they want to seal their relationship in a said legal and formal manner. Of course, with the divorce rate, society has itself marginalized marriage, but that doesn't make it any less important or purposeful to many, many people.

 

[AndThePickles]

Why not just have a party?

A reception is a party. I want the wedding ceremony involved for the reasons I already listed. I think it's a special moment between two people in love. You can call it unecessary and too traditional all you want, but it's something I personally desire.

 

[BRUTAL]

Let's say you're very much in love with a woman and she told you that it'd mean a lot to her that you guys get married and have a wedding and invite close friends and family. Would you deny her this request?

Love is a two way street, so it wouldn't be "if I was in love with her" it'd be "if we were in love". Putting aside how Disney that entire sentiment is, if we were "in love" then she would know me enough to know that getting married is not something I want to do. We could have a party, invite everyone she wants, I could do something romantic to declare my feelings for her, everyone has a good time, but the contract signing is ridiculous to me. In my last relationship, I was put in that very situation, and had zero problem saying no.

 

[Abaddon]

the benefits you get from a legal marriage are the only things that make it worthwhile.

 

[BRUTAL]

Just reading through the last page or two, but why are you trying so hard to marginalize marriage?

I'm not, I'm trying to understand the mentality of those who want to do it.

You can call it unecessary and too traditional all you want, but it's something I personally desire.

I never said either of those things.

the benefits you get from a legal marriage are the only things that make it worthwhile.

What are these "benefits"?

 

[AndThePickles]

I never said either of those things.

I don't mean you personally necessarily, I mean "you" in the sense of "people." You know, in terms of a saying lol.

 

[DBella]

Love is a two way street, so it wouldn't be "if I was in love with her" it'd be "if we were in love". Putting aside how Disney that entire sentiment is, if we were "in love" then she would know me enough to know that getting married is not something I want to do. We could have a party, invite everyone she wants, I could do something romantic to declare my feelings for her, everyone has a good time, but the contract signing is ridiculous to me. In my last relationship, I was put in that very situation, and had zero problem saying no.

It is a two way street and when I said that it means that she's in love with you too. So... it's more about what you want then? Are you saying that any woman who has dreams about getting married or who believes in marriage should never fall in love with you because you find contract signing to be 'ridiculous'? To some, marriage is more than 'just a party'.

 

[BRUTAL]

I don't mean you personally necessarily, I mean "you" in the sense of "people." You know, in terms of a saying lol.

Oh, okay then.

I'm not dumping on anyone for wanting to get married, I personally just don't see the point. The laws in regards to marriage are antiquated and one-sided, and the financial benefits are next to nothing nowadays.

 

[Cmill216]

I'm not, I'm trying to understand the mentality of those who want to do it.

Gotcha.

And I stated how I felt. It's mostly a legal thing. You've found someone that you want to share your life with, both literally (finances and such) and figuratively (lovey dovey goodness). And so you consummate that legal process with a ceremony that represents the transition to a higher degree of commitment to the partnership.