Question....if three people own an apartment, and one has declared that someone is not welcome there, does that person have any case whatsoever if they call the police on that person when another resident of the residence invited them there?
Because I got a wonderful little phone call from Dustin yesterday telling me that he will call the cops if he sees me at the apartment, and started to say something else which I hung up on.
How is it trespassing or intruding if another resident invited me over??
well, its obvious that Dustin has issues with you other than your facebook message. Honestly, I too, would have an issue with my gf being so close with an ex. And especially if they're confiding in the ex about our relationship, to the point the ex feels its okay to tell me how to run my relationship.
In other words, back off. Keep your distance from both of them. Your ex's relationship is none of your concern, and your ex certainly shouldn't have been talking to you about their relationship.
I know that its too late, but IF you felt like you absolutely needed to say something for the good of your ex, you should have been more subtle. Something like:
"Do you know whats wrong with so and so? I worried about them, but I can't get through. Maybe you can?"
Sure, that might be a little bit of a lie in your case, but it serves several purposes:
1) you are addressing the situation.
2) you aren't being accusatory towards the bf.
3) you are stroking their ego by suggesting they can succeed where you didn't.
but to address your question in this post, WHY WHY WHY would you even try to go over there to the house after the BF told you not to? It seems to me that you really have no respect for the bf and their relationship. If you really care about your ex, let them be, because honestly, your continued intrusion is not doing ANY good for their new relationship.
And yes, if someone is on a lease with multiple people, they have every right to ban someone from the house and call the police if you go over there (granted, the cops will roll their eyes and just tell you to leave).
