These profile sites are depressing me

[DV8]

Forget the whole thing. Forget the whole facking thread. Online is not where to go. Its a dead end. I've messaged like 20 or more girls over the last week and not one reply. This other girl, I've been talking to on and off over the last month and shes boring as ****. I'm thinking, maybe I should hit a club tomorrow night but thats not a great place to meet women either. Its all ****. I could easily, EASILY be single until I'm like 30.

if you keep perpetuating that 'can't-do' attitude, yes, you easily could

look man, I've seen pics you've posted and to be honest, you need to clean yourself up a little . . . groom yourself: buy a nice button-up shirt, get a haircut and for god sakes, SHAVE!! some nice shoes would also be a nice investment if you don't already have a pair (I'm betting you don't, and if you think you do, you pry need some better ones . . . )

then approach some women you think you could actually get!!! or at least some women that don't intimidate you . . . TALK TO CHICKS!!!! and don't try to judge them within the first 5 minutes . . .

 

[kainedamo]

So then, if I might ask, what would you prefer the girls profile say?? I'm really curious what you feel should be said in a "mature" womans profile. Please enlighten me.

I'm having freaky deja vu. I think your question is kinda dumb. No offense. What I'd be looking for in a profile is rather simple.

Under interests or hobbies, I'd like that she put something other than "drinking" and "going out" and "shopping".

I'd hope she doesn't use that stupid text speak.

Her pictures, she should be pretty, and not ****ty. ALOT of girls on these sites have a problem with this.

She should seem like she has half a brain and could carry a conversation and talk about interesting stuff like books and movies.

Its really very simple.

 

[hammy]

My type would be a bookish cute girl and I'm not finding that anywhere.

Join a book club! Get a part time job at a book store. Start hanging out at the library (public and university). There's stuff you can do to meet girls like that.

 

[DV8]

What do you even base that on? My whole rant about not wanting to date "princesses"? Whats wrong with that?

no, not at all . . . I'm basing that on the fact that you keep complaining that you haven't gotten laid in ages . . . it sounds like you're trying to complete the goddam tour de france when you're still using training wheels!!

you can't go straight to the top of the totem pole by trying to find your ideal girl . . . first of all, every man loves beautiful women . . . obvious statement . . . try to find a girl who's not necessarily HOT, but not ugly . . . just attainable . . . I don't know how else to put it man . . .

 

[Superman79]

I'm having freaky deja vu. I think your question is kinda dumb. No offense. What I'd be looking for in a profile is rather simple.

Under interests or hobbies, I'd like that she put something other than "drinking" and "going out" and "shopping".

I'd hope she doesn't use that stupid text speak.

Her pictures, she should be pretty, and not ****ty. ALOT of girls on these sites have a problem with this.

She should seem like she has half a brain and could carry a conversation and talk about interesting stuff like books and movies.

Its really very simple.

Alright, I'll grant you the first two. As for the pics, many feel they NEED to do that as a way to get attention, so don't judge too quickly on that. As for the other, you'll never know til you communicate...intelligence and conversation can't be communicated through a profile.

Though I would be curious as to how my question was dumb (no offense taken) as I was just curious about your criterion.

 

[DV8]

I'm having freaky deja vu. I think your question is kinda dumb. No offense. What I'd be looking for in a profile is rather simple.

Under interests or hobbies, I'd like that she put something other than "drinking" and "going out" and "shopping".

I'd hope she doesn't use that stupid text speak.

Her pictures, she should be pretty, and not ****ty. ALOT of girls on these sites have a problem with this.

She should seem like she has half a brain and could carry a conversation and talk about interesting stuff like books and movies.

Its really very simple.

you're looking for a girl, right? most of them enjoy doing that stuff . . . doesn't mean that's the be-all end-all to their hobbies and interests . . .

 

[hammy]

Under interests or hobbies, I'd like that she put something other than "drinking" and "going out" and "shopping".

I'd hope she doesn't use that stupid text speak.

Yeah, I can't blame you for that. Those are pretty dumb.

 

[kainedamo]

you're looking for a girl, right? most of them enjoy doing that stuff . . . doesn't mean that's the be-all end-all to their hobbies and interests . . .

I think its a fair thing to judge by if its all they put in interests and if thats what they say about themselves generally.

 

[DV8]

just get out there man . . . just get out there and stop being such a negative nelly . . . you're starting to depress me

 

[Superman79]

just get out there man . . . just get out there and stop being such a negative nelly . . . you're starting to depress me

two words:

hood rats

 

[kainedamo]

just get out there man . . . just get out there and stop being such a negative nelly . . . you're starting to depress me

What can I say... I'm a fairly depressed guy

See, I had this recent incident with a girl that really ****ed me off. I haven't talked about it online surprisingly 'cause I used to share all that ****. Long story short, she led me on and ****ed me over really quite badly. And before that, I was quite depressed. I'd say I'm no more depressed now, but basically it just made me angry about the whole girl situation.

 

[Ghostvirus]

What can I say... I'm a fairly depressed guy

See, I had this recent incident with a girl that really ****ed me off. I haven't talked about it online surprisingly 'cause I used to share all that ****. Long story short, she led me on and ****ed me over really quite badly. And before that, I was quite depressed. I'd say I'm no more depressed now, but basically it just made me angry about the whole girl situation.

Trust me when I say the sooner you get over it. The better. Get out there, & just talk to as many woman as possible. Don't have an expectations about what will happen. Just talk to them to become more comfortable.

 

[DV8]

What can I say... I'm a fairly depressed guy

See, I had this recent incident with a girl that really ****ed me off. I haven't talked about it online surprisingly 'cause I used to share all that ****. Long story short, she led me on and ****ed me over really quite badly. And before that, I was quite depressed. I'd say I'm no more depressed now, but basically it just made me angry about the whole girl situation.

so I think it's clear what needs to be done . . . you need to go 'gay' . . . then at least you'll be 'happy' by description . . .

 

[DV8]

basically, you're making all girls the enemy, KD . . . and being depressed and acting depressed are two different things . . . no girl is gonna go for a depressed guy . . .

secondly, if you go out to meet women, you can't feel like you've 'failed' if you can't score a number or something on the first try (which I could see you doing, and then giving up) . . . .

but it sounds to me like you're trying to do online what normal people do when they go out to meet people . . . and you're going to sites w/ no real depth . . . just meat markets . . . if you want meat market, GO out to a club and do meat market stuff . . . if you really want to meet someone online, go to an actual dating site like others have already suggested . . .

 

[WhatsHisFace]

Rent a ****e.

 

[DV8]

Trust me when I say the sooner you get over it. The better. Get out there, & just talk to as many woman as possible. Don't have an expectations about what will happen. Just talk to them to become more comfortable.

Rent a ****e.

yes, and yes . . . if you need it that bad, go buy it; get it out of your system, and THEN maybe you can feel more comfortable . . .

think about it, KD . . . being depressed is only hurting yourself . . . stop self-loathing and start self-living . . . goddam, I feel like a self-help author . . .

and go rent Tao of Steve . . . do it, seriously . . . go rent it right now . . . . GO!!

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Forget the whole thing. Forget the whole facking thread. Online is not where to go. Its a dead end. I've messaged like 20 or more girls over the last week and not one reply. This other girl, I've been talking to on and off over the last month and shes boring as ****. I'm thinking, maybe I should hit a club tomorrow night but thats not a great place to meet women either. Its all ****. I could easily, EASILY be single until I'm like 30.

Were these girls you emailed from the sleezy MySpace site or the dating site. If it was the sleezy MySpace site you probably shouldn't have expected much, if it was from the dating site, you just joined yesterday. One, you probably used a generic form email that won't work and two, it was yesterday, be patient. Do you email these girls with a basic form email or are you mentioning things in her profile that interest you too, a girl will be much more open if you show you've actually read her profile and you have things in common.

 

[Erzengel]

Is this because nobody wants to be Kainedamo's myspace or facebook friend?

 

[Erzengel]

Forget the whole thing. Forget the whole facking thread. Online is not where to go. Its a dead end. I've messaged like 20 or more girls over the last week and not one reply. This other girl, I've been talking to on and off over the last month and shes boring as ****. I'm thinking, maybe I should hit a club tomorrow night but thats not a great place to meet women either. Its all ****. I could easily, EASILY be single until I'm like 30.

Maybe it's not them, it's you?

 

[kainedamo]

Well see I'm going to the wrong places to begin with. As for the rest, I know its me. But I can't just flick a magic switch to become a clean cut guy that knows where to go, who to talk to, and what to say.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

What can I say... I'm a fairly depressed guy

See, I had this recent incident with a girl that really ****ed me off. I haven't talked about it online surprisingly 'cause I used to share all that ****. Long story short, she led me on and ****ed me over really quite badly. And before that, I was quite depressed. I'd say I'm no more depressed now, but basically it just made me angry about the whole girl situation.

Everyone's had this situation, stop dwelling on it, use it as a learning experience, dust yourself off and try again. You seem to be in a real bad mindset right now, you've gotta get out of the mindset, stop dwelling on mistakes, look toward the future.

 

[Erzengel]

Well see I'm going to the wrong places to begin with. As for the rest, I know its me. But I can't just flick a magic switch to become a clean cut guy that knows where to go, who to talk to, and what to say.

But saying online is a dead end is because "you" specifically have not had success and you forget to mention you don't have success in real life either.

Making blanket statements, yadda yadda.

 

[DV8]

Well see I'm going to the wrong places to begin with. As for the rest, I know its me. But I can't just flick a magic switch to become a clean cut guy that knows where to go, who to talk to, and what to say.

you already know what to say, you just don't know it . . . I'm saying clean yourself up a little bit, and go out and try to have some goddam FUN!! Don't make going out feel like this chore or feat in picking up women, cuz then it'll never happen . . .

you have to be yourself, and be damn confident of that fact (or at least appear so), and women will automatically pick that up . . . and listen to amazingfantasy . . . he knows . . .

 

[kainedamo]

But saying online is a dead end is because "you" specifically have not had success and you forget to mention you don't have success in real life either.

Making blanket statements, yadda yadda.

I was actually trying to be a little positive there with my statement about online being a dead end. For me I think it would be better if I could find social interaction in the real world. Its what I need more practice at, and probably where I'd have a better shot. And its not as depressing as flicking through profiles on a computer screen.

 

[Whirlysplat]

So I was explaining to Lee... somewhere else... nobody likes reading a whine about how depressed someone is.

But ****, these profile sites I've been frequenting depress me. In an attempt to find a date, I've turned to the Internet, and a site called faceparty. 99% of the girls are a mixture of uglies, airheads, bores, show offs, teases, ****s, etc etc. Is it too much to ask to come across a profile of some pretty girl thats down to earth and lists something other than "drinking" as an interest? ****!

And then ya just end up sending messages to hot girls in an attempt to get notice. Its all so futile, because they're not gonna reply to you if you don't have some obnoxious picture of a six pack or hair in front of your eyes. The comments they leave in each others profiles annoy the **** out of me. "ur gawjuss babe". What kind of way is that to spell gorgeous?? "u r so prittyful". Do they think thats cute or something? Die, you bastards, die!! The hot ones would probably rather talk to someone that just says "u r fit babe" than someone that actually puts a little effort into their messages.

I'm too old to whine about this ****. Probably too old to frequent those kinds of sites and actually hoping for some sorta connection there.

I need to get out more. ****. Hate being single. The longer I go being single and not having sex, the harder I think it is for me to talk to girls and the more frustrated I feel. I hate people talking about going a couple of months without sex like its a big deal. Its been years since I've had sex. YEARS. **** **** ****.

Faceparty........ Oh dear, the last Wild West of the internet, where everyone is a sugardaddy, peado, child prositute or cop.