Why Do People Stay in Bad Relationships?

[jaymes_e06]

It's the age old question. Two people who can't seem to do anything but hurt each other can't seem to escape one another. If one tries to move on the other does something to bring them back and start the process over again. And then it becomes because you have been with them so long you don't know how to move on. When is it really over? How do you know when it's time to get on with your life and get away from the negativity and pain your past relationship created?

 

[Franklin Richards]

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[jaymes_e06]

Thanks lol

No serious thoughts?

Rhianna's of the world need help.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

Some people feel like they are trapped. Or some people do it for the children. The list goes on and on.

 

[ThDWgeek]

Just throwing it out there, as it's a complete guess, but perhaps out of a fear of being left alone?

 

[El Payaso]

Fear of being alone, fear of being rejected, fear of finding other people who're even worse, fear of thinking they had wasted years with that person so they'd better find a sense to the relationship.

Question is, why do people get married when they know it's a futile attempt, a ridiculous concept? But then again the answer to that would be the same as for the thread's title question.

 

[Hotwire]

So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains, and we never even know we have the key.

 

[Golgo-13]

Fear. Insecurity. Some people have to be with someone, or they feel worthless.

 

[Motown Marvel]

it might be a bad relationship, but they are comfortable in it because they understand it. it's hard to change out of something comfortable and head into the unknown.

 

[Schlosser85]

Fear of being alone/the unknown, believing it's best for their children, resignation, fear of what the other person would do if they tried to believe, believing they can't live without them...or sometimes people simply stay in a bad relationship because they love the other person, even if they're treated badly, or the relationship is dysfunctional.

 

[terry78]

You know those people that have NEVER been single? There you go.

 

[jaymes_e06]

I agree with everyone. I also think the classic Fruedian thought that most people have mommy and daddy issues so they find people who are like there parents or like someone in athority and stay with them because they give them structure. Tak that Housewives of the OC chick. She said about her abusive relationship, which end in her husband's suicide, that she misses the direction and purpose he gave her still to this day.

 

[El Payaso]

Another reason: good sex. That can make people stay a lot longer than they wanted.

 

[Mulholland-Jr]

Fear of being alone/the unknown, believing it's best for their children, resignation, fear of what the other person would do if they tried to believe, believing they can't live without them...or sometimes people simply stay in a bad relationship because they love the other person, even if they're treated badly, or the relationship is dysfunctional.

This. I know people who have panic attacks just at the thought of being alone...

 

[Tanin]

Some married couples can't make it alone. Especially with the feeling that the economy going downhill.

 

[Lasirius]

Some people think that relationships are supposed to be like that because they don't know better. As kids, they saw their parents in whatever categorizes a "bad relationship".

 

[Spider-Who?]

Another reason: good sex. That can make people stay a lot longer than they wanted.

Heh, its true. One of the reasons it took me forever to get out of a bad situation. Shallow? Yes, but its true.

I think alot of it can be summed up in one word: addiction.

Much like drug addicts or alcoholics, people who refuse to get out of bad relationships could often be described as being addicted to the relationship or the person they're with, or even the behavior it's self, despite knowing that its bad. They'll lie to themselves and try and explain away the issues (or deny there even are any), try to justify why they stay. Its amazing how masochistic people can be without even realizing it.

 

[jaymes_e06]

Another reason: good sex. That can make people stay a lot longer than they wanted.

I think we can end the thread really. lol

But seriously I agree. That tension is a double edged sword I've found the women I hate most are the ones I'm most sexually attracted to. Does that make me a bad person?

 

[El Payaso]

Heh, its true. One of the reasons it took me forever to get out of a bad situation. Shallow? Yes, but its true.

I think alot of it can be summed up in one word: addiction.

Much like drug addicts or alcoholics, people who refuse to get out of bad relationships could often be described as being addicted to the relationship or the person they're with, or even the behavior it's self, despite knowing that its bad. They'll lie to themselves and try and explain away the issues (or deny there even are any), try to justify why they stay. Its amazing how masochistic people can be without even realizing it.

Well, love is very much about addictions, blindness, irrationality and faith in things that you know won't work.

I think we can end the thread really. lol

But seriously I agree. That tension is a double edged sword I've found the women I hate most are the ones I'm most sexually attracted to. Does that make me a bad person?

To hate women that give you good sex doesn't make you a bad person, but a silly one. t:

 

[bullets]

I stayed in a bad relationship thinking I could make it better. The girl was basically using me but I put the blame on myself and thought I wasn't doing something right. Then I thought if I was persistently good to her she'd eventually realize it and come around.

 

[PyroChamber]

If two people are in a bad relationship with each other, and know it, then maybe they deserve each other and every bad thing they get out of it.

 

[Anubis]

I believe this song pretty much answers this question.

 

[<(o_o)>]

The money is good.

 

[lixdexia]

nvm, answered my own question

 

[BLACKVULCAN]

cause they usually start off with another girl and having leather pillow fights and fun
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and later turns into the pillow being filled with bricks and beating you while you are alseep.which is no fun!