Mjölnir;32376669 said:
As for writing things as clear opinion, I've done that more than most I've discussed with on this site as I used to take it very seriously (and I still remember writing "in my view", "personally", etc many times the last couple of days). The main reason to if I'm lazy about it is that people often got annoyed if I mentioned it and weren't susceptible to my point, and instead just wave it off as it's obvious that they are talking about their opinions. After a while I just stop caring as much and can stray from it especially when the person I'm discussing with isn't expressing himself like that. I haven't noticed any difference in what kind of kickback there is.
Zeroing in on this specifically.
Simply adding the 'disclaimer' that it's in your view or it's in your opinion or simply working under that as a given doesn't qualify as speaking for yourself. For example:
In my opinion, everyone hates avengers...and because it's too funny.
In my experience this is when someone then comes in and says, 'speak for yourself' to which one responds; "but I did, I added imo did I not."
Your opinion or not in this instance is still one speaking for 'everyone', everyone they highlighted when they said 'everyone', 'marvin' included which is why I would enter into debate at that point. Some people take it even further and say things like "(imo) when that ending happened,
you feel unfulfilled". Again opinion or not now one is specifically talking about me now, and I let that stand.
All avoided if dude just said "I hate avengers and because I find too funny"
If someone want's to debate such a thing fine, but people are less likely to given I'm not stepping over into that other territory of speaking to some greater truth or observation, but really just expressing who I myself and thos like me are as a member of the audience.
Difference between stating how a film lands on you vs how a film lands. If a film is bad or just bad for you. Again there is no problem with either, it's just the former in either instance tends to lead to 'kickback', disagreement, arguments..etc.
My point is, it goes beyond 'opinion' and actually is contingent on whom that opinion is said to apply. Ergo the whole speak for yourself and not just in your opinion. And when you call a film bad or poor vs it simply being poor for you(but maybe not actually), you are falling into this.
And again, I get that your statement about projecting referring to something different. My statement was about how this ultimately amounts to similar.
It happens on both sides(before I really do pull a you know who) in my experience though posters like that 'black narcissis' tend to be aware imo.