People who sit next to you in the movies un appreciation thread

[charl_huntress]

Look people, some of you are really overwrought about this. Again as I have said repeatedly. I do not care how any of you raise your children, nor do I care how any of your were raised. I do not think it is appropriate to let 12 year children watch horror movies or porn, but again...if a parent decides to do that then it is their child and they have the right to make those decisions. Do I think there may be consequences? Yes, but I do not support pushing my beliefs on some else. However, we are on a MB where I am sharing my beliefs. At no time have I told anyone how to be a parent or raise their child. At no time have disparged anyone for the way they were raised. I have continually reinforced that I do not care. Yet, for some reason you all seem hell bent to convince me I am wrong for having these beliefs and I am somehow telling people how to live. I'm not doing any of those things, but none of you are going to change my mind on my beliefs no matter how many insulting things you throw my way.

I am beginning to wonder why some of you are so enraged....

i think you missed the point of who get to decide what oversexualization is. there was a point in time where an unwed 16 yr old girl was considered old, and societies that encourage sex at what many would consider a young age. there is no standard.

I would say that the society sets standards based on social mores and the laws of the time. Though you are right things change, social mores change and laws change. My point of showing those pictures is to say this is what I think oversexualization looks like now...and that's actually just scratching the surface. I have personally seen worse. Though again, if anyone thinks it's okay to let their child do those things then by all means go for it! I am not going to tell you you are wrong. I just don't think it's right, but hey...it's your kid!

Though I will say this...all this reminds me of why I enjoying watching movies at home or a pricey cinema. You do get what you pay for.

 

[Manic]

At no time have I told anyone how to be parent or raise their child. At no time have disparged anyone for the way they were raised. I have continually reinforced that I do not care. Yet, for some reason you all seem hell bent to convince me I am wrong for having these beliefs and I am somehow telling people how to live.

Perhaps you hit a sour note with us when you told us that allowing our children to watch certain material would turn them into criminals. That is a criticism toward anyone here who's a parent and anyone planning to have children; and quite frankly, you've also indirectly insulted us and our parents.

Remember when you said this?

"However, if any of you want to take your 12 year old to a horror movie or let them watch porn with you then by all means do so. I am not the parent police and I could care less how anyone raises future prisoners...I mean their child."

Beginning your statement by telling us to raise our children however we like doesn't take away the obvious passive aggressive judgement you displayed at the end. Don't tell us you don't care and then level implied criticisms our way all in the same stream of thought. We're not stupid and we know when we're being insulted.

 

[charl_huntress]

lol...Okay, I see how you may be insulted by that. Doesn't change how I feel though. I do think parents who allow this are treading very dangerous ground. Yet, I am happy to hear that you are very well adjusted and this does not apply to you. Kuduos!

 

[Mrs. Sawyer]

.... And billions of people.

 

[Doctor Evo]

To me, the larger crime is the use of the phrase, "I could care less."

 

[charl_huntress]

lol...I have a friend from England who is a grammar police like you. She hates when I use it...lol. I could say "I suppose I could care less, but I don’t see how", but I didn't....lol

 

[Doctor Evo]

lol...I have a friend from England who is a grammar police like you. She hates when I use it...lol. I could say "I suppose I could care less, but I don’t see how", but I didn't....lol

Or you could shorten it to, "I couldn't care less." I don't see the need for the extra effort.

As a side-note, the word "police" implies some sort of enforcement of convention (in this case, grammatical "law"). I prefer the term, "grammar legislator."

 

[charl_huntress]

Or you could shorten it to, "I couldn't care less." I don't see the need for the extra effort.

As a side-note, the word "police" implies some sort of enforcement of convention (in this case, grammatical "law"). I prefer the term, "grammar legislator."

lolololol....I will have to tell my friend that. Meh....I think it's colloquial, but I know legislators like you don't like it. I'm still gonna use though because I could care less

 

[Lantern Venom]

I can't speak for the majority of cases, but I was allowed to watch just about whatever I wanted when I was younger. I didn't watch porn in elementary school, mind you, but my access to horror films was virtually unrestricted. I watched South Park since its debut (I was in 4th or 5th grade). I watched Dirty Harry and Bullitt with my parents from the age of about 4.

I don't think it had any ill effects overall. I'm a pretty well adjusted individual.

I hear this counterargument quite often and I don't think it changes the assertion. There have been endless studies that draw a correlation between age-inapproriate viewing and nightmares. The same can be said for early/ risky sexual experimentation and childhood exposure to explicit imagery.

While a person still might reach adulthood with no behavioral/psychological problems in these areas, the enviornment created unncessary hurdles in the crucial character-building years. Talk to any qualified social worker or mental health counselor and they'll tell you the same thing. Sure, it probably won't make or break a person, but it's still not a good idea. There is, after all, a reason we have the rating system in place.

 

[Doctor Evo]

I hear this counterargument quite often and I don't think it changes the assertion. There have been endless studies that draw a correlation between age-inapproriate viewing and nightmares. The same can be said for early/ risky sexual experimentation and childhood exposure to explicit imagery.

It wasn't a counterargument. I even prefaced the comment with, "I can't speak for the majority of cases." I was just providing an example of an instance where the "assertion" (in your words) didn't hold true.

While a person still might reach adulthood with no behavioral/psychological problems in these areas, the enviornment created unncessary hurdles in the crucial character-building years.

Now you're making an assertion that directly applies to my situation.

I don't believe that this was the case with me. At all.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

I remember when I saw Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkhaban and someone in the seat behind me kept talking Voldemort and saying stuff
Dude, zip it, I read the book before watching the movie, I could anticipate most of what is about to occur wearing my giddy smile, but silence mode was on

 

[Darthphere]

I'm also a big believer in the intake of a child's media being strictly monitored. Especially during the formative elementary school years, the mind doesn't have the proper defense/processing mechanisms to view excessively violent/sexual/disturbing imagery without negative effects like nightmares and confusion about sexuality.

My parents had a mantra: they'll be plenty of time to watch that stuff later in life. I think I was 16 or 17 before I could watch anything with an R rating. I thought that was harsh at the time, now I'm convinced it was the right decision.

You're a believer in this because it's the only thing you knew growing up. Doesn't make it fact.

 

[charl_huntress]

There are actual facts that support this, but apparently those aren't good enough. lol.

It's funny because a lot of psychologists believe over exposure to violence can affect cognitive development. Some even believe it affects self-esteem. I think I agree with this...lol

Anyway, raise your kid how you want.

 

[Darthphere]

There are actual facts that support this, but apparently those aren't good enough. lol.

It's funny because a lot of psychologists believe over exposure to violence can affect cognitive development. Some even believe it affects self-esteem. I think I agree with this...lol

Anyway, raise your kid how you want.

Thanks for giving us permission for the 500th time.

 

[charl_huntress]

You're welcome...lol

 

[grout]

I think its a matter of good parents,, on one hand it seems the viewpoint is if a child sees a r-rated film they are doomed and the parents are bad.....

Reality is,, a parent can take his or her child to an r-rated film, it there choice not anyone elses. Let the parent make the call on this and not try to generally govern..

Im sick of facts,, who makes the fact call?... hence about 1 in 5 kids are on some kind of drug.. I mean is it me, are is the human race now being born with chemical imbalances all the sudden.

 

[charl_huntress]

Well I can tell you this. I hope I never has to sit next to most of you or your children at the movies...especially a horror movie....lol

 

[grout]

No biggie man, I think everyone has good points in here..

 

[Warhammer]

This happened to me a few weeks ago. I went to watch a movie and sat in the middle of this one row. A couple comes and sits directly behind me. I am sitting in an empty theater with auditorium seating in the middle of the afternoon.

 

[KevanG]

Warhammer, don't make me come over there.

 

[Quasimod0]

This happened to me a few weeks ago. I went to watch a movie and sat in the middle of this one row. A couple comes and sits directly behind me. I am sitting in an empty theater with auditorium seating in the middle of the afternoon.

Same kinda thing happened to me. More than once actually. I was in a giant theatre with my girlfriend sitting close to the top row. There were only a few other scattered people in the room. This woman and her young son walk all the way up to my row and sit two seats down from me. Just rude and ignorant

 

[Warhammer]

F***ing inconsiderate.

 

[warhorse78]

I once went to see the Lion King re-release, and granted, I never did see the movie in a theater before. Well, a family came and sat right behind me, and I was a little displeased, but decided to give them the benefit of the doubt. Fat chance. The second the movie started, this one girl decided she was going to do voice overs throughout the whole movie. I tried to get them to stop, but you know people, they don't like being told what to do, and the manager pretty much told me that he'd give me a raincheck for a later day. I guess their money was more important than mine.

 

[TheDreamMaster]

I didn't bother to read back, how on earth did this turn into a thread about parenting? I started watching horror films when I was about 12, and I turned out fine and not rude during movies ina theater.