G8: Still Just As Action-Packed!

[Marx]

I'm so sorry to hear the news Speedball. I think we're all collectively sending you good thoughts and energy! Keep us posted, my friend. Whatever this thing in your leg turns out to be, I'm sure you'll come out on top.

As for the situation with spideyboy's cousin...it has not been easy. I know that you cannot change someone, but it's hard to watch someone you care so much about be so destructive and oblivious. And yeah, her now ex-girlfriend is much, much better off.

 

[Anita18]

He'll be in Boston, I'll be in Richmond, VA. He has friends he can stay with because he lived there for two years. He's going to try to come down, but it'll be tough. I'll be in the Hospital for probably a week...

Aww yeah, it's hard. It's hard for him too. It's hard for us here in the US regarding my friend overseas because we're so far away from him, and I don't know how he's doing on a day-by-day basis. I mean, I could try to Skype him, but....what to say?

I know, I'm just scared my body won't be the same afterward and I won't be able to do what can do now. I might even end up with nerve damage because they're moving so much stuff around.

Well, after being cut into, it'll need time to heal. But the human body is resilient, and is made to heal. Don't believe me? Read about Matt Long.

 

[Speedball]

I hope your friend responds to the chemo well and enters remission. Thankfully I don't have to go through that yet, but I'm letting my hair grow out and enjoying it until I'm told I don't have to.

And that's crazy about that Matt Long guy. Jeez... what a BAMF!

 

[Anita18]

I hope your friend responds to the chemo well and enters remission. Thankfully I don't have to go through that yet, but I'm letting my hair grow out and enjoying it until I'm told I don't have to.

And that's crazy about that Matt Long guy. Jeez... what a BAMF!

Thanks. He's gone through several rounds of chemo (actually has not lost his hair) and the cancer is not responding. He's getting his CAT scan in two weeks to see if the tumors have shrunk and he's really really scared. We're actually praying for major surgery (goodbye pancreas, gallbladder, and half his liver), because that means the tumors have shrunk and he has a chance. I'm not sure if we've considered the alternative...

The thing is, if any cancer is localized and small, prognosis is usually quite good. He has pancreatic cancer, and it's usually caught way too late because it's so deep in the body and difficult to locate. When they could finally see it, it was already in his liver.

But let's be hopeful! As you can see here, Matt Long isn't 100% healed (walks with an obvious limp), but he's doing his best. And definitely BAMF!

 

[Marx]

Wait a minute. Your friend is thirty and he's fighting pancreatic cancer?!

 

[Anita18]

Wait a minute. Your friend is thirty and he's fighting pancreatic cancer?!

Yeah. At that age and with that kind of cancer, it's nothing but plain bad luck.

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

It's such an unpredictable disease... age means nothing.

When my Dad was diagnosed with a (Stage 4) Brain tumour last year it was a wake up call for me. They gave him 4 months, maybe a year if he took the treatment... but he decided not to have it. They basically told him the pain of the treatment would be hell in and of itself so he thought why bother. Hell does not describe the 4 months he did have left though.

Sadly at the same time there was a young girl in the hospital (age 28) with the exact same thing. She was far too young I felt as she was just about to get married etc,it was awful. She took the treatment and got 7 months... but apparently looked nothing like herself at the wake.

Whereas my Dad looked great and 10 years younger.

It really does scare the life out of me.

 

[Marx]

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[Marx]

Does anyone have any good news?

 

[Majik1387]

More annoyance than anything, but it would be attributed to gay Hype clique bs.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Does anyone have any good news?

Jason and I are trying to have a baby.

Well...erm, in another way, obviously. We've been talking about what it would take to adopt a child. Possibly from an orphanage or even a baby left behind. We certainly could provide the child with love, and an excellent home with many advantages. We have a housekeeper and could certainly get a nanny if we absolutely needed it should both of us go back to work. But Jason is off the force for now (hasn't been working the streets since he moved here) and I could work from home easily via technology. The idea really excites us.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Jason and I are trying to have a baby.

Well...erm, in another way, obviously. We've been talking about what it would take to adopt a child. Possibly from an orphanage or even a baby left behind. We certainly could provide the child with love, and an excellent home with many advantages. We have a housekeeper and could certainly get a nanny if we absolutely needed it should both of us go back to work. But Jason is off the force for now (hasn't been working the streets since he moved here) and I could work from home easily via technology. The idea really excites us.

as awesome as that is.. are you both really ready for that right after you just got married? and are both still working out and adjusting to this new togetherness?

 

[JP]

Jason and I are trying to have a baby.

Well...erm, in another way, obviously. We've been talking about what it would take to adopt a child. Possibly from an orphanage or even a baby left behind. We certainly could provide the child with love, and an excellent home with many advantages. We have a housekeeper and could certainly get a nanny if we absolutely needed it should both of us go back to work. But Jason is off the force for now (hasn't been working the streets since he moved here) and I could work from home easily via technology. The idea really excites us.

I thought you guys just married? Don't you think it may be a bit too soon?

 

[Anita18]

as awesome as that is.. are you both really ready for that right after you just got married? and are both still working out and adjusting to this new togetherness?

I agree. If you're not gonna talk for days after having a fight, how in the world are you gonna raise a child together?

And no, "live-in nanny" is not an option for those times. Adoption is a long and hard process, and they'll probably screen you too. It isn't like shopping for (and being able to return) a puppy.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Meh. I don't think so. Yeah, the marriage part is fairly new, but the honeymoon was over a long time ago and we've been together as a couple since....well, forever now. Besides, STR8 couples have their kids before they get married, so at least we're doing it..."traditionally".

Hahaha!!!

 

[Anita18]

Sure, but straight couples have the excuse of "Well, it just happened by accident and we weren't comfortable with adoption/abortion, so here we are!" while the gays don't. You have the luxury of making sure you two are ready first.

 

[JP]

Well hey, whatever floats your boat. Who am I to judge?

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Meh. I don't think so. Yeah, the marriage part is fairly new, but the honeymoon was over a long time ago and we've been together as a couple since....well, forever now. Besides, STR8 couples have their kids before they get married, so at least we're doing it..."traditionally".

Hahaha!!!

i know, and i mean no disrespect.. but your last fight didn't really make things seem that stable. It seemed kinda clear that you're both adjusting and deciding what "marriage" means to you both. If that makes sense? Straight people who have kids before adjusting usually don't plan on having the kid. Adopting is alot of planning and even more strict on stability. It's just something you should think about. take a year at the very least before beginning those steps. I'd say. I think most couples gay or straight should do that anyway. Parenthood is scary as hell.. you truly should be prepared. If not.. well.. look how many parents screw up their kids by not being ready?

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

I agree. If you're not gonna talk for days after having a fight, how in the world are you gonna raise a child together?

Again, husbands and wives in STR8 relationships do the same thing every day and manage to raise their families just fine.

Jason and I are no longer "dating". We are legally married, ergo, no one is going anywhere and we're both committed to this relationship. Disagreements are part of the package, guys. Only the naive would assume that our relationship would be rock-free.

Besides, we're just thinking about it, damn. LOL

And no, "live-in nanny" is not an option for those times. Adoption is a long and hard process, and they'll probably screen you too. It isn't like shopping for (and being able to return) a puppy.

Well, of course they'll screen us. And they'd find that we are upstanding, hard-working citizens and would have no problems caring raising a child (I've already talked to some in the social profession about the plausibility of such a thing). We are not exactly "younglings"--we're both in our late 30s and financially established.

It's something we're talking about for the future. I love that it was Jason's idea too.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Again, husbands and wives in STR8 relationships do the same thing every day and manage to raise their families just fine.

Jason and I are no longer "dating". We are legally married, ergo, no one is going anywhere and we're both committed to this relationship. Disagreements are part of the package, guys. Only the naive would assume that our relationship would be rock-free.

Besides, we're just thinking about it, damn. LOL



Well, of course they'll screen us. And they'd find that we are upstanding, hard-working citizens and would have no problems caring raising a child (I've already talked to some in the social profession about the plausibility of such a thing). We are not exactly "younglings"--we're both in our late 30s and financially established.

It's something we're talking about for the future. I love that it was Jason's idea too.

well that's awesome. Sorry.. i thought this is more of a "right now decided" kinda thing and not a "in the future" kinda thing

 

[Anita18]

Again, husbands and wives in STR8 relationships do the same thing every day and manage to raise their families just fine.

Jason and I are no longer "dating". We are legally married, ergo, no one is going anywhere and we're both committed to this relationship. Disagreements are part of the package, guys. Only the naive would assume that our relationship would be rock-free.

Besides, we're just thinking about it, damn. LOL

Yeeeah, just because straight couples do it doesn't mean you have to stoop to that level. You have the luxury of making sure you are 100% ready and that the child will have the healthiest environment possible. And it's not just financially, but emotionally. Don't squander that, ya know?

Sure disagreements are part of the package, but it depends on how you resolve them. Not speaking to your partner for days isn't how parents of a young child should function. One of you is going to have to step up and take 100% responsibility for the child during those times.

My coworker is in a very unhealthy marriage. Even though she hates her husband 90% of the time, the kids will always be taken care of, by her. She's basically a single mom, and she's fine with that. She loves her kids, and her kids always come first. But it's getting to the point where the kids are old enough to figure out what's going on, and that's not good for them. They'll grow up thinking that an emotionally abusive marriage is acceptable, and it isn't.

But that's WAY far down the line. It's good that you're thinking about it, but....think about it some more, okay?

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

i know, and i mean no disrespect.. but your last fight didn't really make things seem that stable. It seemed kinda clear that you're both adjusting and deciding what "marriage" means to you both. If that makes sense? Straight people who have kids before adjusting usually don't plan on having the kid. Adopting is alot of planning and even more strict on stability. It's just something you should think about. take a year at the very least before beginning those steps. I'd say. I think most couples gay or straight should do that anyway. Parenthood is scary as hell.. you truly should be prepared. If not.. well.. look how many parents screw up their kids by not being ready?

Perhaps it didn't seem that 'stable' here on-line. But there are volumes more details to our relationship that I don't post here with you guys. Jason and I are pulling insight from the entire catalog of our relationship, not just the playful, one-dimensional stupidity we get into that I may share with my friends on the Hype. LOL

In addition, time is working against us. As I mentioned, we are both in our late 30s and we'd like to adopt a young baby, or at most a toddler. I'm not trying to be 70 years old running after a 12 year old--so we can't wait forever. We want to be young parents, enjoying the experiences that young fathers can have with their kids, playing with them, keeping up with them, etc.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

well that's awesome. Sorry.. i thought this is more of a "right now decided" kinda thing and not a "in the future" kinda thing

Well, not right now as in tomorrow, August 21st. But 8 months to a year from now? Who knows...we might be looking into it seriously.

If I was still in my early 20s, I'd be hell no. But 40 will do something to ya. LOL

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Perhaps it didn't seem that 'stable' here on-line. But there are volumes more details to our relationship that I don't post here with you guys. Jason and I are pulling insight from the entire catalog of our relationship, not just the playful, one-dimensional stupidity we get into that I may share with my friends on the Hype. LOL

In addition, time is working against us. As I mentioned, we are both in our late 30s and we'd like to adopt a young baby, or at most a toddler. I'm not trying to be 70 years old running after a 12 year old--so we can't wait forever. We want to be young parents, enjoying the experiences that young fathers can have with their kids, playing with them, keeping up with them, etc.

and that's fine, but we only know what we're told on here.. so it's easy to see why a few red flags went up for a few of us. I want to be a young father as well..

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

and that's fine, but we only know what we're told on here.. so it's easy to see why a few red flags went up for a few of us. I want to be a young father as well..

When Jason was playing the "straight game" one of the things he wanted most was kids. He's always had that desire. But he didn't want to have them in a hetero relationship. Just because we've gotten married doesn't mean that desire has lessened for him. For me, my career has been a primary focus. But in the last 3 years, I've taken on more of a consultant role and work from home alot. I rarely have to go into the office these days. It's great. And while I kids, I never envisioned myself being a dad because I'm gay. Then again, I never saw myself married to another man either, so...

Right now, our circumstances are perfect to bring a little one into our lives. This last little silliness notwithstanding there is peace in our household. We really never fight. There is a lot of love that we are capable of giving. The idea thrills me.