Talking to girls online

[Aristotle]

Meet someone in real life, that you can actually guarantee is a woman.

I love that I can leave this board for like a week, but you're always right here on the front page, still perfectly happy to admit that the internet is the only place you can pick up chicks.

 

[Superman79]

So...


....


What should I do next?

I'm with Erz, if you are comfortable enough with each other, ask for a #.

If not, keep flirting and building comfort and rapport until you CAN ask for her number.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I'm with Erz, if you are comfortable enough with each other, ask for a #.

If not, keep flirting and building comfort and rapport until you CAN ask for her number.

This is Kaine, will he ever be the comfortable with a girl?

 

[Superman79]

This is Kaine, will he ever be the comfortable with a girl?

touche.

 

[Dangerous]

Meet someone in real life, that you can actually guarantee is a woman.

I love that I can leave this board for like a week, but you're always right here on the front page, still perfectly happy to admit that the internet is the only place you can pick up chicks.

Don't laugh at us!

 

[GregComicFan]

kainedamo,

I agree with Superman79. Either keeping building rapport and flirtations, or if the time is ripe (you can usually tell when the girl is interested in you enough that a number is not something she will deny you)... ask for her cell phone number.

I have met in person and dated like 15-16 girls on myspace now and 2 on plentyoffish, and each one was ALWAYS the same sequence of events: 1) talk on myspace or plentyoffish, 2) cell phone number exchange, 3) talk on the phone, 4) meet in person...

sometimes talk on myspace is followed with 1.5) talk on instant messenger, like aol, or yahoo...

and sometimes step 3 is skipped.

I ALWAYS got a girl's number prior to meeting her, but sometimes I wouldn't ever call her and speak to her on the phone prior to meeting her... sometimes the first time she'd hear my voice and I'd hear her voice was when she was standing right in front of me.

Greg

 

[gkokujin]

damn you greg for being serious.

and correct.

 

[oakzap425]

...Creepy. This thread has taken a creepy turn.

 

[terry78]

...Creepy. This thread has taken a creepy turn.

 

[oakzap425]

 

[kainedamo]

Are you comfortable around her and vice versa to ask for her phone number or to give yours?

I've brought it up before. She just seems to ignore it. Or maybe she really is just too busy to reply to some of my messages. She seems to like me, but it can't be coincidence that she's ignored the few times I've brought up meeting or exchanging numbers.

 

[Erzengel]

It's probably the former. Stick to chatting.

 

[jaguarr]

My goal was to always make a girl willing to DIE to know what MY phone number was. If you make it a mystery or a game out of it that they have very little chance of getting your number, nine times out of ten they will immediately want it as they'll consider it a challenge. You make it fun but not too easy for them to get it and they're intrigued and will very often use it. But you have to time it right to introduce that particular flirtation into the mix. Too early and it just reeks of desperation. Too late and well....it's too late.

jag

 

[Logan's Runt]

My goal was to always make a girl willing to DIE to know what MY phone number was. If you make it a mystery or a game out of it that they have very little chance of getting your number, nine times out of ten they will immediately want it as they'll consider it a challenge. You make it fun but not too easy for them to get it and they're intrigued and will very often use it. But you have to time it right to introduce that particular flirtation into the mix. Too early and it just reeks of desperation. Too late and well....it's too late.

jag

Did anybody else watch that reality show with that Mystery guy? I forget what it was called. He 'taught' guys how to pick up girls, using techniques like that. Then they'd have tests in bars and eliminate whoever performed worst. Anyway, it pissed me off because I knew most of it would have worked on me. They'd learn about playfully putting girls down and playing the game between showing interest and feigning non-interest.

Ya always want whatcha can't have.

 

[Dangerous]

Hahah, every fool knows that ****.
I am the winner.

 

[Logan's Runt]

It was called The Pick Up Artist, I guess.

 

[Dangerous]

Yeah there's books about it too.

 

[Logan's Runt]

And that Mystery dude sells some sort of learning package online, or something.

 

[Dangerous]

Here ya go- http://www.amazon.com/Game-Penetrating-Secret-Society-Artists/dp/0060554738

The most famous book written on the subject.

 

[GregComicFan]

I read that book. It's an interesting read. It's kinda like Fight Club except instead of a bunch of guys meeting to fight each other a secret society forms across the country that deals with learning how to pick up chicks.

During the course of the story (it is a story, not a "how to guide") you learn all the tactics. Some of them I agreed with. Teasing a girl was called "negging her". One of the pick-up artists used "cocky/funny" as his technique to get girls, and I mostly agreed with him....

... some things I didn't agree with: Peacock theory. I would never do it. Peacock theory was the idea that you had to dress up in the most extravagant and ridiculous way so that way when you enter a bar or a nightclub all the girls notice you. Ugh. please. I dont feel like dressing up like a ****** or a pimp. But the guys in the book do.

I also didn't like a lot of Mystery's tactics. All the guy does is give girls quizes or magic tricks or ask them silly questions (ex: "is it cheating if my girlfriend kisses another girl?") and he tries to get them interested in him by just doing all these things.

I don't feel like becoming an enclyclopedia of "quizes and magic tricks".

I rather be myself.

I've gone to nightclubs with my guy friends and their tactics were to go up to girls and ask questions like that... and it didn't work. One girl told me she had already heard my line before.

Greg

 

[ComicChick]

bumping because of a recent convo with a friend of mine about this particular subject

 

[The Apatow Crew]

bumping because of a recent convo with a friend of mine about this particular subject

Heh,Heh.

I wonder who that was.

 

[KevanG]

I've been having similar issues recently

My usual line of "LOVE ME!!!" isn't working

Any help?

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

I remember when I first got the Internet(Must of been 17). I was all into MSN. I used to talk to some girls and they would always strip for me. Good times.

 

[TheFuture]

Talking to girls online? It's easy if you don't make it obvious what you are looking for. I get to know them first and then when both of us are comfortable we agree to meet up at the next 'beers' (this is just the name for the regular meet ups of the Irish online community I am a part of). Then, we see how we get on in the face-to-face environment. Sometimes it doesn't work out but there are times when we find out that we still share the same rapport face-to-face that we do online. Then it's just a matter of seeing who makes the first move.

The key to talking to girls online is not to be pervy. Make it clear that meeting up just to get your leg over is not the reason why you are interested in her.