And that's what you're not getting. Nobody is saying "The Raimi cheese sux cux it sux but the Webb cheese rox cux it rocks."
For some, the Webb cheese WORKS better for them. It's executed differently. It's call preference. A preference I share.
Let me elaborate. For me, the Raimi cheese largely doesn't work because I don't like the performances by Maguire or Dunst especially. They both give hideous performances coupled with banal dialogue and absolutely zero chemistry. The Raimi films have more of a tongue-in-cheek edge to the humor, which would be ok if I thought it was executed well with good acting and dialogue. The drama in Spidey 2 and 3 is heavy handed and incredibly soap-ish so coupled with the, imo, bad acting it just comes off as incredibly cheesy in the wrong way and it hurts the films.
The drama, imo, of the Webb films is delivered with better acting, chemistry and dialogue. And to me, the cheese factor feels more honest and not tongue-in-cheek. Webb just goes for it without any winking or smirking. So unlike Spider-Man 2 and 3 where the drama and humor clashed, I think TASM2 makes it all blend together.