Which is worse - "The Cheating" or "The History"?

[Iceman]

Which is worse?

1. Finding out your partner once cheated on you.
2. Finding out your partner has a long and very depraved sexual history from before you met that you were unaware of.

Vote/Discuss

 

[Lantern Venom]

Cheating, no doubt. What's done is done when it comes to past escapades. A new relationship is a clean slate. Unless, we are dealing with some kind of sexual addiction, undecided orientation or pedophilia, it's best just to move forward.
Cheating is awful, especially in a marriage. It degrades the relationship and unaware partner. That is more serious than most "pasts".

 

[TrailerCues]

I would have to say "The Cheating".

 

[Erzengel]

Obviously barring the std's the history really has nothing to do with you, while the cheating is something you are directly involved with.

However, there are a lot of people out there especially guys who can't handle having a women with one more sexual partner than them especially one with a long sexual history.

 

[Iceman]

Cheating, no doubt. What's done is done when it comes to past escapades. A new relationship is a clean slate. Unless, we are dealing with some kind of sexual addiction, undecided orientation or pedophilia, it's best just to move forward.
Cheating is awful, especially in a marriage. It degrades the relationship and unaware partner. That is more serious than most "pasts".

Obviously barring the std's the history really has nothing to do with you, while the cheating is something you are directly involved with.

However, there are a lot of people out there especially guys who can't handle having a women with one more sexual partner than them especially one with a long sexual history.

Personally I wouldn't be able to cope with the cheating at all and I'd only try to if I had kids. The history affects different people in different ways. Most people wouldn't be able to write off extremes like prostitution but if it's kept quiet and you only find out 20/30 years down the line are you going to throw away a happy marriage for something that happened such a long time ago? Maybe the 'what you don't know won't hurt you' approach is better sometimes than full blown honesty (could also apply to cheating).

 

[Erzengel]

It also has to do with how inexperienced and insecure the guy is. It's really cool if you bang 2 girls at the same time yet if you found out your gf banged 2 guys at the same time, it's different.

 

[TrailerCues]

I can't speak for anyone else but for me Erzengel when it comes to something like that it would depend on when she did that. Obviously if she did something like that long before we dated & met Id let it go. But if she did that while dating which would be cheating thats a different story. Its a matter of when someone does something like that in a relationship

 

[Erzengel]

What if she did it a month before you dated? Why is it different if she did it 2 years ago or 2 months ago? She still did it. Does 2 years reflecting on it make it more agreeable?

 

[Iceman]

It also has to do with how inexperienced and insecure the guy is. It's really cool if you bang 2 girls at the same time yet if you found out your gf banged 2 guys at the same time, it's different.

As long as none of the past is in the public domain or in my face in the form of serious ex boyfriends who call regularly/live next door and she hasn't appeared in porn magazines or videos I'd be able to write a lot of things off without too much worry.

I'd still rather not know too many of the details though.

 

[Iceman]

I can't speak for anyone else but for me Erzengel when it comes to something like that it would depend on when she did that. Obviously if she did something like that long before we dated & met Id let it go. But if she did that while dating which would be cheating thats a different story. Its a matter of when someone does something like that in a relationship

What if she did it a month before you dated? Why is it different if she did it 2 years ago or 2 months ago? She still did it. Does 2 years reflecting on it make it more agreeable?

The age that someone is when they do things makes a difference. If a girl does something stupid when she's a teenager it's different to doing the same thing in her mid twenties a few months before you meet.

 

[The Question]

Cheating, of course. The past is in the past. Besides, if your better half is into some kinky stuff, it might end up being a bonus for you.

 

[Iceman]

t: Good point.

 

[Darren Daring]

Why the hell should someone have to choose? Just pick none of em

 

[Darren Daring]

Why the hell should someone have to choose? Just pick none of em

 

[Iceman]

Why the hell should someone have to choose? Just pick none of em

Why the hell should someone have to choose? Just pick none of em

Loyal virgins are in demand but not supply

 

[Ronny Shade]

I've never had a partner for long enough to find out about either.

 

[Iceman]

So this should make you feel better??

Or not.

 

[Ronny Shade]

It does actually

When I'm walking down the street and see a hot chick this is what goes through my mind:
well, I could go talk to her and ask her out and if she even likes me we'll probably end up having sex then I'll get AIDS and die plus get her pregnant and then my kid will have AIDS and a sh1tty mother and I'll be dead and not able to do anything about it

 

[Darren Daring]

Loyal virgins are in demand but not supply

Why would anyone want to date a virgin?

 

[Iceman]

It does actually

When I'm walking down the street and see a hot chick this is what goes through my mind:
well, I could go talk to her and ask her out and if she even likes me we'll probably end up having sex then I'll get AIDS and die plus get her pregnant and then my kid will have AIDS and a sh1tty mother and I'll be dead and not able to do anything about it

You'd also get to experience herpes while you die

 

[demento]

For me, the worst part is the itching, followed by the burning and then the swelling.

 

[Iceman]

I enjoy the itching part but not the burning.

 

[Sofa]

Ugh.

 

[Ronny Shade]

You'd also get to experience herpes while you die

 

[Iceman]

Not convinced?