I just saw a mother tell her 1 year old to "shut the **** up"

[turtlefocker]

I saw my brother at Walmart a while back with his two kids (2yr and 4yrs), the little girl, the 4 yr old was trying to run off and not staying by the cart and my brother was yelling trying to get her to back to the cart without leaving the 2 yr old unatteded, it was a nightmare lol. So i snuck up behind the 4yr old and GRABBED her and pulled her behind a rack of clothes. She freaked out and i turned her around and told her that thats why you need to stay with your daddy in the store cuz someone might try to take her. Talk about scared straight. She hasnt run off since. And no cussing or hitting needed.

See I was right all you gotta do is

You should kidnap the child

 

[Captain_BluTac]

Oh please. I'm sitting here rolling my eyes at this thread.

Nothing annoys me more than a rotten kid kicking and screaming while the parent tries to "calmly and patiently tell them to stop"

I was about to say, that kid was luck he didn't get smacked straight across the arse, if he was being a brat, punish the little ****er!

 

[Immortalfire]

My kids know when I'm not joking in public places. One look from me... and its over. You've GOT to get the look down. Once you have the look... you're golden.

I've got the look down so good... I can do it via Skype and they are powerless.

For real. My folks would take the time to tell me why I couldn't have or do said thing...but if I got bad and persisted, they'd give me the look.


I quieted down and ended the subject.

The look is life.

 

[Raiden]

I honestly don't know why people would want more than one or two kids in this day and age. It's not like it was during the Great Depression where everyone had a bunch of kids to work the family farm. Religion is one of the main factors in driving people to have a lot of kids, I know. My brother-in-law has four of them and my brother has three and they're just constantly wiped out, driving all the kids to various activities all the time, trying to keep track of them, and spending an incredible amount of money on food, clothes and other things kids need. They're both great father's, but they honestly aren't really able to give any one kid any sort of real attention because there are so many others wanting attention as well. My wife and I were told we'd NEVER be able to even have kids, and all we ever wanted was one, which we were very lucky to be able to have despite the "experts" telling us we'd never be able to do it (I sent the b1tch doctor at the fertility clinic who wanted to do in vitro, egg donors and all kinds of other things with us, with a 15% chance they'd even work, a photo of our son and a nice note about how she was so incredibly wrong it's mind-boggling).

jag

Good for you and your wife.

 

[BlackLantern]

What can bug me is that some parents seem to think that just because they have children the world revolves around them....that us childless people are less important

 

[knowsbleed]

Examples BL?

 

[terry78]

More kids = more welfare checks, jag. Wake up and smell the government cheese.

 

[Badger]

What can bug me is that some parents seem to think that just because they have children the world revolves around them....that us childless people are less important

Hahahaha, wait, what?

 

[Hobgoblin]

Same here. My mom beat me for making C's on my report cards and even though I got a college degree because of it, it was a f-ed up way to raise a child.

Totally off subject, but your avatar has made my day.

On subject, I would hate to be a parent. Part of me would have absolutely zero patience for a whiny, screaming child that didnt know when to shut up. On the other hand, if the way I treat my cat is any indicator, I would be a total soft touch. Screaming one moment, then buying them a present the next.

But yeah, child abuse sucks.

 

[Spider-Fan]

When I was growing up, I got spankings, I even got the belt a time or two. However, the one thing that stands out more than any other is the one and only time I heard my father use the f-word. I was messing with something on a flea market table and broke it. I think I was around 15 at the time. BUt, my father took it from me, looked me in the eye, and said, "I guess you ****ed that up, huh?" That hurt me more than and whooping I'd ever received. See, in our everyday language, we use expletives to add emphasis to our statements. "Shut the "f" up," carries more weight than a simple, "Shut up."

I understand that. However, in the case of shut the f up, I don't think it is abuse. What people don't understand in this thread is there is a difference between cursing someone out and using curse words. My parents used to curse all the time (and again used to word to emphasize), and I turned out just fine. Now, what my parents never did was curse me out, in which they use the word in an insulting manner. Tone also matters, also.

Anyways, this is my opinion. You don't have to agree with it, of course.

 

[Addendum]

What can bug me is that some parents seem to think that just because they have children the world revolves around them....that us childless people are less important

When some childless people give parents advice on how to raise their children, then yes, those childless people are less important

 

[CieloAzul]

Meh, coming from a blended family, we had an ish-load of kids, and I loved it. I've just moved out on my own with my son (and an always absent roomate) and I'm totally in shock. Its weird as hell not always having someone there. So naturally growing up in a big family, I want one myself. I think there's a lot of good things that come from having a big family. Unfortunately I barely have the time or money for one let alone 6.

Me and my brother, being the two eldest children were raised differently than the rest of my siblings. I was spanked and so was my brother. We were spanked with belts because my father didn't believe in striking a child with a hand. He didn't want his children to wince everytime he brought his hand up, for whatever reason. The rest of my siblings were rarely spanked and are virtually fearless. My "step"-sister has been suspended from school and recieved a number of referrals and detentions.

A lot of people have to realize how hard it is being a parent and raising a child. Not only are you influencing your child but the rest of the world is as well. That's why there's no set formula for raising a well-behaved child. Being the eldest child, I was, in my opinion, always well-behaved. My three siblings beneathe me aren't as well behaved, my youngest sister is an absolute angel, and my youngest brother is "the baby" so... there's somewhat of an excuse for his "spoiled" nature.

But I do think that my siblings aren't completely running the streets wild, because of me ... and my younger brother because we were "well-behaved." My parents didn't "need" to spank because my brother and I were already setting an example. Do I believe in spanking? Yes. Do I believe in swearing at a child? No, but I was sweared at several times and I'm not damaged.

 

[The Apatow Crew]

Oh, so you've seen my sister then?

Cause she yells at her kid all the time and says the F word out loudly in public.

 

[bullets]

If you use the f-word constantly it loses affect . it's better to only throw it out there once in a blue moon. That says that you are really mad and people will respond to that.

 

[The Apatow Crew]

If you use the f-word constantly it loses affect . it's better to only throw it out there once in a blue moon. That says that you are really mad and people will respond to that.

My sister uses the f word every other word.

 

[Spider-Fan]

I think tone is key. If you use the f word and the right tone, then you get the desired effect no matter the frequency of your use of it.

 

[hammy]

I saw my brother at Walmart a while back with his two kids (2yr and 4yrs), the little girl, the 4 yr old was trying to run off and not staying by the cart and my brother was yelling trying to get her to back to the cart without leaving the 2 yr old unatteded, it was a nightmare lol. So i snuck up behind the 4yr old and GRABBED her and pulled her behind a rack of clothes. She freaked out and i turned her around and told her that thats why you need to stay with your daddy in the store cuz someone might try to take her. Talk about scared straight. She hasnt run off since. And no cussing or hitting needed.

Effective, and might even save her life one day.

I've noticed that most of these "so called experts" don't have children themselves, which is interesting to me.

jag

Perhaps the fact that they were once children themselves makes them feel competent to comment on such things.

I understand that. However, in the case of shut the f up, I don't think it is abuse. What people don't understand in this thread is there is a difference between cursing someone out and using curse words. My parents used to curse all the time (and again used to word to emphasize), and I turned out just fine. Now, what my parents never did was curse me out, in which they use the word in an insulting manner. Tone also matters, also.

Anyways, this is my opinion. You don't have to agree with it, of course.

I can now see this is why we disagreed, before. To me, yelling Shut the f up to a 1 year old is cursing someone out. If a dad mashed his thumb with a hammer and happens to scream out an expletive when his 8 year old son is present, that's not cursing at the son. That's just cursing because he got hurt. But to get in someones face and scream at them to Shut the f up, to me, that is cursing at them. I don't see how you could see it any other way.

In Rizzo's example, the little girl was old enough to understand the danger she was posing to herself, once Rizzo kidnapped her, so to speak. A one year old is not going to understand what Shut up means, let alone, Shut the f up. All it's going to be is his/her mommy screaming and looking mean in his face. It probably just made him cry even harder. Poor kid.

 

[DarknessOfDeath]

This woman should learn how to be compassionate ... like the woman in my avvie...

 

[IRON_Lad]

lol

 

[jaguarr]

I think tone is key. If you use the f word and the right tone, then you get the desired effect no matter the frequency of your use of it.

If you use the right tone, you don't need the F Word.

jag

 

[Spider-Fan]

If you use the right tone, you don't need the F Word.

jag

This is true, but it is habbit for me now.

I can now see this is why we disagreed, before. To me, yelling Shut the f up to a 1 year old is cursing someone out. If a dad mashed his thumb with a hammer and happens to scream out an expletive when his 8 year old son is present, that's not cursing at the son. That's just cursing because he got hurt. But to get in someones face and scream at them to Shut the f up, to me, that is cursing at them. I don't see how you could see it any other way.

In Rizzo's example, the little girl was old enough to understand the danger she was posing to herself, once Rizzo kidnapped her, so to speak. A one year old is not going to understand what Shut up means, let alone, Shut the f up. All it's going to be is his/her mommy screaming and looking mean in his face. It probably just made him cry even harder. Poor kid.

Say it enough times, the kid will have a general idea what it means. Not to knowing its definition, of course, but to learning how to react in this case.

 

[jaguarr]

Perhaps the fact that they were once children themselves makes them feel competent to comment on such things.

Having been a child does not equate to being qualified to offer parenting advice.

jag

 

[hammy]

This is true, but it is habbit for me now.
Say it enough times, the kid will have a general idea what it means. Not to knowing its definition, of course, but to learning how to react in this case.

But that would mean screaming it at them regularly.

Having been a child does not equate to being qualified to offer parenting advice.

jag

Sure it does. Not in all instances, but in some.

 

[jaguarr]

Sure it does. Not in all instances, but in some.

Yeah, no. You'll understand when you have kids some day. Seriously.

jag

 

[Spider-Fan]

But that would mean screaming it at them regularly.





Sure it does. Not in all instances, but in some.

Actually not really. Loud noises are the first thing a person is afraid of in their life, so it may only take 1 for them to get the point (depends on the kid also). But like I said, it is only in certain cases where I may end up doing that.