Sex with Babysitter

[Catman]

It's a scary world out there, Catman. It's full of women who like one night stands , women who love sex , women who don't feel an emotional attachment to everyone they sleep with

I never said those women didn't exist. I just said that, in general, women are less willing than guys. Not that those women didn't exist. It's two different arguments.

 

[StorminNorman]

If it's against the law, it is a crime.

Laws have nothing to do with right and wrong.

I think that every teenage boy WANTS to have sex with an older woman. The thing is, is the boy mature enough, old enough, to know the consequences? What if the woman gets pregnant, does he want to be a father at such a young age? Is he aware of some of the potential risks of sex (ie. STDs)? At that age, getting to be with an older woman, I am sure it makes him feel good about himself, it gives him 'bragging rights' I suppose. For me, I don't know why would a grown woman want to have sex with a 14 year old kid. I guess it must've been hard for her to find a good man out there. I think the boy is just being taken advantage of, whether he realizes it or not. And just because he likes it, or doesn't mind it, it still doesn't make it right for the grown woman to do what she did to him.

But what makes it wrong? The boy gets the perks of having sex with an attractive woman that he clearly liked and the woman gets the perks of having sex with the boy she chooses. Laws should be used to protect people, who is being protected here with both parties benefit?

 

[SsM]

She looks like that Kristen Bell chick..

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

 

[The Squirrel]

At 14, teens are well aware of what sex is all about. They've gone through sex education. They've had it hammered home by their parents. A substantial percentage of teenagers at that age are sexually active. They know the risks. They can make those decisions.

Not in all cases man. At 14 I didn't know a lot. So just assuming that he knows everything isn't a good move, we are still missing a lot of the facts.

 

[terry78]

As an underage boy, we say sleeping with an older chick gives us experience. As an underage girl, we say sleeping with an older guy ****s them up for life. A lot of times it does end up vice versa.

 

[kane9321]

Lucky kid

 

[Raiden]

Not really sure why a hot girl like that babysitter would want to sleep with a 14-year-old boy, unless he's like one of those teenage boys who look like they are twentysomething and belong in a football team, but I guess chemistry is something that you can't really predict. That boy is the luckiest 14-year-old in the world for sure.

Ps: WOOT! My 10,000 post! t:

 

[The Lizard]

I am 14 (15 in September)

and I literally have a fantasy with every single teacher I have had.

The male teachers and the elderly teachers too, eh? You're quite the progressive young fellow.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

The male teachers and the elderly teachers too, eh? You're quite the progressive young fellow.

 

[chamber-music]

I want to **** Elizabeth Shue.

Everyone wants to **** Elizabeth Shue!

We never had babysitters who wanted to sleep with teenagers in my day. We had Pogs and Top Trumps that was about as much enjoyment you where allowed.

 

[david icke]

Laws have nothing to do with right and wrong.



But what makes it wrong? The boy gets the perks of having sex with an attractive woman that he clearly liked and the woman gets the perks of having sex with the boy she chooses. Laws should be used to protect people, who is being protected here with both parties benefit?

This in reply to many similar statements/questions, yours was just the latest SN.
I once saw a guy on a tv discussion show about this subject. He had a sexual relationship with his teacher when he was about that age, 14 or thereabouts. He said it affected him deeply to the point where he could only get turned on by women who were a lot older than him. This really became a big problem for the guy. No matter how hard he tried he could not get interested in any woman who showed an interest in him who was in his age group, no matter how much he wanted to.
He missed out on all the usual experience of enjoying dating women in his formative teenage years as well as it becoming a lifelong problem as he got older.
This guy was in his late 30s iirc when he was on the show, he was deeply messed up from his 'dream' experience.
I'm not sure how it turned out, he was seeking therapy etc, maybe was starting to get over it , i can't recall, but to hear this guy you could realise on how much he had missed out because an adult had brought him into the world of sex too early.

 

[terry78]

Yeah, you don't wanna grow up too fast.

 

[Timstuff]

True. People like to joke around like "where were these kinds of women when I was a teenager?" but the fact is, having sex with an older woman when you're still a teenager can have very drastic, negative psychological effects on you. Like David Icke said, this kid could end up with a fetish for older women that he can't escape from when he gets older, and he's been deprived the opportunity to experience sex with someone his own age. It may seem funny at first, but what on the surface sounds like wish fulfillment is actually a serious problem.

 

[Catman]

having sex with an older woman when you're still a teenager can have very drastic, negative psychological effects on you.

Oh, come on! Let's be honest here. Every young man wants to have sex with an older woman because they find those in their age-group too under-developed. And every older/old man wants to have a sex with a young woman cause they find those in their age group too, well, old. lol. It's how it is.

Back me up, Terry78.

 

[Timstuff]

Teenage boys lack something called "judgment." They don't consider the negative psychological impact of having sex with a teacher / babysitter / whoever until after it's too late.

 

[terry78]

Also, any grown woman willing to **** a teenage boy is honestly probably a bit off her nut, so she might slowly become Mrs. Stalker Robinson or Mrs. I Love You and Will Kill You If You Date Anyone Else.

 

[Drakon]

Also, any grown woman willing to **** a teenage boy is honestly probably a bit off her nut, so she might slowly become Mrs. Stalker Robinson or Mrs. I Love You and Will Kill You If You Date Anyone Else.

....

Nah, too easy.

 

[Poetic Chaos]

This is serious. We need to track this boy down and give him his Luckiest Boy in the World Medal right away.


Niiice.

 

[Metamorpho1977]

Where were these babysitters when I was a kid? The closest I got was watching my babysitter's bikini top come off in the swimming pool one time.

 

[Catman]

Teenage boys lack something called "judgment." They don't consider the negative psychological impact of having sex with a teacher / babysitter / whoever until after it's too late.

Maybe because there isn't any. Just cause one dude on TV claims to have problems doesn't mean everyone else does as well.

Like I said before, it's how guys are wired. No 14-year-old boy wants to have sex with a 14-year-old girl. They wanna have sex with girls who have, you know, boobs. It's like...what 40-year-old man wants to have sex with a 40-year-old woman? They want the young 20-year-old not the old lady with wrinkles.

 

[Majic Walrus]

Laws have nothing to do with right and wrong.



But what makes it wrong? The boy gets the perks of having sex with an attractive woman that he clearly liked and the woman gets the perks of having sex with the boy she chooses. Laws should be used to protect people, who is being protected here with both parties benefit?

The question is whether or not the fourteen year old has the mental capacity to understand the consequences of and engage in sex as a normal part of his life.

I think that while most of the US agrees that a fourteen year isn't old enough to make decisions about sex NAMBLA would probably agree with you.

 

[Catman]

The question is whether or not the fourteen year old has the mental capacity to understand the consequences of and engage in sex as a normal part of his life.

Yeah, but he can have sex with a 14-year-old girl and it's perfectly legal. So, stopping him from having sex with a 20-year-old is not really solving anything.

 

[DBella]

It's the story of my life.

Absolutely I would have a problem with it. But not necessarily from the standpoint of whether or not the act of sex should or should not be "illegal", but simply from the standpoint that I wouldn't want my daughter having a relationship with someone twice her age. Same thing if it was a boy. I don't feel it would be "best" for them in that instance, if that makes any sense.

The problem I have with the law, if anything, is the fact that it automatically labels the senior party as an abuser even if the the junior party shows the maturity to understand what he or she was doing, and if the acts between the two were completely consensual.

Do you really feel that a 14-year-old, boy or girl, is developed enough mentally/psychologically and emotionally (ie. mature enough to make sound judgments) to make adult decisions? I guess I see sex as an adult thing because it is something that can affect one's life in a pretty major way. I guess maybe that is because I don't treat sex as casually as most here seem to.

Point blank, we view women as the victims whenever anything like this takes place, that's just how society is set up. If the chick was 14 and the dude was 20-something, even if she said over and over how she was fine with it and it was her idea or whatever, he'd still be the one up **** creek. He had to have "sweet talked" her somehow into it.

That is the nature of our society. I wonder if those who are high-fiving this 14-year-old and saying the adult woman should not be held accountable for taking advantage of someone who is a child, a child who has not fully developed psychologically and emotionally to make sound judgment that is not just driven by his hormones, would say the same if it's been an adult male who is having sex with a 14-year-old girl.

Laws have nothing to do with right and wrong.

But what makes it wrong? The boy gets the perks of having sex with an attractive woman that he clearly liked and the woman gets the perks of having sex with the boy she chooses. Laws should be used to protect people, who is being protected here with both parties benefit?

I think that my two posts above had pointed out why I feel it's wrong. If you feel that my posts above aren't sufficient or aren't clear, please feel free to ask and I'll make another attempt.

As an underage boy, we say sleeping with an older chick gives us experience. As an underage girl, we say sleeping with an older guy ****s them up for life. A lot of times it does end up vice versa.

Don't you just love double standards?

The question is whether or not the fourteen year old has the mental capacity to understand the consequences of and engage in sex as a normal part of his life.

My thought exactly. I think that there are good reasons why we make a distinction between minors and adults and mental and emotional development is one of those reasons. Although, I must sadly admit that there are those past the age of 18 who don't seem to show any progress in that area.

I think that while most of the US agrees that a fourteen year isn't old enough to make decisions about sex NAMBLA would probably agree with you.

Any pedo would say that as it's perfectly okay for an adult to have sex with a child/teen (ages 13-17) as long as the child consents.

 

[Catman]

My thought exactly. I think that there are good reasons why we make a distinction between minors and adults and mental and emotional development is one of those reasons.

It's not an emotional thing. Like I said before, a 14 year old can have sex with another 14 year old and it's perfectly legal. They just made the legal seperation between minors and adults cause of physical reasons. 14 year olds aren't that physically mature yet.