Cop handcuffs teen over sex with daughter

[Hunter Rider]

I love how someone has to be some fictional hero wannabe to put some much needed fear into a boy messing with their daughter, and I love how it's unmanly to frighten the boy but slapping their 14 year old daughter is a reasonable option..........

 

[Nathan]

Cuffed and scared a kid. Cuffed and scared. Cuffed. Scared.

How's that beating a kid?

 

[AnorexicBatman]

I love how someone has to be some fictional hero wannabe to put some much needed fear into a boy messing with their daughter, and I love how it's unmanly to frighten the boy but slapping their 14 year old daughter is a reasonable option..........

There is putting fear into a boy and there is abusing your power. I never said that the boy shouldn't be scared. Hell yes he should, but the other party should receive equal punishment. I know several people with spoiled daughters because they are too afraid to discipline them.

The action hero think came from a bunch of the posters going, "I would have opened a can of whoop ass. Imagine if it was John McClane, he would had killed him. I wanted to reduce the boy to meat and tubes."

That overly macho masculine talk irked me.

In short, all parties are at fault here. The father for overreacting.
The boy for not being able to control his desires and the girl for consenting without considering the consequences.

Cuffed and scared a kid. Cuffed and scared. Cuffed. Scared.

How's that beating a kid?

Never said that the boy was beaten. But he was restrained and threatened with bodily harm by a cop. That's bad enough. I thought cops were trained to keep their cool even in such emotional situations. I would never physically hit someone else's child unless some grievous crime was committed. Not my place. For my own children, a slap once in a while may teach them manners provided they are being obstinate.

The cop scared the kid. Good. Cuffed and threatened? Bad.
What about his daughter? She's in the wrong too.

 

[Hunter Rider]

There is putting fear into a boy and there is abusing your power. I never said that the boy shouldn't be scared. Hell yes he should, but the other party should receive equal punishment. I know several people with spoiled daughters because they are too afraid to discipline them.

The action hero think came from a bunch of the posters going, "I would have opened a can of whoop ass. Imagine if it was John McClane, he would had killed him. I wanted to reduce the boy to meat and tubes."

That overly macho masculine talk irked me.

In short, all parties are at fault here. The father for overreacting.
The boy for not being able to control his desires and the girl for consenting without considering the consequences.

Show me a single post in here that suggests beating the boy up? and equal punishment would not be raising your hands to your daughter IMO, violence towards either would not be the way to go about it.

 

[Paroxysm]

We shouldn't be slapping or handcuffing our kids because they're acting on natural urges. Is it really so hard to sit down with your/a child and tell them how you feel about something.

This cops should have taken the boy to talk with his parents and on the drive there had a little one on one time with him, you know let him know how he feels about his daughter being sexually active at that age and perhaps talk about the risk of getting STD's or even having a baby. Maybe this boy didn't get that talk?

 

[AnorexicBatman]

Show me a single post in here that suggests beating the boy up? and equal punishment would not be raising your hands to your daughter IMO, violence towards either would not be the way to go about it.

Here you go.

Just because its the law, doesn't make it right. This kid got off easy. If it were my daughter, he'd be eating through tubes. Its a sad statement of society where you can't even scare a kid who screws your daughter.

Yikes. Mind you Matt was being very serious.
Listen, I don't condone violence against ANY children. However, if a serious mistake has been made, a slap is a rather effective way to remind them that they have done something very wrong.

The way people talk here it seems they want to rip them to shreds (In General).

However, since you called me on it then fine. Physical violence would be going too far. But you can't say that both the kids weren't equally at fault. A straightforward boy could easily get in serious hot water because a clever/ spoiler girl knows she can use him and her parents would never blame her.

We shouldn't be slapping or handcuffing our kids because they're acting on natural urges. Is it really so hard to sit down with your/a child and tell them how you feel about something.

This cops should have taken the boy to talk with his parents and on the drive there had a little one on one time with him, you know let him know how he feels about his daughter being sexually active at that age and perhaps talk about the risk of getting STD's or even having a baby. Maybe this boy didn't get that talk?

Thank you. I admit I overreacted with the slapping part too. Good parents talk to their children about such things, maybe even joke. Bad parents hope their kids never even look below the waistline and think sex is fiction made by Hollywood.

You can't call natural urges a crime. However, you must teach your children to be responsible.

 

[Alex The Great]

Come on guys, if you were the cop you would have tased the kid's balls

 

[Paroxysm]

Come on guys, if you were the cop you would have tased the kid's balls

only if it racked me up some over-time.

 

[Marx]

Come on guys, if you were the cop you would have tased the kid's balls

No, I wouldn't have. I might have wanted to, but there's a little thing called 'restraint' and 'being the adult in the situation'.

 

[AnorexicBatman]

Come on guys, if you were the cop you would have tased the kid's balls

Never. If I did that then I would be no better than the dumb teenager.

 

[Matt]

If that's the fifth one then you're doing something wrong as your hypothetical daughter is a bit of a **** and your method is only causing her to jump from guy to guy.

 

[AnorexicBatman]

If that's the fifth one then you're doing something wrong as your hypothetical daughter is a bit of a **** and your method is only causing her to jump from guy to guy.

That's how it is in the world of "IT'S ALWAYS SUNNY IN PHILADELPHIA"
That show is crazy.

 

[Hunter Rider]

Here you go.



Yikes. Mind you Matt was being very serious.
Listen, I don't condone violence against ANY children. However, if a serious mistake has been made, a slap is a rather effective way to remind them that they have done something very wrong.

Matt's a father so his initial gut reaction is bound to be strong.
I don't think hitting your daughter in the face is really going to develop a positive relationship as she starts to get older, it's more likely to drive her away.

The way people talk here it seems they want to rip them to shreds (In General).

However, since you called me on it then fine. Physical violence would be going too far. But you can't say that both the kids weren't equally at fault. A straightforward boy could easily get in serious hot water because a clever/ spoiler girl knows she can use him and her parents would never blame her.

It's true that in this situation 99% of the time the heads will turn to the boy for blame, but scaring him into having the sense to keep it in his pants until he's old enough to deal with the aftermath would still be a viable course of action IMO.

 

[Hunter Rider]

No, I wouldn't have. I might have wanted to, but there's a little thing called 'restraint' and 'being the adult in the situation'.

You really couldn't know that man as you haven't been in the situation, when a daughter is in trouble or possibly being taken advantage of a man cannot know how he would react when the protective gene kicks in.

 

[Marx]

You really couldn't know that man as you haven't been in the situation, when a daughter is in trouble or possibly being taken advantage of a man cannot know how he would react when the protective gene kicks in.

With all due respect to you man, I'm getting really tired of this dismissal of non-parent views. I am also getting tired of this girl being overlooked in the situation. Has the girl said this boy raped her? No. It was consentual which means both of these teenagers made the decision to have sex. It wasn't just the mean, hormone-raging boy that had sex. This perfect, angelic, innocent girl decided to have sex as well.

Would I be incredibly upset if I found out my 15 year old child was having sex? You better believe I would, but I would not 'go rogue' and imprison the other child because of it. Parents have a responsibility to act like an adult, and act like a parent.

 

[AnorexicBatman]

Matt's a father so his initial gut reaction is bound to be strong.
I don't think hitting your daughter in the face is really going to develop a positive relationship as she starts to get older, it's more likely to drive her away.



It's true that in this situation 99% of the time the heads will turn to the boy for blame, but scaring him into having the sense to keep it in his pants until he's old enough to deal with the aftermath would still be a viable course of action IMO.

Agreed on all counts. I contradicted myself by condoning physical violence and hopefully Matt manages to keep restraint god forbid if he finds himself in such a situation. The cop went a bit overboard though. Also, those two will definitely need some friendly counselling as someone else said.

Thank you Marx. People are more likely to blame others than admit that they themselves or their sweet angelic children were at fault. If it were attempted rape though. Straight to the police station and in the slammer.

 

[Matt]

With all due respect to you man, I'm getting really tired of this dismissal of non-parent views. I am also getting tired of this girl being overlooked in the situation. Has the girl said this boy raped her? No. It was consentual which means both of these teenagers made the decision to have sex. It wasn't just the mean, hormone-raging boy that had sex. This perfect, angelic, innocent girl decided to have sex as well.

1) Frankly it is true. You're not a parent, therefore you cannot know the urge to protect your child. You just can't understand until you have kid. It may be dismissal, but its true.

2) Boys sexually mature faster than girls. And there is a lot more pressure on girls to give it up then there is on boys. Society has a double standard that puts females in the more vulnerable of the two positions.

 

[Matt]

Agreed on all counts. I contradicted myself by condoning physical violence and hopefully Matt manages to keep restraint god forbid if he finds himself in such a situation. The cop went a bit overboard though. Also, those two will definitely need some friendly counselling as someone else said.

Thank you Marx. People are more likely to blame others than admit that they themselves or their sweet angelic children were at fault. If it were attempted rape though. Straight to the police station and in the slammer.

I won't. I can tell you that right now.

That said, I've got a plan. Until my daughter is 30, I am going to home school her and keep all contact with the outside world entirely limited so she thinks that the vagina's only purpose is urination and that human beings reproduce like fish, by laying eggs and then the guys come along and pollinate them. There's no way this plan can fail. t:

 

[Marx]

Thank you Marx. People are more likely to blame others than admit that they themselves or their sweet angelic children were at fault. If it were attempted rape though. Straight to the police station and in the slammer.

If it were attempted rape, that is an entirely different story. However, it was consentual. The policeman and some in this thread need to realize that.

 

[AnorexicBatman]

1) Frankly it is true. You're not a parent, therefore you cannot know the urge to protect your child. You just can't understand until you have kid. It may be dismissal, but its true.

2) Boys sexually mature faster than girls. And there is a lot more pressure on girls to give it up then there is on boys. Society has a double standard that puts females in the more vulnerable of the two positions.

It doesn't have to be that way if you talk to your children about such things.
You don't need to be a parent to understand the emotional trauma one feels if they think that a loved one is in trouble. However, parents must learn restraint. Most of these stories are about kids with absent or ignorant parents.

Society has a double standard but we must try and change it. It kind of is. I could tell you a bunch of news stories from India itself of how some modern (In a bad way) women are exploiting men

 

[Matt]

It doesn't have to be that way if you talk to your children about such things.
You don't need to be a parent to understand the emotional trauma one feels if they think that a loved one is in trouble. However, parents must learn restraint. Most of these stories are about kids with absent or ignorant parents.

Society has a double standard but we must try and change it. It kind of is. I could tell you a bunch of news stories from India itself of how some modern (In a bad way) women are exploiting men

And that's why you can't get it. You may know the urge to protect a loved one, but you don't know that when its your child, any concept of restraint goes out the door.

 

[Hunter Rider]

With all due respect to you man, I'm getting really tired of this dismissal of non-parent views. I am also getting tired of this girl being overlooked in the situation. Has the girl said this boy raped her? No. It was consentual which means both of these teenagers made the decision to have sex. It wasn't just the mean, hormone-raging boy that had sex. This perfect, angelic, innocent girl decided to have sex as well.

Would I be incredibly upset if I found out my 15 year old child was having sex? You better believe I would, but I would not 'go rogue' and imprison the other child because of it. Parents have a responsibility to act like an adult, and act like a parent.

It's not a dissmissal it's a fact that until any of us are an actual parent we cannot know the emotions that a parent goes through when they feel their child is in danger.

Also no one is saying the girl is angelic or innocent but she is the younger of the two and as Matt said the pressure on girls to put out is much higher.

 

[AnorexicBatman]

I won't. I can tell you that right now.

That said, I've got a plan. Until my daughter is 30, I am going to home school her and keep all contact with the outside world entirely limited so she thinks that the vagina's only purpose is urination and that human beings reproduce like fish, by laying eggs and then the guys come along and pollinate them. There's no way this plan can fail. t:

You are probably much older than me therefore I have no right to give you advice. But try and talk to your kids about sex, teach them to be responsible, be like John Travolta in FACE-OFF where he gives his daughter a wavy dagger to fight off forceful boys. One of the biggest problems in my own country is that people are either to conservative or shy to talk about sex. I am not kidding.

If you have a son. Tell him that thing in his pants is super special magical object and he can only share it with that super special someone. How will he know who it will be? Don't worry, daddy will make sure you are already engaged by that point

 

[Marx]

It's not a dissmissal it's a fact that until any of us are an actual parent we cannot know the emotions that a parent goes through when they feel their child is in danger.

No, it's a dismissal man.

Also no one is saying the girl is angelic or innocent but she is the younger of the two and as Matt said the pressure on girls to put out is much higher.

So? She still agreed to it. Placing all of the blame on this 'mean, hormone raging' boy is foolish.

 

[Hunter Rider]

So? She still agreed to it. Placing all of the blame on this 'mean, hormone raging' boy is foolish.

In your opinion, Maybe she was pressured into agreeing and felt the need to keep the older boy happy? and people have already said that she needed a good talking to as well.

No, it's a dismissal man.

No it isn't because you can't claim to know how you'd react when you are not a father, it's like pretending to know how to perform brain surgery b/c you are doctor, specifics count in a situation like this.