Guys & Dating... why do they lie?

[DarknessOfDeath]

It's the truth

seriously? how you do it? lol

 

[Soundwave]

Men lie to get laid. Women lie about giving it up so they don't look like ****s.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

I don't know you tell us, you're a dude aren't you?

god some of you are stupid... i said not all guys... but alot of guy do.. so wondering why they have that impulse..

 

[spideyboy_1111]

I've had a gay friend who would lie to me like there is no tomorrow about some things. Maybe it's an attribute that some people in the gay community tend to pick up. (You are talking about gay men I assume ? ) I've yelled at him many a time not to lie and stop letting his dick do the thinking.
But in all, I think saying that they all lie is bit of an overreaction.

a i mean men in general.. and B) never said all men lie

 

[FRUITY]

Why do guys lie? In this day and age I honestly think women lie a lot more.

Lies. It's the very foundation of every relationship, keeps you on your toes, makes it more interesting.:heart::meow:

In general people lie because seemingly it's the easy way out. Judging from the outside of the glass tank; it seems that most men are taught to lie at an early age, lie about their emotions as to avoid coming across as weak. Maybe due to that lying has been woven so tightly into them that later on in their adult life it has simply become a force of habit. Maybe. I mean I notice from past experience, sometimes guys just lie even if there's nothing to gain from it.

......For centuries it's been the guy's duty to find a female. It's sort of like the male is a predator and the female is the prey. The male has to do whatever it takes to get his prey, and sometimes they feel lying is the best or easiest way. ......

The same can be said about women. Much like a guy expected to "get the girl", women are expected to be with a man. And women do lie to mask whatever unfulfilled expectations we have too.

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[spideyboy_1111]

you as in second person plural.

Entering into a relationship implies so much these days. I mean one isn't supposed to even start dating unless it leads to marriage in the eyes of plenty of people.

People have different expectations and opinions of one another after a few dates and lies are told to ultimately protect the initial feelings of the weaker person.

If you went into something on a very casual basis and didn't make any ties to them after 3 or 4 dates and played it calm, then there would be no need to lie since there would be no pressure for the relationship to work/fail.

so yeah, the only one to blame is you.

If you want a scapegoat blame our current societies for making us too weak to deal with the fact that not everyone likes us and to also avoid any sort of emotional confrontations.

im not here complaining about liars in my life... this isnt about me.. just my experiences and im sure many have some as well. I'm just curious as to why more men then women seem to have an impulse for it... this isnt about my actions

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Guys lie just as much as women do, but the reason why it seems like guys lie more is because of the way society is. Guys feel more of a need to lie. For centuries it's been the guy's duty to find a female. It's sort of like the male is a predator and the female is the prey. The male has to do whatever it takes to get his prey, and sometimes they feel lying is the best or easiest way. With the way society has portrayed things, it's much easier for a female to pick up a guy just by dressing and looking sexy, but this doesn't work the same for men because women are usually seeking more. For men, it is usually that they have to be both physically and emotionally strong for a women to be attracted to them. Therefore, if they're not, it's hard for them to get the girl, so they might choose to lie in order to get the girl. Women wouldn't have to lie in this area because physically and emotion strength isn't what's expected of them.

I'm not saying that the stereotype that men lie more is true, but with the way society and the media plays it, you can't help but think guys are nothing but lying pigs and the female is always the victim. Of course, this is true in some cases, but it's definitely not true all the time.

this is definately more of the kinda post i was looking for.. and intelligent one, thank you

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Lies. It's the very foundation of every relationship, keeps you on your toes, makes it more interesting.:heart::meow:

In general people lie because seemingly it's the easy way out. Judging from the outside of the glass tank; it seems that most men are taught to lie at an early age, lie about their emotions as to avoid coming across as weak. Maybe due to that lying has been woven so tightly into them that later on in their adult life it has simply become a force of habit. Maybe. I mean I notice from past experience, sometimes guys just lie even if there's nothing to gain from it.

The same can be said about women. Much like a guy expected to "get the girl", women are expected to be with a man. And women do lie to mask whatever unfulfilled expectations we have too.

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hmm thats pretty interesting too...

i find with gay men its definately a mix of things.. usually for selfish reasons... lying i ignorant to me in general and a sign of weakness. And i've always had a hard time doing it... it's blatantly obvious when i lie, so i tend to not do it... only people ive ever really lied to are my parents...

i think gay guys do its for several reasons, all of which i listed.. but i think mostly it's all about having your cake and eating it too.. whether it's sex, emotion, confidence, etc...

 

[SpideyVille]

The same can be said about women. Much like a guy expected to "get the girl", women are expected to be with a man. And women do lie to mask whatever unfulfilled expectations we have too.

edit: cut back on the pink

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Yea, it's like the way society is and has been, the so much pressure of men and women to fulfill a certain duty because that's what we're taught is the "right thing", but it doesn't come easy for some people. So they're pretty much force to lie to make up for things that they lack.

this is definately more of the kinda post i was looking for.. and intelligent one, thank you

No problem. And as much as I firmly believe in "honesty is the best policy", you go through some experiences in life that teach you that it's not really the best thing to do. It's sort of a selfish thing to do, but at the same time it's hard to blame because we all want things in life, and it's hard to do what we feel is right when it doesn't lead to us getting what we want at the moment.

 

[CorpusBlack]

Men lie to get laid. Women lie about giving it up so they don't look like ****s.

Wake up homie. Women lie to get laid too. It's a different ballgame now.

 

[BlackLantern]

Men lie because we can, because, for the most part, we can get away with it...

 

[Odin's Lapdog]

im not here complaining about liars in my life... this isnt about me.. just my experiences and im sure many have some as well. I'm just curious as to why more men then women seem to have an impulse for it... this isnt about my actions

you need to nail that second person plural thing....

 

[terry78]

Eventually you will realize that although it's wrong and people claim it makes you a coward, more people are prone to lying than they admit, which may be a tad hypocritical. If the truth about something is just so awful that you know it would cause grief, that's when lies are told. I've been in jobs where I was told by superiors to lie at certain points. It's a mainstay, sadly.

 

[Ray-Fu]

People also lie to be proud or feel proud, but I guess that comes back down to insecurity too.

I agee with what some of the posters in here have said about society, and I really think it plays a huge role in why people lie all the time.

 

[Remy LeBeau X3]

People also lie to be proud or feel proud, but I guess that comes back down to insecurity too.

I agee with what some of the posters in here have said about society, and I really think it plays a huge role in why people lie all the time.

totally agree! i had a en ex who told me he worked at an office job with this dad. i found out later that he didn't even have a job. i know he was thinking it looked bad but it wasn't a big deal. not to mention that he constantly talked about work and a lot of things to impress me. but it just made it worse on his part.

 

[Ray-Fu]

totally agree! i had a en ex who told me he worked at an office job with this dad. i found out later that he didn't even have a job. i know he was thinking it looked bad but it wasn't a big deal. not to mention that he constantly talked about work and a lot of things to impress me. but it just made it worse on his part.

Ouch...lying is a funny thing, as it's bound to be found out by someone sooner or later, especially the status ones...

I'm a terrible liar and people always catch me, so lying is out of my diet

 

[The Guard]

When you say lie...

About what, exactly?

Sometimes men lie because they may feel that the woman they are with can't handle the truth.

 

[Eggyman]

When you say lie...

About what, exactly?

Sometimes men lie because they may feel that the woman they are with can't handle the truth.

Yes! I believe that is what we refer to as a white lie: 'No, no, darlin - you look beautiful . . . No you've not put on weight . . . I never look at other women . . .'

 

[Apollo]

because the truth is never interesting enough.

 

[Arkady Rossovich]

So... some of you may know i've run into some bad luck with dating... maybe more so then others... but like 70% of guys i meet, and many i've viewed from both male and female friends, gay and strait whatever.... it seems like theres alot of guys who cheat and lie out there, yeah women do it too.. but i dunno just seems like guys are more prone to do it. sooo i ask why? is there like some wierd genetic thing guys have to be compelled to lie? sure alot of times it's also there dick doing the thinking.. but they also seem to do it when theres absolutely not a single reason to.

It's hard to get any these days..

 

[Grizzly Mac&Cheese]

I'm pretty flippin honest

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Yes! I believe that is what we refer to as a white lie: 'No, no, darlin - you look beautiful . . . No you've not put on weight . . . I never look at other women . . .'

white lies are ok, but but ill give you some examples...

one guy i liked, fell for me and i fell for him, problem was he has past bf issues and was too scared to get into a long distance relationship. and was afraid of hurting me. even after he found a local guy and didnt tell me till a few months later..

another lie of pointless-ness. is my friend joe in ohio... he lies for absolutely no reason other then what i would assume is paranoia. for instance whenever hes hangin with a friend or at someones house.. and his mom or a gf or whoever calls.. he says hes somewhere else... and the excuse he gives of that other place, is on par with where hes at anyway.. soo even if he told the truth it would be the same outcome.