Darthphere Presents: Chivalry is Dead. So what?

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

It's been so long since I dated a can't recall wether I've used them or not. But I don't think I would have a problem doing so. Especially now in this economy.

 

[SpideyVille]

Wouldn't it may you look cheap though? Like what if your date pays for her meal, but you pay for yours using one?

 

[Erzengel]

I always leave the money on the table.

 

[E-Man]

If you beat me to the door you should open it and walk the **** in. You're not a vampire, so stop trying to force a nice gesture on people. Also, pulling out a person's chair is for kids, not adults.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

Wouldn't it may you look cheap though? Like what if your date pays for her meal, but you pay for yours using one?

I would offer to pay for both and hand the waiter the coupon. Plus I am cheap and really don't care if people know it.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm a big supporter of Sonny's test from A Bronx Tale...

Sonny: Alright, listen to me. You pull up right where she lives, right? Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors. Then, get outta the car, you walk over to her. You bring her over to the car. Dig out the key, put it in the lock and open the door for her. Then you let her get in. Then you close the door. Then you walk around the back of the car and look through the rear window. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her.
Calogero 'C' Anello: Just like that?
Sonny: Listen to me, kid. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in, that means she's a selfish broad and all you're seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and you dump her fast.

This doesn't work now with doors that open automatically.

 

[terry78]

Technology has lessened the need for chivalry, really. Automatic doors, vibrators, the list goes on.

 

[Darthphere]

I've heard so many weird things about dating. One of them was "Never order food you have to eat with your hands on a first date." Like you can't eat a burger or quesadilla or anything.

 

[Erzengel]

Well you don't want to eat chicken wings or ribs on a first date and look like a cannibal as you try and impress her.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

Yeah not a good look.

 

[Anubis]

Not to mention the mud butt.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

Lol

 

[E-Man]

I eat whatever on a first date because I want her to be as comfortable as possible. If she has a problem with me eating ribs that's tough **** because I eat ribs. I've never had issues about that.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

You eat things besides sammiches?

 

[POWdER-man]

I would offer to pay for both and hand the waiter the coupon. Plus I am cheap and really don't care if people know it.

I heard of a study that (most) women are turned off if the guy uses a coupon on the first date.

 

[Erzengel]

I don't know, I'd be weary of using a coupon on a first date.

But then again, maybe it's better. I mean I know I've tried being on good date behavior for like a year and it was tiring.

 

[terry78]

I heard of a study that (most) women are turned off if the guy uses a coupon on the first date.

That shows you know how to find a good deal. They should be all up on that.

There's nothing a woman hates more than a man that spends money freely on her.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

I heard of a study that (most) women are turned off if the guy uses a coupon on the first date.

I really don't care now anyway, I'm just glad I don't have to deal with that BS anymore. LOL!

 

[Darthphere]

I mean if you're going to use it, don't make it obvious. Just put the coupon with the cash or card and hand it to the waiter.

 

[twylight]

Mr. T, I think Spideyville said what I mean. Although I don't think I worded it correctly. I can open the door for a stranger, but that is just manners. If I'm out with friends any of us do it for each other because we're friends and it's polite. But husband/wife boyfriend/girlfriend has the added layer of (I'd hope) mutual respect and love.

I know a lot of guys who treat a girl courteous and nice for the first few months *or even year* of a relationship and then they get 'comfortable' and figure that she can open the door on her own, because... she does it on her own throughout the day anyhow. Why bother walking around the car to unlock it/open it when you can click the button on the keychain and let her get in herself.

So for me, when a guy continues to do it over time, after marriage/kids/life/etc it's a sign of caring.

Coupons: I'm pretty laid back, so I don't see using a coupon on a first date is wrong, but it has to be mentioned before the date like 'Oh hey, I have a coupon for x, I've never been, let's try it out!' Because if you pull that coupon out to pay and I see it, I'm going to think you're poor and feel bad for ordering something I thought was within your economic status. But on the flip side, why would you go somewhere where you'd need a coupon to eat anyway? There are lots and fun/cheap/creative date ideas out there.

Well you don't want to eat chicken wings or ribs on a first date and look like a cannibal as you try and impress her.

What if she's big into Zombie flicks?

 

[Erzengel]

What if she's big into Zombie flicks?

Zombies scare me.

Also, we'd go on the discussion on how I'd put 2 in her head if she became a Zombie. Not the greatest first date conversation.

 

[Darthphere]

Mr. T, I think Spideyville said what I mean. Although I don't think I worded it correctly. I can open the door for a stranger, but that is just manners. If I'm out with friends any of us do it for each other because we're friends and it's polite. But husband/wife boyfriend/girlfriend has the added layer of (I'd hope) mutual respect and love.

I know a lot of guys who treat a girl courteous and nice for the first few months *or even year* of a relationship and then they get 'comfortable' and figure that she can open the door on her own, because... she does it on her own throughout the day anyhow. Why bother walking around the car to unlock it/open it when you can click the button on the keychain and let her get in herself.

So for me, when a guy continues to do it over time, after marriage/kids/life/etc it's a sign of caring.



What if she's big into Zombie flicks?

See, that's where people get into a problem. As some have noted, most chivalrous acts are part of the courtship process. Once you have the girl, some don't feel it's necessary to continue doing things like opening the car door for them etc.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

Mr. T, I think Spideyville said what I mean. Although I don't think I worded it correctly. I can open the door for a stranger, but that is just manners. If I'm out with friends any of us do it for each other because we're friends and it's polite. But husband/wife boyfriend/girlfriend has the added layer of (I'd hope) mutual respect and love.

I know a lot of guys who treat a girl courteous and nice for the first few months *or even year* of a relationship and then they get 'comfortable' and figure that she can open the door on her own, because... she does it on her own throughout the day anyhow. Why bother walking around the car to unlock it/open it when you can click the button on the keychain and let her get in herself.

So for me, when a guy continues to do it over time, after marriage/kids/life/etc it's a sign of caring.



What if she's big into Zombie flicks?

I understand now. You worded it correctly I was just a little slow on the uptake. I understand your point. I'm not saying I do it all the time mind you, but I still do it on date night and stuff like that. When we are out with all 3 kids, I really don't think she expects me to do it then. An 8,7 and 4 year old are enough to worry about.

 

[twylight]

Zombies scare me.

Also, we'd go on the discussion on how I'd put 2 in her head if she became a Zombie. Not the greatest first date conversation.

Wuss.

I think that's a great first date conversation!

 

[Erzengel]

See, that's where people get into a problem. As some have noted, most chivalrous acts are part of the courtship process. Once you have the girl, some don't feel it's necessary to continue doing things like opening the car door for them etc.

I don't do the car opening as much as I use to, but mostly because when we go places, I'm loading things into the car, etc.

But I still always take her hand when we are walking anywhere that's steep, rainy or icy.