Your opinion on public displays of affection (PDAs)

[E-Man]

Well there's public and then there's hanging out with a small group of friends in a house. Yeah I can look away/ignore someone if I'm walking down the street. But if your in a small group and two people are just laying it on each other, that's a bit harder to work around.

If you just yell out, "This is better than porn! Let me go get a few napkins. BRB..." then they'll certainly stop ultra fast.

 

[enterthemadness]

If you just yell out, "This is better than porn! Let me go get a few napkins. BRB..." then they'll certainly stop ultra fast.

Or they will wink at you...and continue on when you get back.

 

[LOBO3315a]

You say that like it's a bad thing......LOL

Personally I don't care. If they want to go at, then so be it. If I'm offended I can always look away.

 

[JewishHobbit]

I prefer not to see it. I don't mind holding hands but beyond that I just kinda roll my eyes. Flash Fact: I've been with my wife for 10 1/2 years and the only time anyone (other than our kids) have seen us kiss was at our wedding. I'm a big fan of privacy.

 

[knowsbleed]

It's my eyes, and I could easily turn them away if I see something I don't like. If people want to kiss and make out in public that's their business. If I don't like it I'll just look at something else. It isn't that hard. People ***** and whine too much about things they don't have to look at. I propose a swift falcon punch to the nuts or vagina if you complain about something you can easily look away from.

Well there's public and then there's hanging out with a small group of friends in a house. Yeah I can look away/ignore someone if I'm walking down the street. But if your in a small group and two people are just laying it on each other, that's a bit harder to work around.

I'm with Squirrel. If I'm on a date with my girlfriend and another couple, it is difficult to outright ignore the other couple if they start drooling all over each other in the middle of dinner in a restaurant.

 

[Dark Guardian]

I find it ridiculous that people have decided to take it upon themselves to crusade against one person showing that they love another.
Two people who care about each other have a right to kiss, hold hands, perhaps nuzzle a little.

The big problem comes in interpretation. I feel that a couple who loves each other should be able to show that love in whatever way they want to in public. It's love, it shouldn't be hidden away!
Goodness, with all the divorces and strained marriages, if people actually showed some genuine affection toward each other when they were out it shouldn't be curtailed!
On the flipside, stupid teenagers who just want to see how close to actually having sex in public they can get without being picked up by the police... there's a difference.

But my best friend is this way. For some reason he thinks that boys and girls, even when they are in love and or courting each other, should restrain themselves and act almost as if they are perfect strangers. That seems awfully robotic and unfeeling to me. If you're in a relationship, you care about the person you're with, show it! Hold hands! Kiss her! Hug!

 

[Dark Guardian]

I prefer not to see it. I don't mind holding hands but beyond that I just kinda roll my eyes. Flash Fact: I've been with my wife for 10 1/2 years and the only time anyone (other than our kids) have seen us kiss was at our wedding. I'm a big fan of privacy.

Good for you, that's your idea of showing (or in this case not) affection toward your wife.

However, those who want to hold hands or kiss in public shouldn't be denied that ability because other people have differing preferences...

I mean, I don't like idiot teenagers wearing their jeans down around their ankles, but guess what, that's what it means to be human. Tolerating the preferences of others, even though they don't align with your own.

 

[Gentleman Owl]

My favourite is when you see old couples still cuddling and stuff in public. It fills me with hope that maybe the world isn't completely ****.

 

[Shockdingo]

The old couples thing is cute. My thoughts on the whole PDA thing? I usually don't care, though when it's people I know and we're all hanging out, it's kinda weird if they're really going at it; this tends to throw off the mood for the rest of us. Overall, it's none of my business, and I either look away and move if it's a problem. Though there have been certain times where I'm stuck in a place (we're all going to the movies or something and/ or I'm stuck in a place due to crowded public transit), and for their sakes, I don't want to disturb them so I want to leave buuuuuuuuuut it's not going to happen. :\

tl;dr version: You all do what you want, I'll-Hokey smokes! Dr. Doom is singing atop a hill!...wait what? Sorry, wasn't paying attention.....KELP!

 

[JewishHobbit]

Good for you, that's your idea of showing (or in this case not) affection toward your wife.

However, those who want to hold hands or kiss in public shouldn't be denied that ability because other people have differing preferences...

I mean, I don't like idiot teenagers wearing their jeans down around their ankles, but guess what, that's what it means to be human. Tolerating the preferences of others, even though they don't align with your own.

Who's denying them their ability to be affectionate in public? All I said is that I prefer not to see it. I've never told anyone they SHOULDN'T make out in public. The worst I ever did is that I had a group of friends and these two couldn't hang out without getting hot and horny with each other every time and it made everyone uncomfortable and annoyed. Plain and simple, we stopped inviting them to hang out with us. If we met up then awesome but we wouldn't typically call them. They eventually mellowed out and we started hanging out again.

We never told them they couldn't or shouldn't be so affectionate around each other, we simply made the choice not to see it.

 

[Dark Guardian]

Who's denying them their ability to be affectionate in public? All I said is that I prefer not to see it. I've never told anyone they SHOULDN'T make out in public. The worst I ever did is that I had a group of friends and these two couldn't hang out without getting hot and horny with each other every time and it made everyone uncomfortable and annoyed. Plain and simple, we stopped inviting them to hang out with us. If we met up then awesome but we wouldn't typically call them. They eventually mellowed out and we started hanging out again.

We never told them they couldn't or shouldn't be so affectionate around each other, we simply made the choice not to see it.

I... know. I was putting out the example of the more extreme people who would like to see this happen. Not you specifically. Perhaps I could have made that more clear.

 

[SuperFerret]

I don't look at people in public.

 

[Dark Guardian]

I don't look at people in public.

Then how do you save them when in costume, SuperFerret?

 

[SuperFerret]

I don't.

 

[AndThePickles]

I'm with Squirrel. If I'm on a date with my girlfriend and another couple, it is difficult to outright ignore the other couple if they start drooling all over each other in the middle of dinner in a restaurant.

That's what makes the difference for me. If a couple is out in public by themselves and there's some PDA goin on, that's fine. But if you're with a group of friends, I think it's rude and immature for a couple in that group to start going at it. You came out to be with friends, so the making out can wait until you get back home to your bedroom. Or kitchen. Whatever.

 

[Prison Mike]

Holding hands is okay. A peck on the cheek is fine. Full blown makeout session? Get a room!

 

[Spider-Who?]

I'm cool with it so long as it's reasonable.

An old gf and I had decided to break it off due to her moving away for work. It was really hard, as we both really dug each other. But I couldn't follow, and I didn't want her messing up any chances of starting her life anew (aside from me, her life there had been pretty abysmal). We ended things very amicably and it was very sad for both of us. I drove her to the bus station, and as people began climbing into the bus, we reached for each other. We gave one another a small peck on the lips and a hug, not wanting to let each other go. While in the hug, a stern hand grips my shoulder and pulls me away. It was a crotchety security guard. He pushed us apart, yelling something about how if he couldn't make kiss his wife in public we couldn't either, or something like that. I was so mad, I literally lost most of my hearing from the blood rush. As I (calmly) tried telling the guy that this was the last time we'd see each other, so back off, she squeezed my hand and walked onto the bus. That was the last time I saw her. That old ****er ruined one of the most important and emotional moments of my life just because he couldn't stand to see two people hug.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I'm with Squirrel. If I'm on a date with my girlfriend and another couple, it is difficult to outright ignore the other couple if they start drooling all over each other in the middle of dinner in a restaurant.

Well, when you're with a handful of friends I think you kind of have to include as much of the group as possible in what you're doing. No one likes feeling like a fifth wheel, and if you're on a double date you should try to be good company. So a full blown make out session in front of them might be a tad rude. Depends on the setting though.

 

[Gentleman Owl]

I'm cool with it so long as it's reasonable.

An old gf and I had decided to break it off due to her moving away for work. It was really hard, as we both really dug each other. But I couldn't follow, and I didn't want her messing up any chances of starting her life anew (aside from me, her life there had been pretty abysmal). We ended things very amicably and it was very sad for both of us. I drove her to the bus station, and as people began climbing into the bus, we reached for each other. We gave one another a small peck on the lips and a hug, not wanting to let each other go. While in the hug, a stern hand grips my shoulder and pulls me away. It was a crotchety security guard. He pushed us apart, yelling something about how if he couldn't make kiss his wife in public we couldn't either, or something like that. I was so mad, I literally lost most of my hearing from the blood rush. As I (calmly) tried telling the guy that this was the last time we'd see each other, so back off, she squeezed my hand and walked onto the bus. That was the last time I saw her. That old ****er ruined one of the most important and emotional moments of my life just because he couldn't stand to see two people hug.

I rarely feel any emotion in forum posts, but I really felt it here. Although the subject matter was far from awesome, this post was awesome in its own right.