*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[Hound55]

Then they're inadequate parents, and that's a whooooole nother story.

I don't buy that, but I'll expand on it.

If they don't leave when their child has a reasonable reason for not liking their step-dad... THEN they're inadequate parents.

Not all kids are rational... in fact I'd say most aren't.

But in fairness the numbers aren't good for adults when judging rationailty either...

 

[BlackLantern]

I don't buy that, but I'll expand on it.

If they don't leave when their child has a reasonable reason for not liking their step-dad... THEN they're inadequate parents.

Not all kids are rational... in fact I'd say most aren't.

But in fairness the numbers aren't good for adults when judging rationailty either...

when your kid can barely walk the next day because their step a-hole beat them for dropping a glass come talk to me about rational

 

[Hound55]

when your kid can barely walk the next day because their step a-hole beat them for dropping a glass come talk to me about rational

In which case I would say it's rational and that the kid had a reasonable reason for not liking his/her step-dad and the parent SHOULD get the hell out.

Fact is though, not every situation is the same as that one...

 

[NotAHenchwench]

If they don't leave when their child has a reasonable reason for not liking their step-dad... THEN they're inadequate parents.

That's exactly what I mean. When it's about the benefit and well-being of the child, there can be no compromise. The parent should choose the child over a lover any day of the week.

It isn't a negative thing, really. Some people work well in a situation where there are kids involved. I'm just saying that a lot of times it doesn't work, and each partner wants different things.

 

[Hound55]

I know... I just couldn't accept you and BL agreeing on anything which was all I needed to know to realise that the terms in the comment wasn't quite clear enough...

 

[NotAHenchwench]

I know... I just couldn't accept you and BL agreeing on anything which was all I needed to know to realise that the comment wasn't defined enough...

Oh you... always causing trouble.

 

[BlackLantern]

That's exactly what I mean. When it's about the benefit and well-being of the child, there can be no compromise. The parent should choose the child over a lover any day of the week.

and some don't because they don't want to be alone...they know the market sucks for single moms so they take what they can get

 

[NotAHenchwench]

and some don't because they don't want to be alone...they know the market sucks for single moms so they take what they can get

It can also be bad news for a Father too. Say your ex has custody of the kids, gets sick of them and then forces them to life with you. Now your partner has to accept that she needs to parent children that aren't hers. Depending on the situation, some women will not be able to handle that.

 

[Hound55]

and some don't because they don't want to be alone...they know the market sucks for single moms so they take what they can get

Yes, but they still have a responsibility to the child.

When that kind of s*** happens, you bail. End of discussion.

 

[NotAHenchwench]

Yes, but they still have a responsibility to the child.

When that kind of s*** happens, you bail. End of discussion.

I second this. Completely.

 

[BlackLantern]

Yes, but they still have a responsibility to the child.

When that kind of s*** happens, you bail. End of discussion.

I agree....but that doesn't always happen....and you get maladjusted bastards like myself who are scared to get seriously involved with anyone for fear of any situation even remotely like that happening

 

[Anubis]

Just like the s**t that happened to you doesn't always happen, and you get relatively well adjusted beanie baby collectors.

 

[Hound55]

I agree....but that doesn't always happen....and you get maladjusted bastards like myself who are scared to get seriously involved with anyone for fear of any situation even remotely like that happening

Every man-made system is flawed by virtue of the fact that it is man-made.

I'm just saying how the parties SHOULD act in these situations.

 

[BlackLantern]

People are s****y....its always a safe bet

 

[NotAHenchwench]

I agree....but that doesn't always happen....and you get maladjusted bastards like myself who are scared to get seriously involved with anyone for fear of any situation even remotely like that happening

Somehow I think that in time, you'll find someone who eases that fear. I did.

 

[Hound55]

Just like the s**t that happened to you doesn't always happen, and you get relatively well adjusted beanie baby collectors.

I'm yet to meet a well adjusted beanie-baby collector...

 

[terry78]

As much as it pains me to invoke TDK again, you guys are starting to sound like Joker.

 

[Anubis]

I'm yet to meet a well adjusted beanie-baby collector...

That's why I said "relatively".

 

[BlackLantern]

Somehow I think that in time, you'll find someone who eases that fear. I did.

I'm good

As much as it pains me to invoke TDK again, you guys are starting to sound like Joker.

???

 

[Anubis]

You know, thinking that everybody is a miserable *****e out to get you before you get them.

 

[Hound55]

Somehow I think that in time, you'll find someone who eases that fear. I did.

I fear (not the best choice of words) he's too scared to ever let someone get that close in the first place and that he's found a satisfactory alternative to fulfilling his desires that he's comfortable with.

Inertia leads to a sense of comfort that can be hard to pull yourself out from.

It's his life though and he seems happy enough with it though, I normally wouldn't comment on his life because it's none of my business and I obviously don't have all of the facts, but since it seems relevant in the topic we're in I thought "what the hell".

 

[BlackLantern]

You know, thinking that everybody is a miserable *****e out to get you before you get them.

oh yes they are

I fear (not the best choice of words) he's too scared to ever let someone get that close in the first place and that he's found a satisfactory alternative to fulfilling his desires that he's comfortable with.

Yay for escorts....and I like inertia....

 

[Anubis]

Escorts are better than shrinks.

 

[BlackLantern]

Escorts are better than shrinks.

no doubt

 

[Hound55]

More bang for your buck, certainly...