Money and marriage

[snakeinthegear]

Maybe it was sarcasm.

I would prefer something less serious this time, actually.

It's annoying more than anything else. Which is odd.

Marital counseling awaits. Maybe I can make a thread out of that. That'd be fairly interesting...

Um, marital counseling isn't the answer. I don't think you need it based on what you've told us. Your wife acted unfavourably sure but you're her husband; set her straight. Let her know that what she did was wrong, inconsiderate and the consequences it has on both your lives. Tell her how it makes you feel, ask her why she acted without consulting you and just discuss the matter......in a cordial way mind you. Don't flip out and get all high and mighty. Be stern, focused and try to come off as understanding. Trust me, she'll love you more, respect you more, is less likely to make such an error and plus she may make it up to you in ways you couldn't imagine come bed time

 

[Paradoxium]

I'm supposed to know what? All I can think of is puberty and menopause and that doesn't make sense.

And yes, it's VERY hard for a woman to climb the career ladder if they plan to have kids. The only way to do it, I think, is if you have outside help raising the children. And then people will criticize you for being a bad mother.

hehehe

 

[Paradoxium]

You have to keep in mind Guard, once you have kids, it's

for whatever ambitions you ever had or wanted.

 

[The Guard]

Luckily I have few ambitions, if any.

Um, marital counseling isn't the answer. I don't think you need it based on what you've told us. Your wife acted unfavourably sure but you're her husband; set her straight. Let her know that what she did was wrong, inconsiderate and the consequences it has on both your lives. Tell her how it makes you feel, ask her why she acted without consulting you and just discuss the matter......in a cordial way mind you. Don't flip out and get all high and mighty. Be stern, focused and try to come off as understanding. Trust me, she'll love you more, respect you more, is less likely to make such an error and plus she may make it up to you in ways you couldn't imagine come bed time

It's almost amusing that you think it works that way. Granted, it's supposed to...

 

[Anita18]

You have to keep in mind Guard, once you have kids, it's

for whatever ambitions you ever had or wanted.

Granted, that goes for having children outside of marriage too.

 

[katie_girl09]

I read an article in a newsweek I believe, similar situation, this girl who graduated with a degree in marketing...now 23, still living at home because she hasn't got a job offer that is suitable to her....she refuses to accept anything less than $45,000 a year to start

Seriously? What a ridiculous sense of entitlement.