So what are you suggesting, let other people die? Let other families suffer because you don't like the thought that there is a chance that you will fail? Is that your idea of right?
That's not what I said at all. Please pay attention to
the point of the statements. Like I said, I don't begrudge them. They didn't do anything wrong. BUT, if you're going to place this cross of causality onto Peter, then everyone else must bear it as well. If Peter's responsible for Uncle Ben's death, then Ben is responsible for Aunt May and Peter's pain, and Captain Stacy is responsible for the pain of his family. It's all equal.
So you are saying that it is perfectly acceptable to change the core of the character. Please, do not make Spider-Man movies. How is wrong btw? If you have the ability to help people then it is your responsibility to do so. I see nothing wrong with that. If he didn't feel responsible for letting an armed robber get away when he could have easily stopped him, then he would just end up being a grumpy selfish *****ebag who isn't close to being heroic or mature.
Or maybe he would become an actual hero, inspired by the heroism of his Uncle Ben, and not driven by self-blame and self-loathing, and guilt. Like I said, he should feel guilty at first, it's human TO feel guilty, any of us would, BUT, we let it go, if we don't then it can tear us apart inside and destroy us. Peter needs to come to grips with the fact that it wasn't his fault, because it wasn't, if he can't then it'll just do nothing but eat away at him. He needs to let it go, it's healthy to let it go, it's good for him. Why don't you want that? Ya know, for people who claim to love Peter, you sure as hell don't seem to care about his emotional or mental well-being, you just want him to suffer, and feel constant guilt, and be in pain. That's a messed up kind of love.
Oh, and no, I don't think they should change the "core" of the character, because I don't percieve Peter to be defined by one aspect of his personality, and therefore, it ISN'T his core, it's a character cliche. I see Peter as more than that, as having the potential to be better than that. I see Peter as someone with the ability to rise above the tragedy that he has been dealt, and become better. The tragedy is a catalyst, not a drive, it prompts the beginning of Peter becoming hero, but it doesn't dictate it. Peter is more that the some of his parts, he is more than his failures, he is more mistakes. And it's actually quite insulting to his character to percieve his guilt as being all there is that is important, it's minute compared to everything else.
I really hope they're going the path of Peter not letting guilt rule his existence. Because in the film you can really see that glimmer of heroism when he saves that boy, a heroism that's born out the need to do what's right and not the obligation. I feel like he's inspired in that moment, and realizes that he doesn't need to hold onto his revenge and lets it go. He becomes more in that moment, a real hero, and in the next scene with Gwen we see that, when she says "That's not your job." and he says, "Maybe it is." If that was in the movie, I get the film and trailers mixed up sometimes.
Where exactly does it show that Norman Osborn knows Spider-Man's identity? How is letting Gwen know his secret identity make her safer than if he kept it a secret from everyone and there was no chance that people would know that he is Spider-man? Peter put his entire school in danger because the Lizard found out he was Spider-man. No matter how you look at it, Peter is doing a pretty bad job keeping his identity a secret. The whole point of secret identities is to keep the ones you care about safe. I am guessing he might learn that when Gwen dies.
The Osborn thing is just a personal perception of the post-credits scene, as the way he (who we can assume either is, or works for Norman Osborn) talks about "the boy" it seems he knows all about Peter. But, like I said, it "seems" that way, it MIGHT not be though.
And personally, I'm hilariously flabbergasted that anyone could somehow think keeping such a secret from someone their involved with could ever end well. A situation which Peter's mask gets taken off against his will by a villain could spell disaster if Gwen didn't know what was going on. Her knowing makes her aware of the danger, gives her a choice in the matter, which every woman deserves, if she doesn't want this life, she can choose to not be with him, if she does want it, then, it's her choice. It's either that, or he's never with any girl, EVER. This Gwen knows what she's getting into, as opposed to her comics counter-part, who also died. Damn. According to you, she does know: She dies. She doesn't: She dies. She just can't cut a break now, can she?
The Lizard finding out is yet another perception issue. I don't really view it as Peter's fault that the Lizard found out. The situation was really kind of out of his control.