While I don't want to start an inane fight, the Spider-Man you read in the past was different with the Spider-Man people read before you, and the Spider-Man kids read after you started was different than the Spidey you read and so forth.
It's always going to be different.
My wife and i were discussing Mary Jane last night (in regards to the movie) and I was telling her the role was between Dunst & Kate Hudson. She thought Judson would have been a bad choice because Mary Jane was a sweet girl next door type in the comics. I argued that she was more the party girl. And you know what? We're both right. Because her Mary Jane was from the mid-80's when her character was more serious and some depth was added to her childhood, making Mary Jane seem less the partier in my wife's eyes in the 80's. However, I remember a more swingin' Mary Jane from the 70's and thanks to Marvel Tales, from the 60's... hence my regards to her as a party girl (who has obviously matured into a grown woman).
My point is that the Spider-Man we all loved as a child is gone and will be gone forever... because the character will change and evolve over time. Are some of the changes I've seen over the close to 32 years ofe reading Spidey books good? Some are, some aren't... Do I like the current changes? Not so much. But I gave up on this character in 1997, and I'm not going to do it again. Good times will be in Spidey's future, as will bad times.
But it will never be as good as the Spider-Man I grew up reading.
Just my 2 cents...