My girlfriend dumped me

[Maxwell Smart]

That is where you are wrong and is what all these people have been trying to tell you, man.

No, I'm not. *I* know how I really feel, noone else does.

 

[Erzengel]

I will be honest with you MS, you are REALLY limiting yourself if you accept the first girl who's willing to date you. If she has different beliefs? That's okay she likes me. She hates every one of your hobbies. That's okay she likes me. She never gets any of your jokes/stories. That's okay she likes me.

There is better out there. But first you have to learn to respect yourself. To think yeah I deserve a girl like her or her. Honestly, if you don't respect yourself, she's not going to and she's going to treat you like sh't. But that's okay because she's your gf.

 

[Maxwell Smart]

OKay then, why exactly do you need to be with someone? You clearly dont' give a **** who you date, so it's not like you actually have to like the girl. You cleary don't care what she looks like, so it's not like you have to enjoy the dirty parts. What is it that makes these relationships so importnat to you?

No part of it IS the dirty parts, I just don't care what they look like.

I want someone to share things with, hang out with- I realise you can get those things from a platonic(sp?) friend...but you can't have sex with them.

 

[Erzengel]

I don't.

You're 19, give another year or so.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

The only people I know who have no friends are severely effed up emotionally, mentally or physically. So I see Maxwell Smart say that he made this thread because he has no friends to talk to and his family wouldn't understand and I have to say I find it very hard to believe that there's "really nothing wrong with you" and that the only problem you have is that Care too much to act aloof.

 

[Maxwell Smart]

I will be honest with you MS, you are REALLY limiting yourself if you accept the first girl who's willing to date you. If she has different beliefs? That's okay she likes me. She hates every one of your hobbies. That's okay she likes me. She never gets any of your jokes/stories. That's okay she likes me.

There is better out there. But first you have to learn to respect yourself. To think yeah I deserve a girl like her or her. Honestly, if you don't respect yourself, she's not going to and she's going to treat you like sh't. But that's okay because she's your gf.

Well it wouldn't be like I was marrying her or something. I wouldn't make a serious commitment to someone unless we actually got along too.

 

[Darren Daring]

No part of it IS the dirty parts, I just don't care what they look like.

I want someone to share things with, hang out with- I realise you can get those things from a platonic(sp?) friend...but you can't have sex with them.

Yeah, fine, get a hooker then

 

[jaguarr]

No, I'm not. *I* know how I really feel, noone else does.

No sh1t, Sherlock. That's why everyone's been telling you that YOU have to improve your situation. Otherwise you're just b1tching and moaning about things without lifting a finger to help yourself. And then you wonder why people are mocking you and giving you a bad time. It's hard to feel sorry for someone who won't even do something to fix their own problems but just keeps complaining.

jag

 

[Lackey]

damn, 19 pages and this thread isn't even funny. I'm disappointed

 

[Erzengel]

Well it wouldn't be like I was marrying her or something. I wouldn't make a serious commitment to someone unless we actually got along too.

Well that's good but the "respect" thing still applies. Not that many girls would want to be with a guy who had low self worth and no respect for himself.

 

[Maxwell Smart]

The only people I know who have no friends are severely effed up emotionally, mentally or physically. So I see Maxwell Smart say that he made this thread because he has no friends to talk to and his family wouldn't understand and I have to say I find it very hard to believe that there's "really nothing wrong with you" and that the only problem you have is that Care too much to act aloof.

I have my best friend, but he doesn't live around here. I don't have any friends in THIS ****hole. I moved here after HS and I just haven't made any. My job isn't the kind of job that puts me around other young people, and I don't go to school currently. I went the college one semester when I first got here, but I dropped out after I decided I wanted to pursue culinary arts and found out they didn't offer it. I didn't want to waste time spinning my wheels there, I decided to go back to school when I could move somewhere with a college that offers C.A.

Which is what I'll be doing when i go to Dallas next fall and room up with my best friend(thats where he lives). I'm waiting on him to graduate in May, he wants to be a chef too.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

I have my best friend, but he doesn't live around here. I don't have any friends in THIS ****hole. I moved here after HS and I just haven't made any. My job isn't the kind of job that puts me around other young people, and I don't go to school currently. I went the college one semester when I first got here, but I dropped out after I decided I wanted to pursue culinary arts and found out they didn't offer it. I didn't want to waste time spinning my wheels there, I decided to go back to school when I could move somewhere with a college that offers C.A.

Which is what I'll be doing when i go to Dallas next fall and room up with my best friend(thats where he lives). I'm waiting on him to graduate in May, he wants to be a chef too.

irrelevant ^

 

[Maxwell Smart]

Well that's good but the "respect" thing still applies. Not that many girls would want to be with a guy who had low self worth and no respect for himself.

I like myself fine, I just don't like not being good with women. Its this aspect of my life that bothers me.. I really don't have anything else to complain about. I'm on the right track for my future as far as education and career, I'm in immensely better shape than I used to be and I'm still improving, I have hobbies and things I like, I'm finally making some money now..

I just happen to care about girls more than anything else so it really bothers me.

 

[Maxwell Smart]

irrelevant ^

How is that?

 

[Erzengel]

So why do you so DESPERATELY want a gf now then? If you are moving in a year, and at 19, I doubt a girl will want to follow you all the way there especially if she's around your age.

Don't give me the excuse, but I'm lonely now. Do you know the lonliness you are feeling would be nothing compared to the emptiness of a real breakup after a year of dating.

 

[Daisy]

No sh1t, Sherlock. That's why everyone's been telling you that YOU have to improve your situation. Otherwise you're just b1tching and moaning about things without lifting a finger to help yourself. And then you wonder why people are mocking you and giving you a bad time. It's hard to feel sorry for someone who won't even do something to fix their own problems but just keeps complaining.

jag

You know Barnum's thing about publicity?

MS is the same way with attention.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

blablabla, I'm sorry.
You're right, Max.
There isn't a single thing you could do, not a single choice you could make, that would result in you being happier when it comes to sex and romance.

Yep. It's all just 1) Totally unfair bull**** standards hoisted on us by society
and 2) cruel fate and an environment over which you have no control.

So really, all there is left to do is to b**** about what a shallow c*** your "girlfriend" was for dumping you. *shrug*
Enjoy

 

[Daisy]

So why do you so DESPERATELY want a gf now then? If you are moving in a year, and at 19, I doubt a girl will want to follow you all the way there especially if she's around your age.

Don't give me the excuse, but I'm lonely now. Do you know the lonliness you are feeling would be nothing compared to the emptiness of a real breakup after a year of dating.

Is it time to pull out the "If you don't like spending time with you, why should someone else want to spend time with you?" cliche?

 

[Maxwell Smart]

So why do you so DESPERATELY want a gf now then? If you are moving in a year, and at 19, I doubt a girl will want to follow you all the way there especially if she's around your age.

Don't give me the excuse, but I'm lonely now. Do you know the lonliness you are feeling would be nothing compared to the emptiness of a real breakup after a year of dating.

I guess you're right.

You know Barnum's thing about any publicity is good publicity?

MS is the same way with attention.

Well yeah. Getting attention from you guys even though it is negative mostly is still better than sitting quietly and feeling bad by myself. I wouldn't seek out your attention if I had friends here for me in real life.

 

[Darren Daring]

blablabla, I'm sorry.
You're right, Max.
There isn't a single thing you could do, not a single choice you could make, that would result in you being happier when it comes to sex and romance.

Yep. It's all just 1) Totally unfair bull**** standards hoisted on us by society
and 2) cruel fate and an environment over which you have no control.

So really, all there is left to do is to b**** about what a shallow c*** your "girlfriend" was for dumping you. *shrug*
Enjoy

I'm smarter than Wil becuase I came to this conlcusion about 15 minutes ago.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

I'm smarter than Wil becuase I came to this conlcusion about 15 minutes ago.

Yeah but you were already going when I got to work and started, factor that in.

 

[Darren Daring]

Yeah but you were already going when I got to work and started, factor that in.

****

 

[Daisy]

I guess you're right.



Well yeah. Getting attention from you guys even though it is negative mostly is still better than sitting quietly and feeling bad by myself. I wouldn't seek out your attention if I had friends here for me in real life.

You look at it as those two options and still say that you like yourself? *incredulous*

Also, it's not 'mostly negative'. There have been a number of people who have been trying to help you, but you just shoot them down... over and over again... and continue to wallow in self-pity.

And, you think a smart, mature woman would be attracted to someone like that?

 

[Erzengel]

Is it time to pull out the "If you don't like spending time with you, why should someone else want to spend time with you?" cliche?

I guess one of my pet peeves is people around his age, giving the whole "I'm so Worldly" because the sum of my "vast" personal experiences (which is mostly high school) has made me so jaded about life. Yeah whatever Batman.

 

[Maxwell Smart]

Thanks for all the advice, everyone.

I understand where you're coming from on most of it, I just don't know how much it can help me out right now. I think I just have to let things work themselves out naturally.