Why Stay Single?

[SuperFerret]

"The cat's meow" really needs to be utilized more often.

 

[Erzengel]

"The cat's meow" really needs to be utilized more often.

I'm bringing it back.

Along with the cat's pajamas.

 

[Immortalfire]

How about Adam's house cat?

 

[SuperFerret]

So many unused feline colloquialisms.

 

[Paroxysm]

Yeah, that's usually my first reaction to people who say they are too busy to date. But those who are trying to do full time job, and full time school, I usually understand that rationale.

Oh for sure, but then again I have some friends who go to university and work and they still find time for women because they need sex. lol

 

[Angry Monkey]

For me it's a choice, which is uncommon for a female.

I have no desire to get married or have children.

I cannot stand the idea of being tied down in a marriage.

I tried dating but I hated it.


I enjoy being single.

 

[Snare]

Simple answer. You really can't get hurt when you're single.

 

[twylight]

I have to admit I'm superficial. But it's always going to be a perspective thing. I can think a girl is the cat's meow, but someone may think they are just "okay". But I don't think there's anything wrong with being with someone based on some standards you have on attractiveness.

No, not at all.

I'm honest about my looks. I can pull off 'cute' and sometimes 'pretty', but going out to a club/bar/etc/social groups. I'm the homely one in comparison I'm honesty about it, and I realize it. Granted I'm not a partying type. I'd rather stay at home and work on various art projects I have going, hang with my friends, go to D&D and the LCS.

That said, me doing all those things is a choice (bringing it back round to the point of the thread). I choose not to 'put' myself out there, in situations I wouldn't like anyway, because I feel no need too. I'm happy where I am.

 

[Paroxysm]

 

[AndThePickles]

That's great for you. As mentioned earlier, I'm just not interested in going places I could do that. I hang out with friends, if a guy comes along I like I flirt, giggle, etc what have you, but I am always my nerdy self and most guys don't even know Supergirl's nickname.

It doesn't have to be in stereotypical places, though. I spent most of my time with my current boyfriend hanging out playing Halo and talking about superheroes back in the day before we started dating lol. Continue to be your nerdy self, and there will be someone out there who adores you for it

 

[Anita18]

I have to admit I'm superficial. But it's always going to be a perspective thing. I can think a girl is the cat's meow, but someone may think they are just "okay". But I don't think there's anything wrong with being with someone based on some standards you have on attractiveness.

Of course not. And what's mainstream attractive isn't what every single guy on the face of the earth would want in a partner.

Like, sure my bf looks at other girls, especially if they're dressed in a tight skirt or whatever, but he sure wouldn't want to date any high-maintenance girls.

No, not at all.

I'm honest about my looks. I can pull off 'cute' and sometimes 'pretty', but going out to a club/bar/etc/social groups. I'm the homely one in comparison I'm honesty about it, and I realize it. Granted I'm not a partying type. I'd rather stay at home and work on various art projects I have going, hang with my friends, go to D&D and the LCS.

That said, me doing all those things is a choice (bringing it back round to the point of the thread). I choose not to 'put' myself out there, in situations I wouldn't like anyway, because I feel no need too. I'm happy where I am.

That sounds exactly like me. It's not that I can't pull off the club look if I really wanted to, but I feel ridiculously, clownishly stupid in such settings so I still come off very awkward as a result. I feel much more comfortable being cute and sometimes pretty, than being sexy or glamorous.

And more power to you if you're happy where you are. What I'm saying is don't turn down opportunities if any come your way. My life wasn't lacking anything before I met my bf, but he's such an inspiration to me as a person and he's helped me a lot in that regard.

 

[Erzengel]

For me it's a choice, which is uncommon for a female.

I have no desire to get married or have children.

I cannot stand the idea of being tied down in a marriage.

I tried dating but I hated it.


I enjoy being single.

Have you ever been in a long standing relationship?

 

[PyroChamber]

Amen, brotha. I'm surrounded by women at work...who are all middle aged and married or in their teens and early 20's. I'm definitely over that stage of life. I'm looking for a woman at least 25 years old.

The woman that I work with during my shifts are in their early 20s and close to my age.

But after working with them for 3 years now and seeing all their different moods, any attraction I had with them disappeared along the way.

 

[SpideyVille]

So is it wrong to refuse to hook up or pursue someone just because you feel like you'd be "settling" for less than you want or can get? I don't mean in terms of looks either, but more of how you feel around them and their personality and stuff. For me, there have been a few girls that I considered pursuing but ultimately stopped myself because I felt like the only reason I was considering them was because I was a little too desperate to just hook up with someone at times.

 

[twylight]

It doesn't have to be in stereotypical places, though. I spent most of my time with my current boyfriend hanging out playing Halo and talking about superheroes back in the day before we started dating lol. Continue to be your nerdy self, and there will be someone out there who adores you for it

Honestly I don't even know were this conversation thread came from-- OH, Erzy mentioned how he put himself out there all the time, and I replied that it was a bit harder for women because of the 50/50 perception. Anyway...

If the land mass cleverly disguised as a she-male at the local Wal-Mart can get a guy, I'm pretty sure I can too. I just don't want one right now.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

The woman that I work with during my shifts are in their early 20s and close to my age.

But after working with them for 3 years now and seeing all their different moods, any attraction I had with them disappeared along the way.

Don't underestimate the effects of proximity on attraction

 

[Erzengel]

So is it wrong to refuse to hook up or pursue someone just because you feel like you'd be "settling" for less than you want or can get? I don't mean in terms of looks either, but more of how you feel around them and their personality and stuff. For me, there have been a few girls that I considered pursuing but ultimately stopped myself because I felt like the only reason I was considering them was because I was a little too desperate to just hook up with someone at times.

I always used to preach to never settle for anything, however a person should know their limits.

 

[Lobo]

Right now I'm single by choice, I go on dates and whatnot, but haven't found anyone whom I've really clicked yet with.

 

[SpideyVille]

I always used to preach to never settle for anything, however a person should know their limits.

Yeah, I know beggars can't be choosers, but I feel like one of my problems is that I always went after the wrong girls just because I thought a pretty face would make me happy, and I would almost force myself to like certain girls just based on that, regardless of how incompatible our personalities were. So I've started to make more judgement based on how well we et along and accept each other, and I've realized that a lot of the girls I come across at school all act the same and aren't really offering much aside from some occasional eye candy.

 

[Hobgoblin]

The woman that I work with during my shifts are in their early 20s and close to my age.

But after working with them for 3 years now and seeing all their different moods, any attraction I had with them disappeared along the way.

Familiarity breeds contempt.

 

[AndThePickles]

Honestly I don't even know were this conversation thread came from-- OH, Erzy mentioned how he put himself out there all the time, and I replied that it was a bit harder for women because of the 50/50 perception. Anyway...

If the land mass cleverly disguised as a she-male at the local
WalMart can get a guy, I'm pretty sure I can too. I just don't
want one right now.

Sorry, didn't intend to sound preachy, just making friendly conversation

 

[Erzengel]

Yeah, I know beggars can't be choosers, but I feel like one of my problems is that I always went after the wrong girls just because I thought a pretty face would make me happy, and I would almost force myself to like certain girls just based on that, regardless of how incompatible our personalities were. So I've started to make more judgement based on how well we et along and accept each other, and I've realized that a lot of the girls I come across at school all act the same and aren't really offering much aside from some occasional eye candy.

Well it's always best to get to know someone. Maybe if you did date one of these girls, you'd find that their personality is deeper than you initially thought.

I met this really attractive girl and even though she's a professional, great personality and fun, there is a bit of a party girl/maturity level that I picked up on, that if I was single would give me pause to ask her out.

However, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt until I knew for sure.

 

[Hound55]

That said, it's pretty hard for women to do the pursuing. The most we can do is wink, flirt and hope the guys isn't so dense he thinks we have a speck of dirt in our eye and are drunk. Not saying we can't do it, but it's always 50/50 on how it will be perceived.

Going by the relationship thread, 60-80% of people here would probably form this conclusion due to self esteem issues and fear...

 

[enterthemadness]

Going by the relationship thread, 60-80% of people here would probably form this conclusion due to self esteem issues and fear...

I'd assume she's messing with me...for laughs with her girlfriends.

 

[OctaviusINC]

Right now being single is great for me. I have a little extra money for myself and gas isn't as big of a concern. I also have time to work on the things I love to do (art, comics, writing) I've only been in one serious relationship and I'm very glad it ended because I was very depressed for a while there. I realized it was unhealthy and needed to get out. It's been about a year and a half and since then I graduated college with a 3.9 GPA and have just been enjoying life. There is a girl I work with whom I like and it's become very obvious that she likes me, but I just really enjoy being single. So I'll take it slow.