I think I understand a little of what you're saying.
Nolan has alienated plenty of fans with his "re-imaging" of Batman. Despite having a few nods here and there to the comics and being a quality movie, Nolan's character isn't the Batman fans were hoping they would finally get after a 10+ year hiatus from the big screen. Especially after witnessing and enjoying other Batman works (BTAS, etc., etc.) during the hiatus from the silver screen.
Perhaps the biggest influence on the fans has been the great treatment another big name comicbook character got, Spider-man. No it didn't please everyone, but it did more than enough right. Spider-man was a true comicbook movie. Fans probably thought: "this is it, this is the Batman we've been waiting for. They're going to do (either) the comicbook or BTAS. They did Spider-man like the comicbook and it worked. We finally going to see Batman the way he should be." The Spider-man movies, like the Donner films, have raised expectations from comicbook fans big time. Imagine the disappointment when Nolan's Batman turned out to be neither--and TDK looks to continue the trend.
I'm not a hardcore Batman fan, but I am a huge fan of the character, especially BTAS. I have fans that are hardcore Batman fans, whom I thought would love Nolan's film since he has used some material from the comics--moreso than Burton I believe. They were even more critical and dissappointed than me.
Once again, this debate will rage forever....fans just wanted and expected the Batman we have all come to enjoy, not another crazy interpretation.
For the record, I love Burton's films, but Nolan's films are superior from a technical aspect IMO. Burton's films however deliver an artistic vision befitting the Dark Knight, and continued (though more subdued) in BTAS. Overdone at times? For sure...but it worked superbly and fit Batman like a glove.
Obviously one can take the stance that Nolan wanted to create a movie where the constant question among comicbook fanboys is finally answered: "could Batman really exist in the real world?" Problem is, it's one thing to wonder, it's another thing to actually see it...Nolan's "vision" sends me running back to Batman's fantasy world.
Also, I'm sure many will no doubt rationalize Batman's riot armor as evolution and believe that a fabric costume will be fully realized by the third film. I await that day.